Average straight guys: tell us about your dating experiences

[Anonymous]

It varies greatly. Some ladies are desperate and will do anything. Some are jaded and it is not worth trying to establish a relationship. Newly separated or divorced are great It bed, but the issues pop up. I find it best to go for the younger ones. Less issues and higher libido.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not average; I am a bit taller than average and a bit heavier (6'2"), 235 lbs. My salary is decent but not great (180K), and I am a bit older (widowed, 55, 1 kid).

What I have found is on-line dating works; not app-dating, like tinder, but places where I set up a profile, I can tell a story about who I am; my best attributes are my brain and humor. I put that in my profile. And I am a nerd in the 80's sense. Good in math and science (I am a scientist).

I could probably get laid every night with a different women. Except, I can't go out every night (DD, while 16, has some issues and I need to be there for her). Also, it does not work quite as well as it did before I met my wife (in my 20's, there was no limits; now there is -- recovery time is measured in hours not microseconds).

Because of my limited time, I find I prefer to be picky. I do not want to go out with people just to have sex. I am looking for a partner. I found I can be choosy.

what age of women are you dating?

40’s -50’s mostly. I found I had very little in common with younger women; they Are focused on the future often whereas I am focused on the present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Man here. Fit, 5'10" and pretty cute. Lived in a bunch of different cities and never had any trouble scrounging up a girlfriend until I moved to DC late twenties. I found it damn near impossible to even get a date, it was like pulling teeth. I really feel women in this town are holding out for the unmarried, 30 year-old senator with a family fortune. A unicorn, in other words.

It's anecdotal of course, but I currently have two very beautiful 20-something young women for neighbors. None of my business, but I've not seen any evidence of young men in their lives. Guess that means there's no young men in Washington? Or just not the RIGHT young men...?

I've been here 10 years now and I've come to determine that dating in DC blows. The women don't take it seriously and don't appreciate men. They lie about being interested in a second date and then blow guys off. Tinder, meeting IRL, it doesn't matter. They're holding out for the highest bidder and are willing to play with themselves in cat lady land than actually date real live DC guys.

Dating in Latin America while on vacation or work vacations is 100x more productive and fun than dating in DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your problem:

1. 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men.
2. You think you are in the 80% of the men who are not being chased ("average straight guy... average looks... average guy who isn’t a player...")

Solution:

Stop being average.

1. Go get jacked. Most of the guys I see are skinnyfat.
2. Dress well. Most guys I see are slobs.
3. Improve your social skills. Most guys are inept, especially at speaking to women.
4. Do interesting things. Most guys are boring.

If you have muscles, are well dressed, are chatty and confident, and have an interesting life, you will be in the top 5% of men.

Now enough of your defeatism. Go forth and improve yourself!

I agree! Go get those fake tits. Start wearing revealing clothing. Spend a few extra hours at the gym working on that ass. Hit the tanning salon.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, the best way to attract women for an average DC guy is to buy a boat.

If it f4cks, floats or flies---rent, don't buy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not average; I am a bit taller than average and a bit heavier (6'2"), 235 lbs. My salary is decent but not great (180K), and I am a bit older (widowed, 55, 1 kid).

What I have found is on-line dating works; not app-dating, like tinder, but places where I set up a profile, I can tell a story about who I am; my best attributes are my brain and humor. I put that in my profile. And I am a nerd in the 80's sense. Good in math and science (I am a scientist).

I could probably get laid every night with a different women. Except, I can't go out every night (DD, while 16, has some issues and I need to be there for her). Also, it does not work quite as well as it did before I met my wife (in my 20's, there was no limits; now there is -- recovery time is measured in hours not microseconds).

Because of my limited time, I find I prefer to be picky. I do not want to go out with people just to have sex. I am looking for a partner. I found I can be choosy.

what age of women are you dating?

40’s -50’s mostly. I found I had very little in common with younger women; they Are focused on the future often whereas I am focused on the present.

You sound like a great catch!!! I'm 48. As much as it is a disappointment sometimes, I totally understand the refraction time. Most women will.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Man here. Fit, 5'10" and pretty cute. Lived in a bunch of different cities and never had any trouble scrounging up a girlfriend until I moved to DC late twenties. I found it damn near impossible to even get a date, it was like pulling teeth. I really feel women in this town are holding out for the unmarried, 30 year-old senator with a family fortune. A unicorn, in other words.

