I’m so freaking tired of parents with 3+ kids complaining

[Anonymous]

s/o from the pool life thread. But it extends everywhere. You had three kids by choice. You knew what the repercussions would be for your kids and yourselves. Not as many activities, harder in public places in the younger years etc. You can’t make the defining soccer game because one parent has to travel and you don’t arrange backup? Then don’t sign up for the team, and don’t complain when the coach only selects the “committed” players to move up. It’s your kids that are suffering. Either manage it or don’t but stop complaining about your own choices. Rant over.

[Anonymous]

Agree.. it does get old. Or they say it takes a village and want free help from parents with less kids - tired of the fake carpools where I do most of the work, free babysitting (if you call me and ask me to watch your kid it is babysitting), etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree.. it does get old. Or they say it takes a village and want free help from parents with less kids - tired of the fake carpools where I do most of the work, free babysitting (if you call me and ask me to watch your kid it is babysitting), etc.

It seems unnecessary complaining isn't limited to those with three children.

[Anonymous]

Seriously, she had it made by this summer, but she messed it up by having a baby. Of course the pool
Won’t be fun with a 5 month old!

[Anonymous]

You guys need to grow up.

If you don’t want to help someone else, use your big girl words and say “That doesn’t work for me.” If you’re having a conversation and someone else is complaining too much, end the conversation “It’s been nice catching up, but I need to get going now” then leave.

It really is that simple. Time to be an adult. If you don’t like the choices you’re making about YOUR life, make different ones. Nobody is forcing you to babysit someone else’s kid or listen to them complain. You’re choosing that. Own your choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys need to grow up.

If you don’t want to help someone else, use your big girl words and say “That doesn’t work for me.” If you’re having a conversation and someone else is complaining too much, end the conversation “It’s been nice catching up, but I need to get going now” then leave.

It really is that simple. Time to be an adult. If you don’t like the choices you’re making about YOUR life, make different ones. Nobody is forcing you to babysit someone else’s kid or listen to them complain. You’re choosing that. Own your choices.

I think we all agree here. Own your choices.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, she had it made by this summer, but she messed it up by having a baby. Of course the pool
Won’t be fun with a 5 month old!

I didn’t really think she was complaining exactly, more looking for advice, but I also didn’t tell her it may be worse next summer with a mobile toddler unless the then 5 y/o is a good swimmer and / or pretty tall in the 3 feet area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:s/o from the pool life thread. But it extends everywhere. You had three kids by choice. You knew what the repercussions would be for your kids and yourselves. Not as many activities, harder in public places in the younger years etc. You can’t make the defining soccer game because one parent has to travel and you don’t arrange backup? Then don’t sign up for the team, and don’t complain when the coach only selects the “committed” players to move up. It’s your kids that are suffering. Either manage it or don’t but stop complaining about your own choices. Rant over.

(Why so bitter? And no, I don’t have 3 kids.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Seriously, she had it made by this summer, but she messed it up by having a baby. Of course the pool
Won’t be fun with a 5 month old!

I didn’t really think she was complaining exactly, more looking for advice, but I also didn’t tell her it may be worse next summer with a mobile toddler unless the then 5 y/o is a good swimmer and / or pretty tall in the 3 feet area.

Yeah I think 5 months is easier than a toddler (child depending of course).

[Anonymous]

this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:s/o from the pool life thread. But it extends everywhere. You had three kids by choice. You knew what the repercussions would be for your kids and yourselves. Not as many activities, harder in public places in the younger years etc. You can’t make the defining soccer game because one parent has to travel and you don’t arrange backup? Then don’t sign up for the team, and don’t complain when the coach only selects the “committed” players to move up. It’s your kids that are suffering. Either manage it or don’t but stop complaining about your own choices. Rant over.

(Why so bitter? And no, I don’t have 3 kids.)

Not sure you understand the definition of bitter.

[Anonymous]

Yikes. See a therapist. This is not a healthy mindset.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You guys need to grow up.

If you don’t want to help someone else, use your big girl words and say “That doesn’t work for me.” If you’re having a conversation and someone else is complaining too much, end the conversation “It’s been nice catching up, but I need to get going now” then leave.

It really is that simple. Time to be an adult. If you don’t like the choices you’re making about YOUR life, make different ones. Nobody is forcing you to babysit someone else’s kid or listen to them complain. You’re choosing that. Own your choices.

Lol. You’re the person with a brood that whines.
Sorry sometimes you can’t get away from it. My brother and SIL have 5 kids (by choice) and whine incessantly about not being able to afford a house, newish cars, vacations that don’t involve sleeping on a cousins floor.
The icing on the cake is how they complain that people that post on FB about vacations and fun birthday parties are deemed "trying to shame them".

[Anonymous]

I’m more tired of working parents complaining.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:this is such bizarre logic to me. Can no one complain, in this case? When a mom of 1, a newborn, complains that she is tired, is your response "well, YOU chose to have a baby. Either manage it or don't but stop complaining about your choices. You knew what the repercussions would be." When someone says "oh my gosh it's so hot out" is your response "either managing living in a hot city or don't but stop complaining about your own choices."

I dunno. With one kid you have no idea what you're getting into. With 3 you've had two to figure it out that each additional kid is a new emotional and logistical puzzle and adds to life complexity.