Your dogs are NOT members of the family

[Anonymous]

OP! Any family saga updates???

[Anonymous]

My MIL refuses to travel without her dog. She’ll stay with us and get mad at our cat for scaring her dog. Every time it happens I apologize on behalf of the cat and then give him extra treats and pets later.

[Anonymous]

This is the best story ice ever read. So invested. The op should update us every year on this drama.

[Anonymous]

It's almost four years since last update. Come on, Thanksgiving is just around the corner and we need some good belly busting laughs.

[Anonymous]

Your home
No dogs.

Zero room for discussion on that’s

[Anonymous]

That^

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My MIL refuses to travel without her dog. She’ll stay with us and get mad at our cat for scaring her dog. Every time it happens I apologize on behalf of the cat and then give him extra treats and pets later.

Yikes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agreed to host an upcoming extended in-law family get together at our house. Its a backyard party with grilling to celebrate five summer birthdays. Easy right.

My niece is very allergic to dogs. When SIL/BIL and their family visit I board my dog and vacuum the entire house, wash down the baseboards, dust off everything, change the air filters, and keep all the windows open. We have hardwoods and no fabric window coverings so it works and SIL is very appreciative. At other family events, several family members bring their dogs and it is very difficult for my niece. SIL is thrilled it is at our house and thanked me for sending our dog to doggie daycare for the day etc.

In the invitation I included that we would be boarding our dog and not having dogs at this event. Now the relatives who always bring their dogs are insisting that they get to bring their dogs. My cousin's wife simply responded to the email invitation with including her dog's name on the RSVP. I wrote to her telling her we wouldn't be hosting dogs and she is now mortally offended and whiny. She whined that it was too much of hardship to board her dog and that he has been welcome at other family events. At the same time, a different cousin writes to me begging me not to let that cousin's dog come to our house or they will not be going. The dog is a shepherd, husky, retriever mix that is big, not well trained, jumpy and nips. It jumped scratched and nipped her kid at one of the last events and her kids are afraid of it. I let her know that I told the other cousin not to bring the dog. She is happy but the other cousin is mad sending snotty notes.

The next dog owner is an aunt. She has informed me that she is bringing her dog. She next informs me that my allergic niece can simply stay outside because her dog is an indoor only dog and never sets foot outside. She will be bringing a playpen and pee pads to set up in her home just like she does at other events. She attached her what I'm sure is fake certificate that her dog is an emotional support animal so legally I can not bar her dog access to my home. I responded absolutely not. If she can not be away from her dog then she'll just have to miss this event.

Now the third dog owner is writing to me. He expects to bring his two huge dogs. He has apparently paired up with the cousin and was trying to explain to me that her dog will behave better with his dogs present due to pack behavior. I said no.

The three of them have now combined forces and sent an email to everyone saying how sad it is that some family members are being excluded from this event. They are responding back and forth agreeing with each other and going on how animals are family members too. I am getting email sent just to me not to the whole group from several others encouraging me not to give in and that they hate those dogs. Previous hosts are hoping this sticks because one of the dogs seems to have a pattern of pooping on outdoor rugs. None of them are brave enough to respond to all so the email invitation thread appears to be a dogs can come petition from the dog owners.

MIL is thinking that we should give in to keep the peace. DH and I now never want to see any of these dogs or their owners again. Another aunt who has a cat (and is not pushing to bring the cat) has warned me that one of them will show up with the dog anyway and we will have to be prepared to turn them away at the door. She thinks we might want to cancel and just say someone is sick. I'm not going to cancel and have no problem telling anyone who shows up with a dog that they can't come in.

Do the people in your extended family view their dogs as entitled to attend everything? Are these people just nuts?

Sorry, but this post does not seem believable to me. But, if true, the relatives insisting that they will bring their dogs are out of line & inconsiderate. And I am dog owner, but would never take my dogs toanother's home.

[Anonymous]

So the dog bringers don't care about the niece's allergies. Are people family, too?

[Anonymous]

Our DD has pretty severe cat allergies. She experiences pretty bad asthma, hives, and swollen, red, itchy eyes. It’s so uncomfortable for her to be around cats, and the only thing that helps her is Benadryl, which knocks her out.

MIL has a cat, and when we visit (local, for the afternoon) we ask something similar: please put the cat in a room for the visit, vacuum, dust, etc. If she does, DD can manage most of her symptoms with Claritin. MIL throws a HUGE fit about this, and eventually stopped accommodating. I started staying home with DD. What do you think she then started throwing a huge fit about…?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agreed to host an upcoming extended in-law family get together at our house. Its a backyard party with grilling to celebrate five summer birthdays. Easy right.

My niece is very allergic to dogs. When SIL/BIL and their family visit I board my dog and vacuum the entire house, wash down the baseboards, dust off everything, change the air filters, and keep all the windows open. We have hardwoods and no fabric window coverings so it works and SIL is very appreciative. At other family events, several family members bring their dogs and it is very difficult for my niece. SIL is thrilled it is at our house and thanked me for sending our dog to doggie daycare for the day etc.

In the invitation I included that we would be boarding our dog and not having dogs at this event. Now the relatives who always bring their dogs are insisting that they get to bring their dogs. My cousin's wife simply responded to the email invitation with including her dog's name on the RSVP. I wrote to her telling her we wouldn't be hosting dogs and she is now mortally offended and whiny. She whined that it was too much of hardship to board her dog and that he has been welcome at other family events. At the same time, a different cousin writes to me begging me not to let that cousin's dog come to our house or they will not be going. The dog is a shepherd, husky, retriever mix that is big, not well trained, jumpy and nips. It jumped scratched and nipped her kid at one of the last events and her kids are afraid of it. I let her know that I told the other cousin not to bring the dog. She is happy but the other cousin is mad sending snotty notes.

The next dog owner is an aunt. She has informed me that she is bringing her dog. She next informs me that my allergic niece can simply stay outside because her dog is an indoor only dog and never sets foot outside. She will be bringing a playpen and pee pads to set up in her home just like she does at other events. She attached her what I'm sure is fake certificate that her dog is an emotional support animal so legally I can not bar her dog access to my home. I responded absolutely not. If she can not be away from her dog then she'll just have to miss this event.

Now the third dog owner is writing to me. He expects to bring his two huge dogs. He has apparently paired up with the cousin and was trying to explain to me that her dog will behave better with his dogs present due to pack behavior. I said no.

The three of them have now combined forces and sent an email to everyone saying how sad it is that some family members are being excluded from this event. They are responding back and forth agreeing with each other and going on how animals are family members too. I am getting email sent just to me not to the whole group from several others encouraging me not to give in and that they hate those dogs. Previous hosts are hoping this sticks because one of the dogs seems to have a pattern of pooping on outdoor rugs. None of them are brave enough to respond to all so the email invitation thread appears to be a dogs can come petition from the dog owners.

MIL is thinking that we should give in to keep the peace. DH and I now never want to see any of these dogs or their owners again. Another aunt who has a cat (and is not pushing to bring the cat) has warned me that one of them will show up with the dog anyway and we will have to be prepared to turn them away at the door. She thinks we might want to cancel and just say someone is sick. I'm not going to cancel and have no problem telling anyone who shows up with a dog that they can't come in.

Do the people in your extended family view their dogs as entitled to attend everything? Are these people just nuts?

Yes you can bar her dog from your home. You are not a business. Rescind her invitation.