DH having an attitude after strip club

[Anonymous]

Also, OP, I am sorry some of us have derailed your thread!

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Anonymous wrote:I have a hard (heh) time thinking every stripper is an Ivy Leaguer with no issues about men at all.

And hearts of gold. Essentially, smarter, more successful versions of Julia Roberts.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with PP that it is a foul industry that exploits women. I have nothing against the women. In fact I feel sorry for them that they were exploited and somehow felt the only way they could make money was to sell their bodies/remove their clothes for money. This industry objectifies women. It's bad for the feminists movement. Women and men shouldn't have to sell their bodies to make a decent living.

Didn’t you read? It’s a 6-figure option for paying your way through Dartmouth.

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You are entitled to your feelings. If you didn't like it, you are well within your rights to make that known. Maybe finding out what he liked about it so much would be a good start. What is missing in his life that is somehow fulfilled by strange scantily clad women gyrating on him? Maybe one time just to experience it is okay, but anything beyond that followed by an invalidation of your feelings perhaps should be questioned.

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Anonymous wrote:Terrible idea to go at all.

+1.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you go to Camelot?

I knew girls who worked there in the late 90s. They were cool girls. Troubled, but cool. You should hear what strippers think of people who go to clubs.

LOL you should try to imagine how much I care about the good opinion of stupid sluts who dance naked for money.

Not stupid, and not sluts. One ended up with an advanced degree from an ivy. All married well and are financially set after white collar careers.

They were however very comfortable being naked. Super comfortable. I had to remind them to cover up when we were staying at a beach house together and my fiancée and his friends were with us. But these girls did not sleep around.

You people should know that your white collar husbands who work downtown throw around a lot of cash during the day at Camelot. It's pathetic.

Uh huh. Sure they aren't stupid sluts. If you believe that, you'll believe anything.

They are messed up in the head. They were abused as children, and seek out abusive relationships as adults. They associate with scum. They sleep with scum. Many of them are addicts. The fantasy that they went on to Ivy League educations, white collar jobs, and stable marriages in the suburbs is just that, an inane fantasy.

Stop trying to normalize a foul industry that exploits women.

Man what did a stripper ever do to you? Sounds like this is pretty personal for you Pp. Maybe seek therapy?

+1

I hate the demonization of adult entertainers and sex workers and wonder if any of these posters actually know any. This derision is anti-feminist. Save the rage for real victims of human trafficking. Not all sex workers are being held against their will, but I realize that suits the agenda of so many posters here.

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Anonymous wrote:You are entitled to your feelings. If you didn't like it, you are well within your rights to make that known. Maybe finding out what he liked about it so much would be a good start. What is missing in his life that is somehow fulfilled by strange scantily clad women gyrating on him? Maybe one time just to experience it is okay, but anything beyond that followed by an invalidation of your feelings perhaps should be questioned.

You honestly can’t figure out what a typical man likes about a physically attractive naked skank rubbing herself and sitting on him etc? Really?

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I think we get it. Maybe calling her a skank is the part we don’t get.

It’s like loving dark chocolate and calling it shit.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you go to Camelot?

I knew girls who worked there in the late 90s. They were cool girls. Troubled, but cool. You should hear what strippers think of people who go to clubs.

LOL you should try to imagine how much I care about the good opinion of stupid sluts who dance naked for money.

Ok, wow. Former dancer here. I now have a family and professional job, and you would never, ever know about my past employment. Women I worked with are now lawyers, real estate agents, computer programmers, librarians, social workers, nurses, etc. Honestly everyone reading this thread probably knows a former dancer and has no idea, so I would watch it with sentiments like this. Most women who work in strip clubs aren't "stupid sluts", in my experience it was usually college students and moms who wanted to work three days a week and spend the rest of the time with their kids. I for one am one of the only people I know that didn't have family pay for college and has no student loans. So.

On to what dancers think of customers. Honestly, female customers were the bane of my existence. Women either think they have a license to get handsy and that the rules don't apply to them because they're women, or get super jealous about their dad bod husband they came with. Newsflash: chris rock wasn't lying when he said there was no sex in the champagne room. Dancers just want to make money and are not trying to get with your loser husbands. Dancing is basically a hardcore sales job, so everything that is said and done is done with the goal of selling dances. Sob story? Probably not true, just a hustle. Smooth talking about how attractive and fun the customer is? Also a hustle.

As for OP, next time you go you should talk with your husband first about what your boundaries are.