It's anecdotal of course, but I currently have two very beautiful 20-something young women for neighbors. None of my business, but I've not seen any evidence of young men in their lives. Guess that means there's no young men in Washington? Or just not the RIGHT young men...?

I've been here 10 years now and I've come to determine that dating in DC blows. The women don't take it seriously and don't appreciate men. They lie about being interested in a second date and then blow guys off. Tinder, meeting IRL, it doesn't matter. They're holding out for the highest bidder and are willing to play with themselves in cat lady land than actually date real live DC guys.

Dating in Latin America while on vacation or work vacations is 100x more productive and fun than dating in DC.

I would suggest that this is more a commentary on you than the women.

[Anonymous]

I've been here 10 years now and I've come to determine that dating in DC blows. The women don't take it seriously and don't appreciate men. They lie about being interested in a second date and then blow guys off. Tinder, meeting IRL, it doesn't matter. They're holding out for the highest bidder and are willing to play with themselves in cat lady land than actually date real live DC guys.

Dating in Latin America while on vacation or work vacations is 100x more productive and fun than dating in DC.

I would suggest that this is more a commentary on you than the women.

Nah, women here never express an interest in remaining single rather than settle for less than Megan markle did. No way.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am not average; I am a bit taller than average and a bit heavier (6'2"), 235 lbs. My salary is decent but not great (180K), and I am a bit older (widowed, 55, 1 kid).

What I have found is on-line dating works; not app-dating, like tinder, but places where I set up a profile, I can tell a story about who I am; my best attributes are my brain and humor. I put that in my profile. And I am a nerd in the 80's sense. Good in math and science (I am a scientist).

I could probably get laid every night with a different women. Except, I can't go out every night (DD, while 16, has some issues and I need to be there for her). Also, it does not work quite as well as it did before I met my wife (in my 20's, there was no limits; now there is -- recovery time is measured in hours not microseconds).

Because of my limited time, I find I prefer to be picky. I do not want to go out with people just to have sex. I am looking for a partner. I found I can be choosy.

what age of women are you dating?

40’s -50’s mostly. I found I had very little in common with younger women; they Are focused on the future often whereas I am focused on the present.

You sound like a great catch!!! I'm 48. As much as it is a disappointment sometimes, I totally understand the refraction time. Most women will.

What I found was, when I first went on the dating sites, I was bombarded with matches. Close to overwhelming. But, these were people that had been on for a while and saw some one new. Fresh meat.

After a few weeks it calms down -- matches are limited to new/updated people.

As for the sex thing, while DD was at camp, I did date a bit, basically then just wanting to get laid (that is when I started on line). People that will hookup on the first date are more likely to be disappointed when I can not get it up after I am done. I have other ways to work magic, but he is done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your problem:

1. 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men.
2. You think you are in the 80% of the men who are not being chased ("average straight guy... average looks... average guy who isn’t a player...")

Solution:

Stop being average.

1. Go get jacked. Most of the guys I see are skinnyfat.
2. Dress well. Most guys I see are slobs.
3. Improve your social skills. Most guys are inept, especially at speaking to women.
4. Do interesting things. Most guys are boring.

If you have muscles, are well dressed, are chatty and confident, and have an interesting life, you will be in the top 5% of men.

Now enough of your defeatism. Go forth and improve yourself!

I agree! Go get those fake tits. Start wearing revealing clothing. Spend a few extra hours at the gym working on that ass. Hit the tanning salon.

PREACH!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DC is a target rich environment for even an average guy. Hill staffers are everywhere looking for a decent guy and lobbying and PR firms are loaded with good looking young women. If you are average looking, have a good job, can hold an intelligent conversation and can eat with a knife and fork you can do very well.

These are exactly the same women I posted of above, looking for unicorns. They're the one's that, rather than ask, "how do you do" when they meet you, ask, "what do you do?"

No where else in America does this happen except DC.

I’ve gotten what do you do in NY.

