I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining

[Anonymous]

Come on, guys - we all are tired of the complaining. Everyone with small children is busy and tired. Yeah, it’s harder than being single. We all get it and experience it. Just buck up and be happy with your kids. I only have three kids - my mother had five. I never once heard her complain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Come on, guys - we all are tired of the complaining. Everyone with small children is busy and tired. Yeah, it’s harder than being single. We all get it and experience it. Just buck up and be happy with your kids. I only have three kids - my mother had five. I never once heard her complain.

Times have changed!! She probably didn’t play with them as much as parents do today and she probably wasn’t judged for it either.

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Anonymous wrote:this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

I dunno. With one kid you have no idea what you're getting into. With 3 you've had two to figure it out that each additional kid is a new emotional and logistical puzzle and adds to life complexity.

+1 and you are not birthing magical unicorns anymore!

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Anonymous wrote:Agree.. it does get old. Or they say it takes a village and want free help from parents with less kids - tired of the fake carpools where I do most of the work, free babysitting (if you call me and ask me to watch your kid it is babysitting), etc.

It seems unnecessary complaining isn't limited to those with three children.

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Anonymous wrote:Ha I posted a different vent recently about 3 kids and all their activities. I’m a SAHM and have a part time sitter. DH actually suggested I get full time help. I don’t need full time help. It is still a shit show getting kid(s) to sports in the middle of rush hour. I think the worst part is that we live in a highly congested traffic area. If everything were 5 minutes away, it would be fine. We have to drive 2-3 miles and it often takes 30+ minutes smack in the middle of dinner time.

Now my kids have camps and my toddler naps when they need to get picked up. I’m sure my toddler will survive getting her nap cut short.

I don’t mean to come off like I’m complaining. I also complain about traffic, heat, etc. I’m not trying to one up anyone about the number of kids and activities. I’m sure I would complain if I had one kid and had to drive in rush hour to sports too.

Full time help and being a SAHM?! Smh.

She has 3 kids... you cannot expect her to do it alone. She probably also has a housekeeper and yard service. Between mom, dad, and nanny you'd think they could figure it out. And, she probably has poor toddler in no activities so how hard can it be.

Don’t be bitter ladies. You should have chosen husbands who make more money.

+ 1

We have plenty of money, I just don’t understand how a SAHM could possibly need full time help....unless the Mom is completely helpless. Maybe the husbands should have chosen more capable wives?

It has nothing to do with being capable. It has to do with having better things to fill my time with than the endless drudgery of housework and baby care,

[Anonymous]

That was my thread! I don't mind (actually I like) having 3 kids. I was just feeling exhausted and like I was missing "the secret" to making pool time successful! Ive had a stillborn and I know the pain of NOT having a baby, I would never complain about it! Sorry if it came off that way. Just looking for logistical and practical ideas.

[Anonymous]

Man all you "suck it up" people sound exhausting and like not very good friends.

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Anonymous wrote:Man all you "suck it up" people sound exhausting and like not very good friends.

seriously! where's the empathy people?

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Anonymous wrote:Man all you "suck it up" people sound exhausting and like not very good friends.

seriously! where's the empathy people?

I have empathy, but your basic everyday logistics issues aren’t my problem.

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Anonymous wrote:Come on, guys - we all are tired of the complaining. Everyone with small children is busy and tired. Yeah, it’s harder than being single. We all get it and experience it. Just buck up and be happy with your kids. I only have three kids - my mother had five. I never once heard her complain.

Times have changed!! She probably didn’t play with them as much as parents do today and she probably wasn’t judged for it either.

oh well, as you said yourself, times have changed. Suck it up buttercup.

[Anonymous]

I guess what I don't understand about the complainers is - how did you not realize it was going to be like this?

Each child is a lot of work. They have needs that must be met. Obviously. Any parent of one knows this. Multiply by 3 or 4 and yeah, it gets a lot harder each time you add to your family. There is way more juggling that needs to be done between only 2 parents.

What did you think it was going to be like?

This is coming from a mom of 4 who never complains.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I guess what I don't understand about the complainers is - how did you not realize it was going to be like this?

Each child is a lot of work. They have needs that must be met. Obviously. Any parent of one knows this. Multiply by 3 or 4 and yeah, it gets a lot harder each time you add to your family. There is way more juggling that needs to be done between only 2 parents.

What did you think it was going to be like?

This is coming from a mom of 4 who never complains.

I honestly don't buy this bull. Maybe you don't complain on DCUM, but I bet you anything you've bitched to your husband/mom/best friend at SOME point in your parenting life about the misery of parenting. Please STHU.

[Anonymous]

The pool mom was asking for ideas/stories. She wasn't dropping off her kid on anyones doorstep. So moms of 3 can't verbally express their problems?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The pool mom was asking for ideas/stories. She wasn't dropping off her kid on anyones doorstep. So moms of 3 can't verbally express their problems?

no, no one cares

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:s/o from the pool life thread. But it extends everywhere. You had three kids by choice. You knew what the repercussions would be for your kids and yourselves. Not as many activities, harder in public places in the younger years etc. You can’t make the defining soccer game because one parent has to travel and you don’t arrange backup? Then don’t sign up for the team, and don’t complain when the coach only selects the “committed” players to move up. It’s your kids that are suffering. Either manage it or don’t but stop complaining about your own choices. Rant over.

No. People don't know what they're getting into when they have kids, much less when they have three or more kids. The lack of knowing what lies ahead doesn't give them permission to whine, but it's important to admit that nobody knows the "repercussions" of having kids until they have them. At least admit that part.