Former dancer: please, please, please do an AMA thread!

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Anonymous wrote:Did you go to Camelot?

I knew girls who worked there in the late 90s. They were cool girls. Troubled, but cool. You should hear what strippers think of people who go to clubs.

LOL you should try to imagine how much I care about the good opinion of stupid sluts who dance naked for money.

Ok, wow. Former dancer here. I now have a family and professional job, and you would never, ever know about my past employment. Women I worked with are now lawyers, real estate agents, computer programmers, librarians, social workers, nurses, etc. Honestly everyone reading this thread probably knows a former dancer and has no idea, so I would watch it with sentiments like this. Most women who work in strip clubs aren't "stupid sluts", in my experience it was usually college students and moms who wanted to work three days a week and spend the rest of the time with their kids. I for one am one of the only people I know that didn't have family pay for college and has no student loans. So.

On to what dancers think of customers. Honestly, female customers were the bane of my existence. Women either think they have a license to get handsy and that the rules don't apply to them because they're women, or get super jealous about their dad bod husband they came with. Newsflash: chris rock wasn't lying when he said there was no sex in the champagne room. Dancers just want to make money and are not trying to get with your loser husbands. Dancing is basically a hardcore sales job, so everything that is said and done is done with the goal of selling dances. Sob story? Probably not true, just a hustle. Smooth talking about how attractive and fun the customer is? Also a hustle.

As for OP, next time you go you should talk with your husband first about what your boundaries are.

...aaaaand there it is. These well-adjusted, undamaged, totally not trafficked individuals view men to be losers and women to be the bane of their existence.

You are intentionally misreading my post. People were curious about what dancers think of customers, I'm telling you my opinion from my lived experience. I did not enjoy most female customers because of the issues mentioned above: jealousy, thinking the rules don't apply to them, etc. And yes, usually the female customers that acted the most jealous and crazy were sad middle aged frumps with loser husbands. Did I say all men were losers? No. Some men are losers, specifically the men that came to strip clubs with these sad, sad ladies. I don't think finding this behavior unpleasant makes me damaged or trafficked (again LOL.) I will say, anecdotally, that I usually didn't see this kind of jealous, weird behavior from attractive, secure women.

I find it interesting how a few of you seem so hell bent on posting this tired stereotype about how dancers are damaged, trafficked, slutty, etc when there are at least two or maybe three former dancers in this thread saying, No, this is not the case.

Trust me, all of you have at least one former stripper in your extended circle and you have no idea.

you may not be damaged, but you sure aren't a good person or a feminist.

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So how does nude dancing make her a bad person?

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Anonymous wrote:Did you go to Camelot?

I knew girls who worked there in the late 90s. They were cool girls. Troubled, but cool. You should hear what strippers think of people who go to clubs.

LOL you should try to imagine how much I care about the good opinion of stupid sluts who dance naked for money.

Ok, wow. Former dancer here. I now have a family and professional job, and you would never, ever know about my past employment. Women I worked with are now lawyers, real estate agents, computer programmers, librarians, social workers, nurses, etc. Honestly everyone reading this thread probably knows a former dancer and has no idea, so I would watch it with sentiments like this. Most women who work in strip clubs aren't "stupid sluts", in my experience it was usually college students and moms who wanted to work three days a week and spend the rest of the time with their kids. I for one am one of the only people I know that didn't have family pay for college and has no student loans. So.

On to what dancers think of customers. Honestly, female customers were the bane of my existence. Women either think they have a license to get handsy and that the rules don't apply to them because they're women, or get super jealous about their dad bod husband they came with. Newsflash: chris rock wasn't lying when he said there was no sex in the champagne room. Dancers just want to make money and are not trying to get with your loser husbands. Dancing is basically a hardcore sales job, so everything that is said and done is done with the goal of selling dances. Sob story? Probably not true, just a hustle. Smooth talking about how attractive and fun the customer is? Also a hustle.

As for OP, next time you go you should talk with your husband first about what your boundaries are.

...aaaaand there it is. These well-adjusted, undamaged, totally not trafficked individuals view men to be losers and women to be the bane of their existence.