I hate when people say this. This about how much of your life your career consumes, how much time you spent studying, deciding what to do. That's why people ask what you do, it's not necessarily about $, it's more about who you are.

No, not in DC. It's a more polite form of asking, "who do you work for and what can you do for me?"

Sorry but no it's not. You're too cynical.

It's just a way of seeing who or what you have in common. BFD. Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your problem:

1. 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men.
2. You think you are in the 80% of the men who are not being chased ("average straight guy... average looks... average guy who isn’t a player...")

Solution:

Stop being average.

1. Go get jacked. Most of the guys I see are skinnyfat.
2. Dress well. Most guys I see are slobs.
3. Improve your social skills. Most guys are inept, especially at speaking to women.
4. Do interesting things. Most guys are boring.

If you have muscles, are well dressed, are chatty and confident, and have an interesting life, you will be in the top 5% of men.

Now enough of your defeatism. Go forth and improve yourself!

This nonsense makes me envy gay guys

Seriously could you image a thread that told women something like this? It really show you how egotistical these women are. DC is know for very average women(3-5’s) who think they are the bomb.

Women should be told this. Be fit, dress well, learn the art of conversation, and carpe diem. This advice would address most problems in life. Everyone should be taking it. (It's my approach to life, and it works. I am a woman.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your problem:

1. 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men.
2. You think you are in the 80% of the men who are not being chased ("average straight guy... average looks... average guy who isn’t a player...")

Solution:

Stop being average.

1. Go get jacked. Most of the guys I see are skinnyfat.
2. Dress well. Most guys I see are slobs.
3. Improve your social skills. Most guys are inept, especially at speaking to women.
4. Do interesting things. Most guys are boring.

If you have muscles, are well dressed, are chatty and confident, and have an interesting life, you will be in the top 5% of men.

Now enough of your defeatism. Go forth and improve yourself!

This nonsense makes me envy gay guys

Gay men know those rules and follow them. Ever watch Queer Eye? All they do is teach straight men how to do the above.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Man here. Fit, 5'10" and pretty cute. Lived in a bunch of different cities and never had any trouble scrounging up a girlfriend until I moved to DC late twenties. I found it damn near impossible to even get a date, it was like pulling teeth. I really feel women in this town are holding out for the unmarried, 30 year-old senator with a family fortune. A unicorn, in other words.

It's anecdotal of course, but I currently have two very beautiful 20-something young women for neighbors. None of my business, but I've not seen any evidence of young men in their lives. Guess that means there's no young men in Washington? Or just not the RIGHT young men...?

I've been here 10 years now and I've come to determine that dating in DC blows. The women don't take it seriously and don't appreciate men. They lie about being interested in a second date and then blow guys off. Tinder, meeting IRL, it doesn't matter. They're holding out for the highest bidder and are willing to play with themselves in cat lady land than actually date real live DC guys.

Dating in Latin America while on vacation or work vacations is 100x more productive and fun than dating in DC.

I would suggest that this is more a commentary on you than the women.

Yes because ...your ego is too big?

[Anonymous]

Your problem:

1. 80% of the women are chasing 20% of the men.
2. You think you are in the 80% of the men who are not being chased ("average straight guy... average looks... average guy who isn’t a player...")

Solution:

Stop being average.

1. Go get jacked. Most of the guys I see are skinnyfat.
2. Dress well. Most guys I see are slobs.
3. Improve your social skills. Most guys are inept, especially at speaking to women.
4. Do interesting things. Most guys are boring.

If you have muscles, are well dressed, are chatty and confident, and have an interesting life, you will be in the top 5% of men.

Now enough of your defeatism. Go forth and improve yourself!

This nonsense makes me envy gay guys

Seriously could you image a thread that told women something like this? It really show you how egotistical these women are. DC is know for very average women(3-5’s) who think they are the bomb.

Women should be told this. Be fit, dress well, learn the art of conversation, and carpe diem. This advice would address most problems in life. Everyone should be taking it. (It's my approach to life, and it works. I am a woman.)

100+. You are seriously taking issue with a list that says: go to the gym regularly, take a little care in your appearance, and try to be nice and interesting. This is not a heavy lift (for a woman or a man)! The fact that you think otherwise truly may be the source of your problems...