How often do you have sex?

[Anonymous]

Married 16 years. About as often as I get a tetanus shot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
On weekends, I push for quickies during nap time, but she always wants to get things done / run errands. I think she's going to have to give on this, as I think you have to get it when you can, especially with a spouse that has a hard time getting / staying in the mood or keeping energy levels up.

Same here. I get it -- there's a lot to be done. But there are few opportunites to have sex (kids need to be asleep,etc) but plenty of times during the day to do those errands.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
On weekends, I push for quickies during nap time, but she always wants to get things done / run errands. I think she's going to have to give on this, as I think you have to get it when you can, especially with a spouse that has a hard time getting / staying in the mood or keeping energy levels up.

Same here. I get it -- there's a lot to be done. But there are few opportunites to have sex (kids need to be asleep,etc) but plenty of times during the day to do those errands.

Most kids 2 and up do not need to be asleep. TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:10 - 15 times per year. Early 40s, together about 20 years, two kids in their early teens.

Same, kids slightly younger. Neither of us is high drive, and we don't really like each other. Marriage is not great, but too worn down to either improve it or look elsewhere. My drive fell off a cliff when I was about 35. She has never had a high drive.

[Anonymous]

Every chance I get.

[Anonymous]

Twice a week. Slipping to once a week now. 51 and 58.

[Anonymous]

Once every three or four months? Not sure it’s been too long

[Anonymous]

Average about 3X week. Late thirties early forties, together ten years, preschooler and early elementary school kid.

[Anonymous]

3x a week, sometimes more. Mid-40s, together 20 years, two kids in upper elementary

[Anonymous]

Married 30 years and both in our late 50’s, sex 3 to 4 times a week. Wife is still great looking and easily passes for 40 even after having 3 kids. Consider myself very lucky.

[Anonymous]

Average 3 times a week. Sometimes more and sometimes less.

Vacations or weekends away without DS (5) everyday or multiple times a day.

[Anonymous]

Once or 2x per year. Married 15 years and it’s been that way for the last 10 years. My preference is 2-3x per week so we’ve been pretty far off for awhile now. I don’t DW is going to change. She has absolutely no desire.

[Anonymous]

Currently living apart from DH due to work assignment, but we get every other weekend and occasionally longer together. We have sex 1-2 per day, roughly 12-18 times in a month depending on if we get extra time together.

FWIW, I believe NOT living together has made it much easier to be in the mood when we are. Less of that day to day wear and tear on our relationship.

[Anonymous]

Responses of “rarely, she has no interest” please also state how often with your AP.

[Anonymous]

Me, late 40s female. 2x a week with dh. Once every week or two with ap, which is not enough.

I'm horny right now, would love to have sex, but just not interested in dh, ap probably at home not having sex with his wife.