How often do you have sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:2x week with DW. 2-4x month with AP.

Perfect ratio

Maybe flip those? Although, I'm in the same boat. 2x/week with DH, 2-4x/month with AP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:56M, married to woman in menopause. None this year. It is horrible. I have considered an AP, considered divorce.

The woman in menopause would probably have sex with a 26M.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:W - 40 H - 42 - together 25 years and have 3 kids age 11-23 at home plus 2 grandkids ages 6 and 1 month at home and we average twice per week.

Wow, you got started early! As did your 23 year old. Crazy to think you were a grandparent at 34. You'll be a great grandma at 51.

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Anonymous wrote:DH, mid-40s, maybe 6x per year. DW says we do-not-click that way, but gives no explanation of how her needs have changed. After years of this, I think it is time to throw in the towel. I feel a little bad for the kids, but this is not healthy.

At least you did not owe her any explanation of how your needs have changed for your AP

I get it. She has finally decided to stop pretending that you know what you are doing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:56M, married to woman in menopause. None this year. It is horrible. I have considered an AP, considered divorce.

The woman in menopause would probably have sex with a 26M.

No most women’s sex drive is gone after menopause. It would not even cross their mind to have sex with a 26m. So thing to look forward to...

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Anonymous wrote:We're both 47, been together for 13 years. No kids.

We had sex 44 times in 2015, 42 times in 2016, 50 times in 2017. We're slightly off pace this year at 21 times.

I wish it were in the 100-150 times/year range.

I'm impressed by your counting skills which must require putting notches on a bed post. Regardless of your accuracy I can uderstand your spouses concern with the data. Of your 50 times last year how many times did she really enjoy it? If you don't know the answer....that's why you are not in the 100-150 times a year.

If I cared to do so, I could also tell you the exact number of times I had sex each year. I use an app that tracks my periods and fertility, and I also record all PIV sex in the app (I do not track other activities if I can't get pregnant from them). I don't count how many times we had sex though. That's not the reason for my tracking.

I'm not 47 yet, but if I'm still fertile at 47 (which I am assuming I will be based on genetics), I'll still track.

I

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're both 47, been together for 13 years. No kids.

We had sex 44 times in 2015, 42 times in 2016, 50 times in 2017. We're slightly off pace this year at 21 times.

I wish it were in the 100-150 times/year range.

I'm impressed by your counting skills which must require putting notches on a bed post. Regardless of your accuracy I can uderstand your spouses concern with the data. Of your 50 times last year how many times did she really enjoy it? If you don't know the answer....that's why you are not in the 100-150 times a year.

If I cared to do so, I could also tell you the exact number of times I had sex each year. I use an app that tracks my periods and fertility, and I also record all PIV sex in the app (I do not track other activities if I can't get pregnant from them). I don't count how many times we had sex though. That's not the reason for my tracking.

I'm not 47 yet, but if I'm still fertile at 47 (which I am assuming I will be based on genetics), I'll still track.

I

Ok, so share? Why not? You are saying here you keep track but you don't want to share? Why post this?? It serves ABSOLUTELY no purpose unless you are going to then share your numbers. Share share share.

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Anonymous wrote:56M, married to woman in menopause. None this year. It is horrible. I have considered an AP, considered divorce.

The woman in menopause would probably have sex with a 26M.

Not this one. 26 year old men are no longer attractive. I mean, they are physically attractive, but mentally they are like lap dogs. Nah.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're both 47, been together for 13 years. No kids.

We had sex 44 times in 2015, 42 times in 2016, 50 times in 2017. We're slightly off pace this year at 21 times.

I wish it were in the 100-150 times/year range.

I'm impressed by your counting skills which must require putting notches on a bed post. Regardless of your accuracy I can uderstand your spouses concern with the data. Of your 50 times last year how many times did she really enjoy it? If you don't know the answer....that's why you are not in the 100-150 times a year.

If I cared to do so, I could also tell you the exact number of times I had sex each year. I use an app that tracks my periods and fertility, and I also record all PIV sex in the app (I do not track other activities if I can't get pregnant from them). I don't count how many times we had sex though. That's not the reason for my tracking.

I'm not 47 yet, but if I'm still fertile at 47 (which I am assuming I will be based on genetics), I'll still track.

I

Ok, so share? Why not? You are saying here you keep track but you don't want to share? Why post this?? It serves ABSOLUTELY no purpose unless you are going to then share your numbers. Share share share.

I didn't say I didn't WANT to share; I said if I CARED to count and share.
A quick count was 144 times in 12 months, so 12x/month. I guess fairly average?

[Anonymous]

Sunday night is almost always a sure thing and it's something I really look forward to and think about late in the day. That seems to get my libido going. We also try at least one more night a week when the stars align based on work/home chaos. It's always a lot more spontaneous but not as enjoyable for me as I really like the Sunday build up. Vacation sex is a lot more frequent and a night in a nice hotel is almost always a sure thing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH, mid-40s, maybe 6x per year. DW says we do-not-click that way, but gives no explanation of how her needs have changed. After years of this, I think it is time to throw in the towel. I feel a little bad for the kids, but this is not healthy.

