How long did you go without sex post-separation/divorce?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Bull crap and that is a very narrow, almost misogynistic view of women. I’m a woman and was getting laid within a week of declaring our separation. After years of a sexless marriage, I was ready to go!

Same, girl. I felt like a whole new woman.

[Anonymous]

Man here, one week. I was curious about the dating apps and got on one during a trial separation.

TBH, I sort of regret it if only because I totally lost interest in trying the trial because it seemed to be a buffet of women out there. Which it is, but as they say in the divorced dating world, the odds are good but the goods are odd. Finding a FWB is simple, a relationship is not.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:... meanwhile, all the men be like "this question does not compute"

Nah. It actually takes work for men to have sex. Can't just go into a bar and lift up your skirt like a woman can. If it's been years since you've had a first date, it's tough. And for a while, even flirting with new women makes you feel vaguely guilty like you're cheating ("wife might find out") or something. Takes time to shake off that thought pattern that got ingrained over years of marriage.

My divorce has been final for a few months, I haven't even tried yet.

What kind of bars have you been visiting?

Where are the bars where you find compatible females DTF?

I would not be DTF with anyone in a bar where women are lifting their skirts. Sounds like STD Central.

It was a figure of speech, folks. (And also one that revealed how old I am, since apparently people don't go to bars to get laid any more.) The point is that women can very easily get sex. Pretty much just walk up to any normal-looking man and ask, and there you go, itch scratched. Not quite so easy for men, alas...

I’ve never heard this figure of speech and I’m middle aged. What culture are you from?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been divorced for over a year and have not yet had sex but I will be having my third date with a guy on NYE and I will do my best to make it happen.

You go girl! I hope it will be great for you!

This thread is making me feel less of an oddity about being a divorced mom that hasn't had sex since my split in 2016
It's not that I don't want to but I am not interested in married men and I don't meet a lot of single guys in my every day life. My goal for 2020 is to change this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been divorced for over a year and have not yet had sex but I will be having my third date with a guy on NYE and I will do my best to make it happen.

You go girl! I hope it will be great for you!

This thread is making me feel less of an oddity about being a divorced mom that hasn't had sex since my split in 2016
It's not that I don't want to but I am not interested in married men and I don't meet a lot of single guys in my every day life. My goal for 2020 is to change this.

I agree. I thought I was the only one.

Also agree to the hell no on married men. Now that I am on the flip side of being cheated on by my husband, I am clear that he was the aggressor in the cheating. Married men are truly something else, so many of them are willing to cheat on their wives...

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been divorced for over a year and have not yet had sex but I will be having my third date with a guy on NYE and I will do my best to make it happen.

You go girl! I hope it will be great for you!

This thread is making me feel less of an oddity about being a divorced mom that hasn't had sex since my split in 2016
It's not that I don't want to but I am not interested in married men and I don't meet a lot of single guys in my every day life. My goal for 2020 is to change this.

I agree. I thought I was the only one.

Also agree to the hell no on married men. Now that I am on the flip side of being cheated on by my husband, I am clear that he was the aggressor in the cheating. Married men are truly something else, so many of them are willing to cheat on their wives...

Chiming in to say how shocking it is how so many married men have come out of the woods to proposition me after the divorce. Its destroyed my faith that any of them can be trusted.

Not to say I am not tempted by one in particular but I won't be a hypocrite

[Anonymous]

Last sex with a woman was with the ex-wife 7 years ago. Been divorced for 5.

[Anonymous]

Six years (man)

[Anonymous]

Op: At least I know I'm not an oddity. I thought two years without sex made me a unicorn. I didn't want to get involved with anyone throughout my separation. Now that I'm divorced I'm starting all over from scratch since I never maintained relationships with other men while married. Crazy how my ex did and has all these options and now I'm divorced and completely sexless. Such is life, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Not even two weeks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex-wife and I went 9 years without sex. I never cheated. Once my youngest reached 18, I left.

May I ask why? It sounds terrible for.both of you. Also, to repeat Op's question, when did you start having sex after.the divorce?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not even two weeks.

Tell us how you accomplished that? I want some. I’m sure several of here would. Dish the secrets.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Not even two weeks.

Tell us how you accomplished that? I want some. I’m sure several of here would. Dish the secrets.

Are you a woman? Look left, then right. See any men (especially married men)? Approach, say Hi, touch his arm, ask him to get a room.

If you are a man, then it is a bit more complicated.

[Anonymous]

I waited three years until I became an empty nester as I had no interest in dating when my children were home. Once that happened it was very easy given I’m pretty good looking, very fit and outgoing. I used a dating app and after a couple of frogs I met a nice guy who on the second date I took advantage of. After a few years of celibacy I was definitely ready. I’ve been in a relationship with a different guy for almost a year and I’m really enjoying myself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Man here, one week. I was curious about the dating apps and got on one during a trial separation.

TBH, I sort of regret it if only because I totally lost interest in trying the trial because it seemed to be a buffet of women out there. Which it is, but as they say in the divorced dating world, the odds are good but the goods are odd. Finding a FWB is simple, a relationship is not.

This is how I feel about men on the dating scene at the moment. I will stick with my situationship because y'all be strange.