Is calling someone “chinaman” racist?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone bullied my DC, they have my permission to fight back verbally - and hold no words off limit.

Wow. I feel for your DC who is allowed to use the “N” word and other racial epithets during fights and arguments. I fear this DC is not going to go far in life with such teaching. Please reconsider.

Thanks for your support. If more parents would educate their kids on how to deal with bullies the world would be a better place. Nobody is doing their kid a favor by letting them become an easy target for bullies.

DP here. I agree that bullying is wrong on all levels and children should certainly be taught how to stand up for themselves, but you abase yourself when you throw racial slurs as a defense. I was bullied and physically assaulted as a kid for being a minority, but I would have sunk lower than the bullies had I used racial slurs.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is a racist loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone bullied my DC, they have my permission to fight back verbally - and hold no words off limit.

Wow. I feel for your DC who is allowed to use the “N” word and other racial epithets during fights and arguments. I fear this DC is not going to go far in life with such teaching. Please reconsider.

Thanks for your support. If more parents would educate their kids on how to deal with bullies the world would be a better place. Nobody is doing their kid a favor by letting them become an easy target for bullies.

DP here. I agree that bullying is wrong on all levels and children should certainly be taught how to stand up for themselves, but you abase yourself when you throw racial slurs as a defense. I was bullied and physically assaulted as a kid for being a minority, but I would have sunk lower than the bullies had I used racial slurs.

If being a victim feels better than using bad language against a bully, then so be it. We all have to live with ourselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like something a deplorable would say.

Life long Dem here. I grew up in a place where bullying was "boys being boys". I didn't like to throw punches, so I learned to find a bullies weak spot and verbally attack it. 9 times out of 10 they would stop bullying me. It was self defense and I highly recommend it to any kid who gets bullied.

Ok, racist verbal bully.

[Anonymous]

There are worse things he could have called him. Let's not take things to extremes. It's hard not to notice someone is Asian, especially a tall one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are worse things he could have called him. Let's not take things to extremes. It's hard not to notice someone is Asian, especially a tall one.

Not really. There is only one slur that is worse than what he did call the child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone bullied my DC, they have my permission to fight back verbally - and hold no words off limit.

Wow. I feel for your DC who is allowed to use the “N” word and other racial epithets during fights and arguments. I fear this DC is not going to go far in life with such teaching. Please reconsider.

Thanks for your support. If more parents would educate their kids on how to deal with bullies the world would be a better place. Nobody is doing their kid a favor by letting them become an easy target for bullies.

DP here. I agree that bullying is wrong on all levels and children should certainly be taught how to stand up for themselves, but you abase yourself when you throw racial slurs as a defense. I was bullied and physically assaulted as a kid for being a minority, but I would have sunk lower than the bullies had I used racial slurs.

If being a victim feels better than using bad language against a bully, then so be it. We all have to live with ourselves.

And if you feel it’s ok to bring race into a fight where it wasn’t before, congrats for playing into the white nationalists’ hands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are worse things he could have called him. Let's not take things to extremes. It's hard not to notice someone is Asian, especially a tall one.

Let’s not lose sight of the fact that it was an ADULT who used this slur. An adult who knew better and should’ve done better. And if you think tall Asians are rare, you need to look up once in a while and take a glance around.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There are worse things he could have called him. Let's not take things to extremes. It's hard not to notice someone is Asian, especially a tall one.

If he said "Tall Asian dude", that would be fine. But 1. the term Chinaman has racist connotations, and only an idiot doesn't realize this 2. The guy may not have even been Chinese, and to call any Asian person "Chinese" is ignorant at best, and racist at worst. Believe it or not, not all Asians are Chinese.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:There are worse things he could have called him. Let's not take things to extremes. It's hard not to notice someone is Asian, especially a tall one.

Not really. There is only one slur that is worse than what he did call the child.

+1 not that far removed from "chink". Would it be fine for a white person to call someone "that negro"?

We all know why OP's DH called the kid a "chinaman". It was to be derogatory.

[Anonymous]

HOW IS THIS A DEBATE. WELCOME TO 2018.

It is one thing for an ignorant or misled person to have racially charged or biased views. It is another to be exposed to sufficient information to understand that those views are harmful and racist and then continue to express them. Continuing to do so makes you a racist. No further discussion is warranted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son got made fun of at basketball camp last week. When my DH arrived, he was in tears. As my DH was walking my son to the car, he referred to the kid who was making fun of my son as “that tall chinaman” attempting to make a joke to cheer my son up. I think calling someone a “chinaman” is racist and offensive, no matter whether it was intended to be a joke. He quoted the definition of racism in Webster’s Dictionary and told me I was wrong because it didn’t meet the definition. (I’m not sure why, but for argument’s sake, let’s say it’s because the comment wasn’t based on his belief that his race is superior.). Feel free to weigh in.

Sounds like a sociopath in the making.
Got a kid who gets teased to the point of being in tears.
His dad gives him a lesson in racial bigotry to cheer him up.
Next thing you know "We have reports of an active shooter at XX-high school."

[Anonymous]

Hopefully OP doesn't let her son act like a pu $$y next time he sees the bully. He needs to 'tease' the bully 10 times worse. I'll bet it cures the bully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hopefully OP doesn't let her son act like a pu $$y next time he sees the bully. He needs to 'tease' the bully 10 times worse. I'll bet it cures the bully.

Sadly, I think this is a legit post from a parent, not just a parody/troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If someone bullied my DC, they have my permission to fight back verbally - and hold no words off limit.

Wow. I feel for your DC who is allowed to use the “N” word and other racial epithets during fights and arguments. I fear this DC is not going to go far in life with such teaching. Please reconsider.

Thanks for your support. If more parents would educate their kids on how to deal with bullies the world would be a better place. Nobody is doing their kid a favor by letting them become an easy target for bullies.

DP here. I agree that bullying is wrong on all levels and children should certainly be taught how to stand up for themselves, but you abase yourself when you throw racial slurs as a defense. I was bullied and physically assaulted as a kid for being a minority, but I would have sunk lower than the bullies had I used racial slurs.

If being a victim feels better than using bad language against a bully, then so be it. We all have to live with ourselves.

What about taking the higher ground?