IL’s kid is a nightmare and I don’t want him back at our house.

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like they are not going to parent him, so you shouldin your home. This will cause tension. When he’s jumping on the couch: Johnny, we don’t jump in furniture. Please stop. If he gets near the baby, swoop in. We just touch the feet.

Agree it’s your house, it’s okay for you to discipline or correct. But I do think you need your husband on board to avoid sending mixed messages.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

No one is saying she had to, but she’s had some time to process the situation and she wants to banish the child. All she had to do was speak up at the time or tell her husband to do so. Her reaction is over the top.

It sounds as though she did speak up when the boy was being wild around her newborn and the boy *did not listen*. Op also put her pets outside when the boy would not leave them alone. She likely said something when he barged into the room while she was breastfeeding.

She *did* speak up, she simply didn't scold the kid or confront the parents over their kid's misbehavior. She is now considering not ever inviting them back. Can't say that I blame her.

Hmmm...wonder how her husband would feel about that.

When he progresses to breaking the baby's toys and pushing the baby down to get what he wants will that still be o.k.? He is not magically going to stop being rough, wild and out of control.

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Park him in front of the tv next time. If his parents are not going to parent him, then they likely won’t care if he just gets screen time

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

No one is saying she had to, but she’s had some time to process the situation and she wants to banish the child. All she had to do was speak up at the time or tell her husband to do so. Her reaction is over the top.

It sounds as though she did speak up when the boy was being wild around her newborn and the boy *did not listen*. Op also put her pets outside when the boy would not leave them alone. She likely said something when he barged into the room while she was breastfeeding.

She *did* speak up, she simply didn't scold the kid or confront the parents over their kid's misbehavior. She is now considering not ever inviting them back. Can't say that I blame her.

Hmmm...wonder how her husband would feel about that.

When he progresses to breaking the baby's toys and pushing the baby down to get what he wants will that still be o.k.? He is not magically going to stop being rough, wild and out of control.

Who said that this is ok?

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Since this is your nephew and presumably he will come over again, I would get a toy he can play with while he’s in your home. Hot Wheels tracks and cars serve a wide age range and aren’t too expensive.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

Neither do you.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

Neither do you.

She just gave birth. Yes, she is tired and sore. Duh.

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Your husband is free to invite the boy over but your husband needs to follow that kid like a hawk and make sure that he stays entertained. Do not expect that the kid's parents will ever reciprocate though. They won't.

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Anonymous wrote:Since this is your nephew and presumably he will come over again, I would get a toy he can play with while he’s in your home. Hot Wheels tracks and cars serve a wide age range and aren’t too expensive.

This or the suggestion that you put him in front of the TV.
Another option if you have an iPad is to download kid-friendly apps he can play with.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

Neither do you.

She just gave birth. Yes, she is tired and sore. Duh.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

Neither do you.

She just gave birth. Yes, she is tired and sore. Duh.

Your eye rolling is just pain weird. I suppose you birthed your baby and got right back out there plowing the fields, right?

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Wait to have him over again until your baby is 4-6months. I found that I wasn't at all tolerant of any kind of chaos until my son was out of the newborn phase, and it got easier to be around older kids around 4-6 months. The 4yo isn't horrible, and his parents were probably thrilled to see you and the baby, and 4yo got bored out his mind. Not the end of the world, but try to be understanding cause your child is unlikely to be well behaved at 4.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

Before too long she's going to be the MOM of that rambunctious toddler and just have had another baby - it doesn't make you a complete invalid who can't use your words or ask other adults for help.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

Neither do you.

She just gave birth. Yes, she is tired and sore. Duh.

Your eye rolling is just pain weird. I suppose you birthed your baby and got right back out there plowing the fields, right?

I'm not the quoted but I'm rolling my eyes too - I sure as hell was PARENTING a toddler of my own when I just had a baby and brought him home.

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Anonymous wrote:The child is FOUR. You had to have an idea of his energy level before inviting him/his family to your home.

Yes, wait a few years OP and you’ll be experiencing similar energy levels with your child. The real nightmare here is all of the adults. Your ILs should have controlled their child and brought toys. You and your husband should have put the pets out of harm’s way and spoken up. You should have locked the door when you were nursing. Some children become overstimulated in a new environments and act in ways they wouldn’t normally behave. It also sounds as if you don’t really like other people’s children. You need to be a little more flexible. We were in a similar situation with some friends recently with our two and four year olds, but they have tons of toys, so our children enjoyed themselves and had fun with their pets. We also kept an eye on them.

This is how brats are raised.

If you can’t keep your 4 year old from acting like a terror at people’s houses then DONT bring them out. If your kids won’t behave without toys then it’s your responsibility to bring the toys. You don’t just shrug and say “boys will be boys” as they jump all over furniture and harass the pets.

I say this as a parent of 4 and 2 year old boys.

Whatever you say, Sanctimommy. I didn’t say this behavior was ok. Try to read more carefully next time. I said the adults were misbehaving.

The parents of that boy should have been supervising their child. Op is a new mom with a brand new baby - she just got out of the hospital for goodness sake.

She had a baby. It wasn’t the end of the world.

You have no idea how the birth went for Op. But if she is sore and tired (like most new moms) she probably shouldn't be expected to ride herd on a visitor's misbehaved child.

Neither do you.

She just gave birth. Yes, she is tired and sore. Duh.

Your eye rolling is just pain weird. I suppose you birthed your baby and got right back out there plowing the fields, right?

I'm not the quoted but I'm rolling my eyes too - I sure as hell was PARENTING a toddler of my own when I just had a baby and brought him home.

I had a 2 1/2 year old when my second was born. I was still sore and tired and I would have resented the heck out of some clueless relative bringing their ill mannered kid over to my house for me to watch while they sat around and ignored him like they were on some kind of break.