You are intentionally misreading my post. People were curious about what dancers think of customers, I'm telling you my opinion from my lived experience. I did not enjoy most female customers because of the issues mentioned above: jealousy, thinking the rules don't apply to them, etc. And yes, usually the female customers that acted the most jealous and crazy were sad middle aged frumps with loser husbands. Did I say all men were losers? No. Some men are losers, specifically the men that came to strip clubs with these sad, sad ladies. I don't think finding this behavior unpleasant makes me damaged or trafficked (again LOL.) I will say, anecdotally, that I usually didn't see this kind of jealous, weird behavior from attractive, secure women.

I find it interesting how a few of you seem so hell bent on posting this tired stereotype about how dancers are damaged, trafficked, slutty, etc when there are at least two or maybe three former dancers in this thread saying, No, this is not the case.

Trust me, all of you have at least one former stripper in your extended circle and you have no idea.

you may not be damaged, but you sure aren't a good person or a feminist.

New poster here. One who went with a boyfriend to a club 30 years ago. Now I’m old. Wasn’t jealous, but it’s not my thing. Dancing wouldn’t be my thing, either. But what’s with all the hate on the dancers? If a woman is doing something of her own free will, that’s fine in my book. Not hurting a soul. Feminism absolutely supports that.

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Anonymous wrote:Did you go to Camelot?

I knew girls who worked there in the late 90s. They were cool girls. Troubled, but cool. You should hear what strippers think of people who go to clubs.

LOL you should try to imagine how much I care about the good opinion of stupid sluts who dance naked for money.

Ok, wow. Former dancer here. I now have a family and professional job, and you would never, ever know about my past employment. Women I worked with are now lawyers, real estate agents, computer programmers, librarians, social workers, nurses, etc. Honestly everyone reading this thread probably knows a former dancer and has no idea, so I would watch it with sentiments like this. Most women who work in strip clubs aren't "stupid sluts", in my experience it was usually college students and moms who wanted to work three days a week and spend the rest of the time with their kids. I for one am one of the only people I know that didn't have family pay for college and has no student loans. So.

On to what dancers think of customers. Honestly, female customers were the bane of my existence. Women either think they have a license to get handsy and that the rules don't apply to them because they're women, or get super jealous about their dad bod husband they came with. Newsflash: chris rock wasn't lying when he said there was no sex in the champagne room. Dancers just want to make money and are not trying to get with your loser husbands. Dancing is basically a hardcore sales job, so everything that is said and done is done with the goal of selling dances. Sob story? Probably not true, just a hustle. Smooth talking about how attractive and fun the customer is? Also a hustle.

As for OP, next time you go you should talk with your husband first about what your boundaries are.

...aaaaand there it is. These well-adjusted, undamaged, totally not trafficked individuals view men to be losers and women to be the bane of their existence.

You are intentionally misreading my post. People were curious about what dancers think of customers, I'm telling you my opinion from my lived experience. I did not enjoy most female customers because of the issues mentioned above: jealousy, thinking the rules don't apply to them, etc. And yes, usually the female customers that acted the most jealous and crazy were sad middle aged frumps with loser husbands. Did I say all men were losers? No. Some men are losers, specifically the men that came to strip clubs with these sad, sad ladies. I don't think finding this behavior unpleasant makes me damaged or trafficked (again LOL.) I will say, anecdotally, that I usually didn't see this kind of jealous, weird behavior from attractive, secure women.

I find it interesting how a few of you seem so hell bent on posting this tired stereotype about how dancers are damaged, trafficked, slutty, etc when there are at least two or maybe three former dancers in this thread saying, No, this is not the case.

Trust me, all of you have at least one former stripper in your extended circle and you have no idea.

you may not be damaged, but you sure aren't a good person or a feminist.

New poster here. One who went with a boyfriend to a club 30 years ago. Now I’m old. Wasn’t jealous, but it’s not my thing. Dancing wouldn’t be my thing, either. But what’s with all the hate on the dancers? If a woman is doing something of her own free will, that’s fine in my book. Not hurting a soul. Feminism absolutely supports that.

NP: But this dancer isn't a feminist, she is judgemental about other women based on their looks. Her comments about the sad middle ages frumps is really quite awful. I'm sure looks mean a great deal to her.

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I can't believe people actually go to these clubs. Gah I can only imagine what body fluids are on every surface. Gross. Just so nasty. Nevermind having some strange gyrating near your face. Its anyones guess where that's been too.

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe people actually go to these clubs. Gah I can only imagine what body fluids are on every surface. Gross. Just so nasty. Nevermind having some strange gyrating near your face. Its anyones guess where that's been too.

I am always surprised by the amount of prude posters on this board.