How often do you have sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Me, late 40s female. 2x a week with dh. Once every week or two with ap, which is not enough.

I'm horny right now, would love to have sex, but just not interested in dh, ap probably at home not having sex with his wife.

Guess AP’s wife is turned off by him just like you are turned off by DH. Hmm...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:About every two weeks, sometimes once per week. I'm 38 years old with a 5 month baby old baby and a three year old. We've been together for several years though.

Same for me. I have an 8, 5 and 2 year old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Be honest. I know it's been asked before, but it's a fun question and I'm sure there are new faces. Also, how old are you?

57 male

Once a day, either morning ( my favorite) or evening .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:56M, married to woman in menopause. None this year. It is horrible. I have considered an AP, considered divorce.

Get out ! It is not menopause, she is just not into you. Guarantee when she finds a new man she will Suck his d1ck.

[Anonymous]

DH and I are oldies in our mid-60's. We have sex at least once a week and often twice. We had awesome sex on Thursday night which means it will lead to a 2x week. We've been together 40 years and we still enjoy each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:10 - 15 times per year. Early 40s, together about 20 years, two kids in their early teens.

Same, but our kids are upper elementary. I seem more unhappy about this than DH, but I think it is also my fault that we are in this situation because for many years I was uncomfortable/repressed sexually and didn't really enjoy it that much. I finally decided I really needed to get over my hangups and started to figure out what would make me excited about sex and read some things about what my rebuffing was probably doing to him. I have tried to reverse the damage by apologizing, reassuring that I am up for it, will enthusiastically say YES when he initiates, but I think the damage has been done. So now I have to be the one to initiate whenever I want sex. He always responds positively, but the fact that he never (and I'm not exaggerating here...it's NEVER!) initiates makes me feel very undesired. I guess it's payback in a way. But it's miserable to think that this is how it's going to go until the end of time. I love my husband, but I wish I had known the damage I was doing to his confidence and feelings of desirability early on in our marriage. If I had realized the full extent of it, instead of being caught up in my own insecurities and stunted by my own sexual repression, I think it could have saved our sex life. Now, who knows...

I wish all LL spouses (including husbands) were this self-aware and willing to change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are oldies in our mid-60's. We have sex at least once a week and often twice. We had awesome sex on Thursday night which means it will lead to a 2x week. We've been together 40 years and we still enjoy each other.

After 40 years how do you maintain the desire for having sex 1-2 times a week? Do you ever wish to be with someone new? Have you ever strayed or has your DH?

[Anonymous]

35, female, one toddler, not in 4 years (almost to the day)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Me, late 40s female. 2x a week with dh. Once every week or two with ap, which is not enough.

I'm horny right now, would love to have sex, but just not interested in dh, ap probably at home not having sex with his wife.

Guess AP’s wife is turned off by him just like you are turned off by DH. Hmm...

Sounds right. It's biology

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35, female, one toddler, not in 4 years (almost to the day)

How'd you get the toddler.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35, female, one toddler, not in 4 years (almost to the day)

Why?

[Anonymous]

39. H is 44.
Married 9 years.
2 kids, 6 and 4.
It's been years. Heard all sorts of excuses. Low testosterone. Low sex drive. My mother raided my porno stash as a teenager and made me ashamed of having sex. I read articles that sex suffers after marriage. I've read articles that men have trouble after age X.
It all boild down to one thing. He is impotent. We don't have sex.
It's awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I are oldies in our mid-60's. We have sex at least once a week and often twice. We had awesome sex on Thursday night which means it will lead to a 2x week. We've been together 40 years and we still enjoy each other.

After 40 years how do you maintain the desire for having sex 1-2 times a week? Do you ever wish to be with someone new? Have you ever strayed or has your DH?

PP here - we have a wonderful relationship and it helps that we are physically in good shape health wise and in attractiveness. We mix things up a lot and we can be pretty adventurous. I've never strayed though I find many men to be very attractive but I'd never risk our great marriage for a fling. I don't think my DH has ever strayed but how can one know? I don't believe I've ever given him a reason to stray and his overall moral compass is very strong so his having an affair would be a huge surprise.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:39. H is 44.
Married 9 years.
2 kids, 6 and 4.
It's been years. Heard all sorts of excuses. Low testosterone. Low sex drive. My mother raided my porno stash as a teenager and made me ashamed of having sex. I read articles that sex suffers after marriage. I've read articles that men have trouble after age X.
It all boild down to one thing. He is impotent. We don't have sex.
It's awful.

He needs a medical evaluation and if there is a specific problem, get treatment. Otherwise, he should agree to open your marriage. Sex is a huge part of marrriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Currently living apart from DH due to work assignment, but we get every other weekend and occasionally longer together. We have sex 1-2 per day, roughly 12-18 times in a month depending on if we get extra time together.

FWIW, I believe NOT living together has made it much easier to be in the mood when we are. Less of that day to day wear and tear on our relationship.

For us too, but it's probably more like 8-10x/month. Weekly work travel could be a stress on a relationship, but it actually seems to be ok. Total number of times per month may be lower, but we are both pretty into it given the brief periods of time we have together.