Disagreement with DH about breast lift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First a boob job, next is tummy tuck. Soon followed by face lifting and collagen implants. After that is butt lift and some cryo- work...it’ll never end.

Yes OP, you ARE being selfish. No amount of plastic surgery is going to change your mental image of yourself. You can’t seem to handle the idea that you’re not 18 anymore. Grow up and enjoy your life and give yourself to your husband who seems to enjoy you as you are.

Not OP, but a PP who posted I got a tummy tuck after having kids. That was 8 years ago. I've wanted to do nothing since. So sometimes it is as simple as you just want a procedure done and that's it. Sometimes you don't need a therapist, you just want a damn boob job. The end.

[Anonymous]

I'd agree to anything that helped my DW feel more confident, sexier, and would increase her desire for intimacy.

Your husband is a fool. So long as this isn't a bigger trend of you being addicted to surgical enhancements, I'd give this one a pass.

[Anonymous]

What's your HHI? $5K at a lower HHI is significantly more meaningful than at a higher HHI.

[Anonymous]

I want a nose job, my big nose looks bigger now that I'm older. DH is against it. Likes my big schnoz, doesn't want me to look "fake" ( though I wouldn't get a major change) and worried about risk and $. But said ok at the end of the day, if it's that important to me. I'm.not sure it is... haven't decided.

Your feelings are valid but so are his.

[Anonymous]

What's your HHI? $5K at a lower HHI is significantly more meaningful than at a higher HHI.

$275K. So we could afford it, but its not like we should be wasteful with money, given that we have two kids.

[Anonymous]

Dw wanted her breast done for years for reasons you mentioned. I was unsure, I thought she looked great and was scared about something going wrong. I finally gave in and am very happy. Sex improved, she is more confident in the bedroom. I will never question her again

[Anonymous]

I hope he comes around OP, I don't think you're being selfish at all.
Do you have any of your own funds that you can use for this?

[Anonymous]

If he's not complaining, I wouldn't worry about it. If you're really self-conscious about him seeing them, keep him so occupied in bed that he won't have time to think about it. I'm almost 46, and I am not the least worried about my husband seeing mine. He is happy with them, so I am, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First a boob job, next is tummy tuck. Soon followed by face lifting and collagen implants. After that is butt lift and some cryo- work...it’ll never end.

Yes OP, you ARE being selfish. No amount of plastic surgery is going to change your mental image of yourself. You can’t seem to handle the idea that you’re not 18 anymore. Grow up and enjoy your life and give yourself to your husband who seems to enjoy you as you are.

Not OP, but a PP who posted I got a tummy tuck after having kids. That was 8 years ago. I've wanted to do nothing since. So sometimes it is as simple as you just want a procedure done and that's it. Sometimes you don't need a therapist, you just want a damn boob job. The end.

This is me exactly. I would also note that for me the surgery motivates me to work out, because I like the results and want to keep them. Before my TT and breast augmentation I could have exercised forever and never gotten rid of my flabby tummy and nonexistent breasts. Very discouraging. Now I work out 6 days a week and am stronger than I've ever been.

[Anonymous]

I would love a reduction/lift, but the thought that something could go wrong during surgery keeps me from doing it. I couldn't imagine not being around due to an elective procedure. But that's just me, and plenty of people have no issues whatsoever. I just have too much of a guilty conscience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:First a boob job, next is tummy tuck. Soon followed by face lifting and collagen implants. After that is butt lift and some cryo- work...it’ll never end.

Yes OP, you ARE being selfish. No amount of plastic surgery is going to change your mental image of yourself. You can’t seem to handle the idea that you’re not 18 anymore. Grow up and enjoy your life and give yourself to your husband who seems to enjoy you as you are.

You could be someone who was never conventionally attractive, so maybe you don't get it.
Everyone ages differently. Not all women will have boobs that sag, some will have permanent pooches (or not), some will get flabby arms (or not). Some woman may be fine with her arms but want a tighter tummy or vice versa. It not about aging or a dissatisfaction with her looks in general. OP has one thing she'd like to change, and there is really no reason why she shouldn't, not even her kids.
Also, OP's body doesn't just exist for her to "give herself to her husband". Her opinion of her body matters here, more than his ultimately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:First a boob job, next is tummy tuck. Soon followed by face lifting and collagen implants. After that is butt lift and some cryo- work...it’ll never end.

Yes OP, you ARE being selfish. No amount of plastic surgery is going to change your mental image of yourself. You can’t seem to handle the idea that you’re not 18 anymore. Grow up and enjoy your life and give yourself to your husband who seems to enjoy you as you are.

You could be someone who was never conventionally attractive, so maybe you don't get it.
Everyone ages differently. Not all women will have boobs that sag, some will have permanent pooches (or not), some will get flabby arms (or not). Some woman may be fine with her arms but want a tighter tummy or vice versa. It not about aging or a dissatisfaction with her looks in general. OP has one thing she'd like to change, and there is really no reason why she shouldn't, not even her kids.
Also, OP's body doesn't just exist for her to "give herself to her husband". Her opinion of her body matters here, more than his ultimately.

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[Anonymous]

Agree with DH. If he came to you and said he felt insecure so he needed to spend $$$ on Trump-style hair implants I don't think this board would be so pro-cosmetic surgery.

You're 44 ffs. By now you should have developed self-esteem outside of breast perkiness.

[Anonymous]

I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with DH. If he came to you and said he felt insecure so he needed to spend $$$ on Trump-style hair implants I don't think this board would be so pro-cosmetic surgery.

You're 44 ffs. By now you should have developed self-esteem outside of breast perkiness.

If my husband was bold or holding I would encourage a hair transplant