I would be raising holy hell at the school until my child was placed with another teacher. And I’d make it clear that that child was never to be put with my child again. Elevated cortisol can impair cognitive function and these kids are having cortisol spikes every time this kid goes haywire. Nope nope nope nope nope. |
Then it is way beyond what a teacher with 25 other kids should have to do. If child does not have disregulation child should be out of mainstream classroom. If this is happening 3x per week clearly figuring out how to regulate the child is way beyond the scope of a teacher in a gifted or standard class with 24 other students. |
OP said this is going on in a "gifted" classroom. The disregulated child probably tests as "gifted" but clearly has exteme behavioral issues. |
Actually, no. The child in crisis is not getting the resources or attention they need, or it probably would be a different situation. The school is failing all the kids, especially that one. As a parent with a SN child, mine is a great kid, but I can tell you they completely overlook the SN and tell me my child is fine as they don't want to be bothered helping. I'd have to spend thousands for an advocate and reality is even then, it will not change as we had a good IEP and they didn't follow it. |
Having this elevated cortisol is kind of like the children being in school during wartime. I feel sad for our teachers of today and also for the 24 behaviorally regulated children who conduct themselves with socially acceptable manners. |
And, as a parent, I've been told stay out of it and let the school handle it. (of course, that's not going to happen) |
DD's class has a child who is similar. The child is 2E; quite brilliant, in fact. Last year (in third grade), the disruptions were frequent. This year, substantially less so. The kids aren't traumatized (he isn't bullying or targeting anyone; sometimes there is a flying chair, and a kid happens to be in the way), just aware of his cues, and how they need to respond.
We have talked about it at length, at home. As a group, DD and her friends also appear to have talked about it, at school. For them, it's been a good lesson in how everyone has their own burdens, strengths and weaknesses. Last year, when I asked her if there is anyone she wouldn't want in her class, this child was not the one she chose. |
Plus it teaches the other 24 children that there are no consequences to bad behavior (or disregulated behavior). The other children see that it is okay to assault the teacher and throw chairs and nothing happens other than a tour to the hallway for the behaved children. |
Gifted kids don’t always excel. Gifted kids with SN might be failing. |
Possibility that he is in AAP? |
My DS' and his friends take away (at least from what I heard from them or their parents) was that they knew they couldn't do it, but it was ok if Larla did it because of her issues. All it did was ostracize Larla further. The kids wanted nothing to do with her. And that likely just made her behavior worse. His teacher (before I got him moved from the class) said that DS pretty much just ignored the girl who had the outburts. Which is what we were happy with. But other kids were definitely mean to her because of it. I volunteer and had witnessed her outburts and some kids would roll their eyes and say "great,.the psycho is at it again". The teacher and aide were beyond frustrated and had stopped correcting them after a month. There is no good answer. The school was able to move 5 of the 16 kids out of the class before there was no room to move anyone else. The environment was not good for anyone and I do think that girl was failed by multiple people in her life. |
FCPS's solution is an isolation room. They get suspended over and over again for behavior issues, so they are being "disciplined". They are removed from the situation instead of actually getting what they need. |
Somewhat off topic but the saintly K-2 inclusion teacher left our school today in an ambulance. She has also previously had a broken wrist and countless bruises.
How is this okay?? |
It's not. I'm a nurse and see this at work too. But we are told we aren't doing the right things to de.escalate the situation. Or that they can't be held responsible because of dementia/detox/or their illness. I completely understand that certain people have difficulty controlling their behavior and I don't think those people should be excluded from society BUT there has to be something in between the inclusive/exclusive environments they are trying to do. It's not good for anyone |
Welcome to the new way of doing things. People aren't being held accountable for their actions because of whatever diagnosis they have. Scary to think what will happen when these kids grow up. The whole "people need to tolerate your behavior" can't go on forever. Personally I think it's doing these kids a major disservice. |