The "C" word

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?

Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!

"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...

Is this OP? Goodness, he sounds awful.

Yes I am OP, those are all texts Ive hsd or things hes said.

Is this the only thing that he does wrong? You like him, he treats you well, you have good chemistry, he’s kind, sex is good, see a future, etc.?
If so, I would bring it up, but it wouldn’t be a dealbreaker. Just eye roll worthy. No one is 100% perfect. This is a small issue in the big scheme of things. Don’t know if I would run from this if everything else looked bright. I don’t mind dirty talk.

Yes to all those things, which is why I've let it go as long as it has and haven't brought it up.

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As a guy, I just never hear or see this word used at all in porn or guy talk or anything. How old is he and is he non-American? Something seems odd about any guy using this word because it's just so not used anywhere anymore in any context.

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Anonymous wrote:As a guy, I just never hear or see this word used at all in porn or guy talk or anything. How old is he and is he non-American? Something seems odd about any guy using this word because it's just so not used anywhere anymore in any context.

Yeah, this. The whole thing seems really weird.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, what word would you prefer he use when talking about your genitalia? Real question, no snark.

That snappy nappy dugout?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?

Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!

"Send me some pics of you C***"
"Last night was great, your C*** felt so good"
"I cant wait to c** in you C*** tonight"
"Is your C*** still out of service"
"I want to f*** your C*** all weekend"
"Your C*** tastes great"
Etc..etc...

This would be hot from a f- buddy if he swapped the P word for the C word. Although I grew up in a British environment, I still recoil at the C word in all contexts. He's clearly using it the way some people (me) use the P word, thinking it's hot or dirty or whatever, and if you haven't objected to it and continue to have sex with him, he probably thinks it turns you on. Speak up. Tell him you don't like it and tell him what you'd prefer.

This. Tell him! It’s not a relationship if you can’t tell him things that you feel. “Hey babe, I love how hot you are for me, but I’ve never liked that word. Can you use p*ssy (or whatever) instead?

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Anonymous wrote:As a guy, I just never hear or see this word used at all in porn or guy talk or anything. How old is he and is he non-American? Something seems odd about any guy using this word because it's just so not used anywhere anymore in any context.

Yeah, this. The whole thing seems really weird.

Agree. It’s just not a word you hear, except from dipshits like Tucker Carlson.

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I'm a guy. I don't think what he said is that bad. It's different if you're being difficult, and he calls you a c__t to describe how horrible you're being. But even then, it's just a word. I think there is a difference between derogative uses of the word and sexual uses. If he's just describing a part of your anatomy, I'd give him a break, and discuss with him that you don't like it.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

I do know that word and it’s just not the same. Neither is c-ck. Neither of those are really a true parallel. The male c word is maybe more like the female p word, which is OK with me. The female c word is just different sorry.

Yeah, that's nice of you to say but you are going to have to explain it. You and the person that compared it to the "N" word are going to have to show your work. I'm not buying what you are selling.

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Anonymous wrote:What about Whisker Biscuit, Furry Furnace... better?

You are awesome. I laughed my ass off.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

I do know that word and it’s just not the same. Neither is c-ck. Neither of those are really a true parallel. The male c word is maybe more like the female p word, which is OK with me. The female c word is just different sorry.

Yeah, that's nice of you to say but you are going to have to explain it. You and the person that compared it to the "N" word are going to have to show your work. I'm not buying what you are selling.

S/he’s right about how these words are commonly used. In the US, the female c* word is much more crass than the male c* word when these are used anatomically (unless, obviously, both partners agree). And (maybe because) it’s on par with, or worse than, calling a woman a b* when referring to a person. The Brits use it more, but if you watch someone like Ricky Gervais do stand up, he doesn’t use it as a fond term of endearment. Also, nobody cares if you “buy what she’s selling,” but we will look down on you for using the female c* word freely.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

I do know that word and it’s just not the same. Neither is c-ck. Neither of those are really a true parallel. The male c word is maybe more like the female p word, which is OK with me. The female c word is just different sorry.

Yeah, that's nice of you to say but you are going to have to explain it. You and the person that compared it to the "N" word are going to have to show your work. I'm not buying what you are selling.

S/he’s right about how these words are commonly used. In the US, the female c* word is much more crass than the male c* word when these are used anatomically (unless, obviously, both partners agree). And (maybe because) it’s on par with, or worse than, calling a woman a b* when referring to a person. The Brits use it more, but if you watch someone like Ricky Gervais do stand up, he doesn’t use it as a fond term of endearment. Also, nobody cares if you “buy what she’s selling,” but we will look down on you for using the female c* word freely.

Everyone keeps saying things like "much more crass". How so? Please explain.

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It’s a disgusting, crass word. Is he very uneducated? I would wonder where on earth he got the idea that is acceptable (or somehow sexy?!) to repeatedly use it to reference a vagina. What a weirdo.

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

I do know that word and it’s just not the same. Neither is c-ck. Neither of those are really a true parallel. The male c word is maybe more like the female p word, which is OK with me. The female c word is just different sorry.

Yeah, that's nice of you to say but you are going to have to explain it. You and the person that compared it to the "N" word are going to have to show your work. I'm not buying what you are selling.

S/he’s right about how these words are commonly used. In the US, the female c* word is much more crass than the male c* word when these are used anatomically (unless, obviously, both partners agree). And (maybe because) it’s on par with, or worse than, calling a woman a b* when referring to a person. The Brits use it more, but if you watch someone like Ricky Gervais do stand up, he doesn’t use it as a fond term of endearment. Also, nobody cares if you “buy what she’s selling,” but we will look down on you for using the female c* word freely.

Everyone keeps saying things like "much more crass". How so? Please explain.

It's typically used as a harsh insult that's why it's more crass. I'll use it to put down another male. Joe stop acting like a little c**t. Along the same lines as calling a guy a co*k sucker

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But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

I do know that word and it’s just not the same. Neither is c-ck. Neither of those are really a true parallel. The male c word is maybe more like the female p word, which is OK with me. The female c word is just different sorry.

Yeah, that's nice of you to say but you are going to have to explain it. You and the person that compared it to the "N" word are going to have to show your work. I'm not buying what you are selling.

S/he’s right about how these words are commonly used. In the US, the female c* word is much more crass than the male c* word when these are used anatomically (unless, obviously, both partners agree). And (maybe because) it’s on par with, or worse than, calling a woman a b* when referring to a person. The Brits use it more, but if you watch someone like Ricky Gervais do stand up, he doesn’t use it as a fond term of endearment. Also, nobody cares if you “buy what she’s selling,” but we will look down on you for using the female c* word freely.

Everyone keeps saying things like "much more crass". How so? Please explain.

What’s the point in continuing to explain to someone who seems to willfully not understand? Multiple people on this thread are saying the same thing. That this term iis pejorative in the extreme. That clearly shows it is not some obscure opinion and maybe you should take a step back and consider that.

The closest male equivalent would maybe be pr!ck, in that it is also a term used almost exclusively in the US to refer to a person in a nagative manner. I’d contend it still doesn’t carry the same “stigma” if you will.