Your dogs are NOT members of the family

[Anonymous]

At this point, I really think I would insist that your MIL host the event at her house. This isn’t going to turn out good.

[Anonymous]

OMG they are beyond rude. Just keep repeating that it is a dog free event. If they turn up with a dog, turn them away.

Definitely stand your ground. It is up to them if they accept or decline the invitation but it is crazy of them to think they can dictate how you host.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At this point, I really think I would insist that your MIL host the event at her house. This isn’t going to turn out good.

So now the niece can't go or will go and be sick all because a few adults were acting like 2 year olds? No. They can stay home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Dear Smith Family,

We are looking forward to the BBQ. We hope this will be a fun and relaxing day for all of our family.

As you know, Kaylee is severely allergic to dogs. As the hosts, we've gone out of our way to thoroughly clean our house and board our own dog. We are dog lovers, but we love Kaylee and family even more.

There will be NO DOGS at this party. If that changes your RSVP, we understand. Anyone trying to bring their dog the day of will be politely asked to leave. This is not changing.

We look forward to seeing those of you who can make it.

Stu, Rachel and family

I love dogs, LOVE them and yes, I consider them family but I would never take them somewhere they were not invited. You are 10000% in your right to ban them. I like this ^^ very much.

Why should OP blame the allergic girl? She has said she doesn't want them to bring those dogs to her home regardless.

She just needs to tell them, "well, this is a dog free event, for several reasons. Sorry that we'll miss you!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At this point, I really think I would insist that your MIL host the event at her house. This isn’t going to turn out good.

So now the niece can't go or will go and be sick all because a few adults were acting like 2 year olds? No. They can stay home.

+1. Have husband tell MIL to shut it because allowing dogs isn’t an option.

[Anonymous]

I think you are all nuts. They are rude but I would not board my dog if hosting something in my home. I would put them upstairs in my room if its just for a couple of hours, but board them? nope.

The family with allergic niece should host and set the rules for their own house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are all nuts. They are rude but I would not board my dog if hosting something in my home. I would put them upstairs in my room if its just for a couple of hours, but board them? nope.

The family with allergic niece should host and set the rules for their own house.

Well, no one is asking you to. OP and her husband decided to board their dog because they love their niece and want her to be comfortable staying at their house. That's not "nuts," that's being a very considerate host. Apparently they don't see it as an excessive hardship. Their relatives, on the other hand, are beyond obnoxious, and OP should hope that they decide to stay home and sulk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think you are all nuts. They are rude but I would not board my dog if hosting something in my home. I would put them upstairs in my room if its just for a couple of hours, but board them? nope.

The family with allergic niece should host and set the rules for their own house.

Perhaps it's easy to board their dog - maybe they can afford to, their dog enjoys it, it's nearby...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow. All of the people who are insisting on bringing their dogs are totally out of line and disrespectful!!!!

My BIL always wants to bring his dog to everything, but also understands if we say no.

Good for you for staying strong.

+ 1,000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In our family we all bring dogs. But, we all have dogs and nobody is allergic.

Your situation sounds nuts, OP!!

I would be tempted to respond to the emails with

"We simply will not be having dogs at this event, not even my own. If that means you won't attend then perhaps we will see you next time."

This. Don’t put it on The niece. Just say no dogs. Your family is being ridiculous even if you lived far out in the country. Also I wouldn’t want to host a party where there was dog pee and poop. They WILL do that to be territorial.

[Anonymous]

OP your family sounds dysfunctional. Sorry. Coming from a dysfunctional family myself I see the dynamic. They are bullying you. And obviously they think they are in the right
You can be sure there will be drama. Perhaps you can disinvite the main bad actors by saying “I’m so sorry you won’t be able to make the party. But this is a dog free event. Perhaps we can get together another time” As in never.

[Anonymous]

Don't give in--let them figure out how to handle. If they can't board the dogs, then they just can't come. Tell they all to grow the F up.

[Anonymous]

OP, please promise to come back to this thread after the party to let us know how everything worked out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP your family sounds dysfunctional. Sorry. Coming from a dysfunctional family myself I see the dynamic. They are bullying you. And obviously they think they are in the right
You can be sure there will be drama. Perhaps you can disinvite the main bad actors by saying “I’m so sorry you won’t be able to make the party. But this is a dog free event. Perhaps we can get together another time” As in never.

I agree with the bolded. And I definitely would have the party at my house as planned - no caving.

[Anonymous]

I would send out a reminder before the event about no dogs, saying something like “l know a few of you wish you could bring your dogs, and we are sorry you cannot attend, but we have organized this as a pet-free party and most guests prefer it that way.”

By doing that, you have ensured no one can claim they thought their special dog was allowed, and the rest of the guests (eg, MIL) can be assured that there was no opportunity for confusion.