The "C" word

[Anonymous]

Every definition you see, no matter where you look it up says:
Female genitals
Some definitions stop there. Others mention vulgarity and negative connotations. I don't understand why it is much more offensive than c**k, d**k, PR**k, c***sucker, motherf***er, etc

To use the above example, prick (and d**k) have mostly negative connotations other than their association to the male genitals. I find neither offensive. If a woman asked my to show her my prick so she could taste it, I wouldn't hesitate. I'd be grateful, not offended. So when her boyfriend tells her how great her female genitals taste, he's complimenting her and not using the word in a negative manner. Aren't we grown enough to understand the two meanings and differentiate between them?

[Anonymous]

And that is why you won’t get it. No one is talking about the dictionary (except you). You have multiple people trying to reasonably tell you something is perjorative, crass, vulgar, offensive. Your only response is to quote the dictionary and to point out you are not offended. It’s great you’re not offended. Others still are.

Aren’t you grown up enough to realize that just because you don’t find a term (that has nothing to do with you or your body) offensive, it still might be offensive? Aren’t you grown up enough to realize if multiple peole share this view, there is clearly something to it whether you agree or not?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Every definition you see, no matter where you look it up says:
Female genitals
Some definitions stop there. Others mention vulgarity and negative connotations. I don't understand why it is much more offensive than c**k, d**k, PR**k, c***sucker, motherf***er, etc

To use the above example, prick (and d**k) have mostly negative connotations other than their association to the male genitals. I find neither offensive. If a woman asked my to show her my prick so she could taste it, I wouldn't hesitate. I'd be grateful, not offended. So when her boyfriend tells her how great her female genitals taste, he's complimenting her and not using the word in a negative manner. Aren't we grown enough to understand the two meanings and differentiate between them?

Language is not always clear cut. The way it evolves is not necessarily entirely logical. Why is f-g a terrible pajorative while 'qu--r' became a rallying cry and mostly acceptable? There is no logical reason behind that. Why is the n word unspeakable but 'ghetto' still semi on the table? Words evolve to have subtext over generations and different levels of acceptability.

People form opinions to words based on how they encounter them over the course of their life. In America, the c word is a BAD word. It is worse than b--ch. You know that because people aren't throwing the c word around in movies. And generally we accept that just like f-g has a different meaning in the UK, the c word does to. A nuance of language.

It doesn't matter if it makes sense to you because if you start walking around calling women c-words you're going to face some pretty dramatic social consequences. And clearly you would probably turn off american sexual partners. Do with that what you will.

OP as others have said, tell him about it. See what he says, determine your course of action based on his reaction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Every definition you see, no matter where you look it up says:
Female genitals
Some definitions stop there. Others mention vulgarity and negative connotations. I don't understand why it is much more offensive than c**k, d**k, PR**k, c***sucker, motherf***er, etc

To use the above example, prick (and d**k) have mostly negative connotations other than their association to the male genitals. I find neither offensive. If a woman asked my to show her my prick so she could taste it, I wouldn't hesitate. I'd be grateful, not offended. So when her boyfriend tells her how great her female genitals taste, he's complimenting her and not using the word in a negative manner. Aren't we grown enough to understand the two meanings and differentiate between them?

Language is not always clear cut. The way it evolves is not necessarily entirely logical. Why is f-g a terrible pajorative while 'qu--r' became a rallying cry and mostly acceptable? There is no logical reason behind that. Why is the n word unspeakable but 'ghetto' still semi on the table? Words evolve to have subtext over generations and different levels of acceptability.

People form opinions to words based on how they encounter them over the course of their life. In America, the c word is a BAD word. It is worse than b--ch. You know that because people aren't throwing the c word around in movies. And generally we accept that just like f-g has a different meaning in the UK, the c word does to. A nuance of language.

It doesn't matter if it makes sense to you because if you start walking around calling women c-words you're going to face some pretty dramatic social consequences. And clearly you would probably turn off american sexual partners. Do with that what you will.

OP as others have said, tell him about it. See what he says, determine your course of action based on his reaction.

+100. It’s about usage, not about some dry dictionary definition. In the US, c*t is a lot worse than b*t.

[Anonymous]

C@#! has a more sinister/hateful connotation in the U.S.

I don't personally have an issue with it's use, and have been known to say it when the occasion calls for it (though not in reference to genitalia! More to describe a truly horrible person.)

I think that is the issue, even as a woman, I admit I use this term to speak ill of other women. It is reserved for the worst of the worst, and people use it as ammo to hurt or shock someone. So unfortunately there is a bit of a Misogynist vibe when using the term in the U.S.- we use it to really gut someone .

[Anonymous]

It’s hot during sex, especially when she uses it.

[Anonymous]

You still haven’t said what term you’d prefer he used.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s a disgusting, crass word. Is he very uneducated? I would wonder where on earth he got the idea that is acceptable (or somehow sexy?!) to repeatedly use it to reference a vagina. What a weirdo.

To many of us, it is sexy.

-highly educated woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a disgusting, crass word. Is he very uneducated? I would wonder where on earth he got the idea that is acceptable (or somehow sexy?!) to repeatedly use it to reference a vagina. What a weirdo.

To many of us, it is sexy.

-highly educated woman

Nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a disgusting, crass word. Is he very uneducated? I would wonder where on earth he got the idea that is acceptable (or somehow sexy?!) to repeatedly use it to reference a vagina. What a weirdo.

To many of us, it is sexy.

-highly educated woman

Okay. Well don’t use it to others, you sound low class and uneducated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s a disgusting, crass word. Is he very uneducated? I would wonder where on earth he got the idea that is acceptable (or somehow sexy?!) to repeatedly use it to reference a vagina. What a weirdo.

To many of us, it is sexy.

-highly educated woman

Okay. Well don’t use it to others, you sound low class and uneducated.

And you sound like a smarmy priss who’s a barrel of laughs in bed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is the C word “can’t?”

Substitute a u for the a and remove the apostrophe

[Anonymous]

Did not look at this thread but do people refer cock to something else?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did not look at this thread but do people refer cock to something else?

If you did not look at this thread you are not allowed to comment, especially if your comment makes no sense.

[Anonymous]

I think my lady parts would turn into a c*nt if he used that word consistently.