At least you did not owe her any explanation of how your needs have changed for your AP

I get it. She has finally decided to stop pretending that you know what you are doing.

She should never have married a man who doesn't know what he is doing. AP enjoys his bedroom skills, so is DW even a credible source?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're both 47, been together for 13 years. No kids.

We had sex 44 times in 2015, 42 times in 2016, 50 times in 2017. We're slightly off pace this year at 21 times.

I wish it were in the 100-150 times/year range.

I'm impressed by your counting skills which must require putting notches on a bed post. Regardless of your accuracy I can uderstand your spouses concern with the data. Of your 50 times last year how many times did she really enjoy it? If you don't know the answer....that's why you are not in the 100-150 times a year.

If I cared to do so, I could also tell you the exact number of times I had sex each year. I use an app that tracks my periods and fertility, and I also record all PIV sex in the app (I do not track other activities if I can't get pregnant from them). I don't count how many times we had sex though. That's not the reason for my tracking.

I'm not 47 yet, but if I'm still fertile at 47 (which I am assuming I will be based on genetics), I'll still track.

I

Ok, so share? Why not? You are saying here you keep track but you don't want to share? Why post this?? It serves ABSOLUTELY no purpose unless you are going to then share your numbers. Share share share.

I didn't say I didn't WANT to share; I said if I CARED to count and share.
A quick count was 144 times in 12 months, so 12x/month. I guess fairly average?

In marriage, I'd say that's above average. While I'm sure there are people out there that would want more or need more, I think that would be acceptable to most people that complain about how much sex they have

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're both 47, been together for 13 years. No kids.

We had sex 44 times in 2015, 42 times in 2016, 50 times in 2017. We're slightly off pace this year at 21 times.

I wish it were in the 100-150 times/year range.

I'm impressed by your counting skills which must require putting notches on a bed post. Regardless of your accuracy I can uderstand your spouses concern with the data. Of your 50 times last year how many times did she really enjoy it? If you don't know the answer....that's why you are not in the 100-150 times a year.

If I cared to do so, I could also tell you the exact number of times I had sex each year. I use an app that tracks my periods and fertility, and I also record all PIV sex in the app (I do not track other activities if I can't get pregnant from them). I don't count how many times we had sex though. That's not the reason for my tracking.

I'm not 47 yet, but if I'm still fertile at 47 (which I am assuming I will be based on genetics), I'll still track.

I

Ok, so share? Why not? You are saying here you keep track but you don't want to share? Why post this?? It serves ABSOLUTELY no purpose unless you are going to then share your numbers. Share share share.

I didn't say I didn't WANT to share; I said if I CARED to count and share.
A quick count was 144 times in 12 months, so 12x/month. I guess fairly average?

In marriage, I'd say that's above average. While I'm sure there are people out there that would want more or need more, I think that would be acceptable to most people that complain about how much sex they have

I agree as that's almost 3x per week which is what we probably averaged in our first ten years together. We are now in the 1-2 times after 30 years and I'm happy with that though I'm sure DH would prefer more.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We're both 47, been together for 13 years. No kids.

We had sex 44 times in 2015, 42 times in 2016, 50 times in 2017. We're slightly off pace this year at 21 times.

I wish it were in the 100-150 times/year range.

I'm impressed by your counting skills which must require putting notches on a bed post. Regardless of your accuracy I can uderstand your spouses concern with the data. Of your 50 times last year how many times did she really enjoy it? If you don't know the answer....that's why you are not in the 100-150 times a year.

If I cared to do so, I could also tell you the exact number of times I had sex each year. I use an app that tracks my periods and fertility, and I also record all PIV sex in the app (I do not track other activities if I can't get pregnant from them). I don't count how many times we had sex though. That's not the reason for my tracking.

I'm not 47 yet, but if I'm still fertile at 47 (which I am assuming I will be based on genetics), I'll still track.

I

Ok, so share? Why not? You are saying here you keep track but you don't want to share? Why post this?? It serves ABSOLUTELY no purpose unless you are going to then share your numbers. Share share share.

I didn't say I didn't WANT to share; I said if I CARED to count and share.
A quick count was 144 times in 12 months, so 12x/month. I guess fairly average?

In marriage, I'd say that's above average. While I'm sure there are people out there that would want more or need more, I think that would be acceptable to most people that complain about how much sex they have

I agree as that's almost 3x per week which is what we probably averaged in our first ten years together. We are now in the 1-2 times after 30 years and I'm happy with that though I'm sure DH would prefer more.

I am also sure DH has likewise deprioritized the things that you enjoy most in the relationship. I mean, after 30 years together, why should he still care to hear about your day?

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Anonymous wrote:Single female 27 dating a 28 YO male for the past three months. I played hard to get for the first few weeks but now we have sex 6-7 times a week. But I'm including multiples because we only see each other 3-4 days a week. His recovery period is amazingly short.

That's not really playing hard to get. Leave something on the table to give him a reason to get married.

Not sure what's making me laugh harder. The idea that waiting a few WEEKS is now considered "playing hard to get" or that PP thinks a girl with this mentality has any interest in "giving a guy a reason" to get married.