The "C" word

[Anonymous]

My DW uses it in bed in the right context and to describe someone who is crass, rude and just a terrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does he watch a lot of porn?

I'm not totally against porn, but I feel like this kind of behavior is evident of a generation of males who don't understand that Porn Is Not Real Life, and think that women like to be talked or treated a certain way in bed.

Interesting point.

[Anonymous]

“Can we talk? I love you and you know I’m far from being a prude but there is something very off putting to me about the word ‘c’. You use it so freely but I’d much rather you call it ‘x’. I think we could come up with something sexy for ‘x’. I should have said this sooner but wanted to tell you how I feel”.

[Anonymous]

This would bother me too, mainly because it’s a word that generally had a negative connotation. It’s a name we call someone when they aren’t being very nice. Nothing abiut that is a turn on - quite the opposite. I’d find a light-hearted way to mention it. If you use that term to refer to my body, I’ll see you next Tuesday!

[Anonymous]

OP, what word would you prefer he use when talking about your genitalia? Real question, no snark.

[Anonymous]

Disgusting word that communicates a lot about how someone feels about women and this body part. I'd drop a man who used it even once.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Disgusting word that communicates a lot about how someone feels about women and this body part. I'd drop a man who used it even once.

I think I would too.
I’d definitely recoil and say something. And if it was used again that would be that.
What a hideous word to use to describe a woman, let alone in an intimate setting with someone you care about.

[Anonymous]

I'm floored that this happens regularly and you've kept quiet. Are your communication skills with him otherwise healthy?

[Anonymous]

Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does he watch a lot of porn?

I'm not totally against porn, but I feel like this kind of behavior is evident of a generation of males who don't understand that Porn Is Not Real Life, and think that women like to be talked or treated a certain way in bed.

Interesting point.

+1. Guessing he’s a big porn consumer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

Honestly, I associate it more with calling a person that, rather than as genital slang. It is such a crass curse word that I didn’t even hear it spoken until I was in high school, well after learning (and using) all other swear words. It is like the n-word for females here. It would be a deal breaker for me, I’m just a prude like that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Serious question. I'm posting from the UK, where this word is used a lot. I know Americans have a reaction to it they don't seem to have for slang words for male genitalia.

Why is this word so bad? For those of you who view it as something particularly obscene, do you use terms for male genitalia to refer to your husband/bf's genitalia, or to indicate that a man is being not-so-nice?

I don't think it's any worse (or better) than calling someone a 'bitch' - but you don't call women a bitch during sex, do you? At least not without going over it with the person ahead of time, and with some role-playing or something.

No, but he's not calling her a c. He's using the word to refer to her genitalia. Do you use clinical terms for your husband's genitalia during sex, then?

DP not sure what you consider “clinical” terms? At any rate I don’t hurl insults at my husband’s genitalia which is what this term has become. It’s not about “obscenity” it is about how extremely negative the connotation is. The fact that there isn’t a male parallel is a whole separate issue I’d guess.

[Anonymous]

Do you call his “cock”? I bet he’d love it.