The "C" word

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

NP. I get what PP is asking. It’s a good point. Many dirty talkers don’t say “vagina” and “penis” during sex. That’s clinical. You say “d”, “c”, etc. PP is saying it’s not so obscene to say “p-“ or “c-“ to refer to a vagina during sex. I want to (explicit explicit explicit) your ... vulva?

[Anonymous]

Perfectly good AngloSaxon word to describe the organ. And, unlike vagina, it is accurate.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t tolerate it for an f—ing minute. Seriously, vulgarity is a huge turnoff for me in or out of bed.

[Anonymous]

Run, OP, run!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

I do know that word and it’s just not the same. Neither is c-ck. Neither of those are really a true parallel. The male c word is maybe more like the female p word, which is OK with me. The female c word is just different sorry.

[Anonymous]

What about Whisker Biscuit, Furry Furnace... better?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about Whisker Biscuit, Furry Furnace... better?

Reminds me of the old George Carlin set. Just pulled it up for a good life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn’t tolerate it for an f—ing minute. Seriously, vulgarity is a huge turnoff for me in or out of bed.

So no dirty talk for you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

But there IS a male parallel! Haven't you ever heard someone called a d? And lots of people also use that word to refer to male genitalia.

But, it’s not really parallel because when you call a man a d*k, it doesn’t have the same impact either personally or culturally, while calling a woman the b* or c* word has a worse impact because women are not culturall allowed to be b* or c* while men are. See, for example, the current Klobuchar debate. Men don’t suffer (and aren’t ebven called out for) bad/angry behavior, while women are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been seeing this guy since just after the new year. He is really good looking, smart, successful snd treats me really well. I pretty much like everything about him. EXCEPT... he uses the C word a lot!

Whenever he references my girl part, whether its in bed, in conversation or by text, no matter what we are doing it is always "your c***". It makes me cringe whenever I hear it.

It doesn't seem like its a big deal to him, it just rolls off his tongue like its a normal word.

Am I being oversensitive?

just say you don't like that word and tell him the word you prefer. I'm sure he'll stop if you do that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

love, love, love the word and the way its thrown around in British society. If it weren't for brexit, I might consider moving to England.

[Anonymous]

I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've been seeing this guy since just after the new year. He is really good looking, smart, successful snd treats me really well. I pretty much like everything about him. EXCEPT... he uses the C word a lot!

Whenever he references my girl part, whether its in bed, in conversation or by text, no matter what we are doing it is always "your c***". It makes me cringe whenever I hear it.

It doesn't seem like its a big deal to him, it just rolls off his tongue like its a normal word.

Am I being oversensitive?

So he's good looking, smart and successful. Does that mean you're afraid to ask him to stop using that word? Grow up and tell him what you want. Stop being afraid to lose him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm confused. OP, can you provide some examples of how he uses it with you in conversation? Is he like...Hey honey, I can't wait to see your C tonight? and then in bed....something like...bring your C over here?

Yes, this. I’m having trouble understanding the context in which he’s using it and how it’s so often!