DH having an attitude after strip club

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:There’s no strippers that put all their money up their nose?

Of course there are. There are also dancers who put all of their money toward an edcation at a top university. Why is that so hard for some of you to understand?

It's not hard to understand, it is impossible to believe. Because it's bullshit.

I'm sorry you're unable to wrap your feeble mind around this concept, despite those of us who know better telling you otherwise.

I'd be feeble-minded if I believed your bullshit, that's for sure.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There’s no strippers that put all their money up their nose?

Of course there are. There are also dancers who put all of their money toward an edcation at a top university. Why is that so hard for some of you to understand?

It's not hard to understand, it is impossible to believe. Because it's bullshit.

I'm sorry you're unable to wrap your feeble mind around this concept, despite those of us who know better telling you otherwise.

I'd be feeble-minded if I believed your bullshit, that's for sure.

While I won't join PP in name calling, I will confirm that there is a % of the stripper populTion that is using the money for school. It's not a large %. A while back, I know 2 of the women at Camelot were doing just that. One was at Howard and one was at George Mason. They worked the afternoon during the week and til midnight on weekends to avoid seeing people the knew from school. It didn't work out as well for the Howard student as she hoped.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone else here think a man—married or otherwise— shouldn’t be going to a strip club bc it’s immoral?

Going to an asian massage parlor for a happy ending is immoral. Going to a strip club isn't immoral, just creepy.

Nah, it is immoral. It’s wrong to lust over a woman you’re not married to, particularly when you spend your family’s money in the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is a great example of privileged-white-woman-feminist concern trolling.

Get over yourself, goddamn. Try your brand of bullshit over on Lipstick Alley and report back. I’ll wait.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Ok, be honest.
If a couple goes to a strip club with other couples, on a drunken night out, doesn’t the wife get to dictate the terms? I mean, there are hot women girating just feet from us. We had a great couples lap dance, which was awkward at first but then fun, and I felt like that was enough. He wanted more lap dances and I refused. I just felt like I had my fun, time to go.
And I’m annoyed that he wasn’t satisfied with that and is saying I was so lame for not do

OP, I'm a married, DCUMC guy, and I'm right with you. If a wife is cool enough to agree to go to a strip club with her DH, and agree to participate and not just watch, she absolutely gets to dictate the terms. They get to do what she allows, and leave when she is ready.

I'm late 30's, and go to strip clubs probably ever 3 years, and exclusively for bachelor parties. They are expensive (we have HHI of $350k+, and I still hate burning $300 at a strip club), and I'm completely aware of how artificial / commercial the environment is. I'm also pretty picky, so generally only find 1/5 strippers physically attractive. Lastly, I feel like pretty much every time I go I have to be the responsible one that keeps any of our group from getting thrown out / arrested / beat up for poor behavior. I can't imagine what a pain in the @$$ it must be to work at a strip club and have to deal with drunk customers being obnoxious every single night.

All that said, I have had some enjoyable nights, and a high end club with attractive women working the right night can be a fun experience. My wife (along with friends' wives) have been cool enough to go a few times, and we have pretty much operated by the above rules (the wives dictate the terms). The few times I've watched a guy get in an argument with his wife at the club about something, I always thought the DH was a moron for pushing back, and felt sorry for the wife. That said, people do stupid things when they are drunk, and usually the guy owns up to his poor behavior in the morning.

My DW learned pretty quickly that she's not a fan of watching naked women grind on me, nor is she attracted to women, so is not a fan of lap dances in general. We have learned that as a couple, we much prefer a Miami or Vegas night club. There are often more attractive women as go-go dancers, often topless. Probably just as expensive ($20 for a corona?), but usually the night clubs are considerably nicer than the strip clubs, the crowd is better and more attractive, and it's a more egalitarian environment that is sexy for both the man and the woman. We really like both Tao in Vegas and Liv in Miami.

So she doesn't like women or for you to receive lap daneces, but you believe that she's happy that there are hotter girls for you to stare at? How is any of this sexy for the females in the audience?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyone else here think a man—married or otherwise— shouldn’t be going to a strip club bc it’s immoral?

Going to an asian massage parlor for a happy ending is immoral. Going to a strip club isn't immoral, just creepy.

Nah, it is immoral. It’s wrong to lust over a woman you’re not married to, particularly when you spend your family’s money in the process.

I hear that some strippers collect whole income streams from women "to help pay for college" or whatever. Sad to think that it's going out of some kid's tutoring funds.

[Anonymous]

New poster with first-hand experience to share. As PP stated, yes some of the strippers are in school and end up with very reputable degrees, great jobs, decent and rich husbands. Some dance to pay for college, others come from well to-do families and have college/apartment paid for by parents and dance to pay for Chanel bags, shoes, vacations, and fancy drinks/dinners.

On the other hand, many more of them are young single mothers, young single women who did not go beyond high school, and/or have shitty family, poor family, poor supports, from the projects, what have you. Some are prostitutes on the side. I found that most who were had clients from the club or were high class call girls on the side $$$$$$. Many made six figures working very part time.

Then there is the middle ground - the girls with modest backgrounds. They may come from a stable or "good" family that does not have money or does not emphasize/value academics/education. They move on not to the ivy league but rather to things like licensed massage therapist, ultrasound tech, makeup artist, LPN. So there are really, truly all different types of strippers. Yes, some are Eastern European with poor English who set off alarm bells for trafficking. There have been circumstances where it seemed as though a girl or two had a crazy boyfriend or pimp who didnt work at the club but who was sharing in the profits from her work there.

You can find all of these different "kinds" of dancers working in the same club. My experience is that the more educated and financially stable women work in the "upscale" clubs, but do so alongside all of the aforementioned. The standards for hiring in the upscale clubs are to be attractive, well put together, and passable as "classy", in the strip club sense of the word. Long stripper "gowns" and rhinestone necklaces, for example. No neon G string body suits and patent leather thigh high boots.

I would like to add this:

1. All of the aforementioned "kinds" of strippers tend to drink a veritable shit-ton of alcohol. Many, many dancers dabble in cocaine. The customers also like to dabble - and this was most common amongst married rich white males, often working in industries such as banking/finance.
2. To say that there is "no sex in the champagne room" is a blatant lie. Even and perhaps especially in the upscale clubs. There are people who are doing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is this a date activity? You lack self respect and boundaries. ok, cardi b?

Put your bible down and get grip on something else. Who cares, why is it a lack of self respect? So when it is my DWs idea to go, she has lost all respect for herself? The amount of straight woman who only watch woman on woman porn is staggering, they appreciate the female form and have lost all respect for themselves?

[Anonymous]

Well it sounds like OP's husband isn't getting enough lap dances and other action at home. If OP was sexier this entire discussion would be moot.