Tiny tennis skirts, tight pants with riding boots..the typical private school mom?

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Anonymous wrote:My daughter goes to Holton out in Potomac, MD. Sure, we have women dressed in tennis skirts and riding clothes. I think they look great. More often than not -- we have women showing up in really frumpy clothes. I was really surprised about that. I always show up in my work clothes and I think more of the women out in the suburbs are more offended to see me in work clothes than to see someone in play clothes. These are kept women who disdain the working moms. I noticed it's much different at NCS where there are many high-powered moms in suits and stuff.

I thought Holton was located in Bethesda.

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PP -- yes you are right-- it's on the border b/t Beth & Pot. ...I always think of it as Potomac because most of the kids are from Potomac...my bad!

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Anonymous wrote:PP -- yes you are right-- it's on the border b/t Beth & Pot. ...I always think of it as Potomac because most of the kids are from Potomac...my bad!

Geez, when I went there it really was "in Bethesda" - in mind, body, and spirit. Just another confirmation that things have really changed there. Ugh.

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To the 21:26 poster, who may be the OP (I'm not sure), I call BS on your post. "Oh we do everything ourselves, I never knew there were people who had money and leisure time to ride and play tennis." Where have you been living, on Mars???? Your kid goes to a private school, hello, there are wealthy people there!! So what if they have the money to ride and play tennis and so what if they wear those clothes to take their kids to school?? I do not believe for one second that you were "surprised" that such people existed, I think you want us to condemn them, and I'm not biting. I work outside the home (and I'm not blond), but I go to the gym after I drop off my kids at school and before I start work, so I'm often wearing gym clothes at drop off. What business is it of yours WHAT I wear? You can take your fake Pollyanna attitude elsewhere, because I'm not buying it. Maybe if you got some exercise yourself you wouldn't be so resentful of women who can wear these clothes and look good in them. Geez.

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Anonymous wrote: Maybe if you got some exercise yourself you wouldn't be so resentful of women who can wear these clothes and look good in them.

I was with you until this. You'd be much more effective if you left the "so take that, fatty" at the door.

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Anonymous wrote:These are kept women who disdain the working moms.

Do you really think that? Did you really have to say that? Ugh.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:These are kept women who disdain the working moms.

Do you really think that? Did you really have to say that? Ugh.

I think it makes her feel better about herself to lash out at others in such a laughable way.

Now we're calling moms "kept" women. Ridiculous. I can't even believe I'm replying to her, but she obviously wrote that silly line in some fit of rage.

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PP -- No need to get bent out of shape. I was talking about a particular group of the women -- not all of them. Everything is not always politically correct. I'm assuming you've never been to Holton -- it's very different out there. I have no rage about it as you wrote -- I'm just calling a "spade" a "spade".

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I think you're making alot of assumptions, 9:53. You have no idea if these women are "kept" or not. They could probably be on their own to run the family, oversee the kids and do charity work (for no pay - and it's hard) while the hubby is always away on travel and is around only for the "fun times." Shame on you for attacking your own sex without proof.

It is, ladies, all about whatever we wear. While some of you don't besmirch the women in office duds, you are angry at women who have the ability to put leisure into their lives. What is really so wrong with that? Isn't it better that women are able to design and choose the lives they wish for themselves than to sit back and live a life they don't want?

This thread could be summed up as "mean girls grow up into moms."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My daughter goes to Holton out in Potomac, MD. Sure, we have women dressed in tennis skirts and riding clothes. I think they look great. More often than not -- we have women showing up in really frumpy clothes. I was really surprised about that. I always show up in my work clothes and I think more of the women out in the suburbs are more offended to see me in work clothes than to see someone in play clothes. These are kept women who disdain the working moms. I noticed it's much different at NCS where there are many high-powered moms in suits and stuff.

I usually show up frumpy at my children's NW DC private but I do not disdain the working moms (I am one myself) nor am I a kept woman. I work out of my house so comfortable (or what you might consider frumpy) is my style of choice.

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Anonymous wrote:Our children our at one of these "Big 3's". I have seen a tennis skirt on occasion (although not always on a "bleached blonde" as you describe) and I think once I did see a mom (also not a bleached blonde skinny) in riding pants. I see more of these types in Potomac, not in the District. Most of the District moms are either SAHM's in jeans or workout clothes or WM's in suits or business casual.....

OP, I hope you're not here to start a fight. Shame on you anyone who bites.

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Sorry to disappoint the cynics out there, but, yes, I am a bit surprised at the tennis skirts, riding pants, etc...

I grew up relatively poor. We lived in military housing for a year, then an apartment for 3 years, then a rented house for a year, then finally a single family house we owned. But I did get a decent education...with loans. I became a lawyer and married a doctor. DH is from humble beginnings too. So despite the fact that we are just now, finally, STARTING to make some money now, we have had no access or a window to how the wealthy live. DC happened to get accepted to a good school thats all.
Of course I've seen the Ralph Lauren ads of women in their riding clothes and wearing tweed. Of course I've been to the Galleria mall in Tysons Corner and seen women wearing fur coats in the winter while they go shopping (yes, I saw this three times). But I figured that lifestyle was something for CEO's, senators, and the like. I just feel strange that I'm walking around with people from such wealth. I just feel like I don't belong.

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00:35 - Just like you, the wealthy put their pants on one leg at a time. Get to know them. Everyone likes people who are warm and engaging. Those qualities can be found in people of all socio-economic levels.

The great thing about this country is that people from all walks of life have access to.... all walks of life. It's not like Europe where access is limited. Take advantage of it. Access to all different kinds of people is just one of the many benefits your family gets when your child goes to private school.

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Access to all different kinds of people is just one of the many benefits your family gets when your child goes to private school

Sorry, I find this statement laughable. "All different kinds of people" are not represented at private school. Where are the special needs kids? Where are the not-so-bright kids? Where are the recent immigrant kids whose struggles most of us cannot even imagine? They are at public school. They may not be the "different kinds of people" that you want your kid to have "access" to, however. Such access may result in much-needed empathy, though -- especially for those kids who are lucky enough to have parents who could even consider private school.

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Anonymous wrote:

Access to all different kinds of people is just one of the many benefits your family gets when your child goes to private school

Sorry, I find this statement laughable. "All different kinds of people" are not represented at private school. Where are the special needs kids? Where are the not-so-bright kids? Where are the recent immigrant kids whose struggles most of us cannot even imagine? They are at public school. They may not be the "different kinds of people" that you want your kid to have "access" to, however. Such access may result in much-needed empathy, though -- especially for those kids who are lucky enough to have parents who could even consider private school.

We tried public school for a few years and I did like that my child had "access" to "different kinds of people", though our local FCPS actually did not have a lot of diversity. Nonetheless we thought long and hard about the lack of the cultural and economic diversity at local private schools, as well as our support of public education as an institution. However, we could not get past the overcrowded classrooms, the lackluster curriculum, the non-responsive administrators, the bullshit time wasters (the DARE program, SOL drills, etc) and inconsistent policies. I hope that change comes to public schools and it is once again the positive experience it was for my husband and myself, but I am not going to sacrifice my child's education for my ideals.