Do the existence of SAHM impede professional women?

[Anonymous]

I believe so, and I'm a stay at home mother.

[Anonymous]

As a mother from Sweden, this whole thread shocks me. Your whole mindset of motherhood and working seems so complicated and fraught, mostly do to the fact that motherhood and womanhood don’t seem to be values in your society... it must be very very difficult for you.

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Anonymous wrote:It is detrimental to professional women because it creates a suspicion of all women of child bearing age, that they aren't worth investing in, will leave an employer in a lurch, etc.

I agree 100%.

It's more detrimental to walk around feeling you're a victim of other people who are minding their own business. Moms at home harming you?

Uh, yes, as indicated above....

+1000. And when they go out on "maternity leave" and never come back; just f*cks it up for those of us that are working to dispel the suspicion of investment in young women. It's one of the most selfish and detrimental things a woman to do the workforce for the other women around them.

Don't blame the women for leaving an inflexible work place. Maybe if we had adequate time for maternity leave like every other civilized nation, women would be more inclined to return to their jobs.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:No other professional women impede professional women, mainly those who think their jobs should coddle them because they also have kids.

Choose your field wisely. Don't expect the nature of a job to change because you want to stop everything at 3:30pm to take the kids to piano and soccer.

Would you also tell men that if they plan to have children they should only choose a flexible job?

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Anonymous wrote:No other professional women impede professional women, mainly those who think their jobs should coddle them because they also have kids.

Choose your field wisely. Don't expect the nature of a job to change because you want to stop everything at 3:30pm to take the kids to piano and soccer.

Would you also tell men that if they plan to have children they should only choose a flexible job?

This! I got all kinds of crap from everyone I knew when I decided to go back to work. My own father told me that I needed to make “great personal sacrifice” and give up my career, and perhaps I could find a part time secretary job instead? Meanwhile, nobody said a peep to my husband about giving up his very inflexible job.

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Anonymous wrote:It is detrimental to professional women because it creates a suspicion of all women of child bearing age, that they aren't worth investing in, will leave an employer in a lurch, etc.

I agree 100%.

It's more detrimental to walk around feeling you're a victim of other people who are minding their own business. Moms at home harming you?

Uh, yes, as indicated above....

+1000. And when they go out on "maternity leave" and never come back; just f*cks it up for those of us that are working to dispel the suspicion of investment in young women. It's one of the most selfish and detrimental things a woman to do the workforce for the other women around them.

Good Lord. It's a wonder you're able to get up in the morning, you're so oppressed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mother from Sweden, this whole thread shocks me. Your whole mindset of motherhood and working seems so complicated and fraught, mostly do to the fact that motherhood and womanhood don’t seem to be values in your society... it must be very very difficult for you.

Umm yes, it's quite difficult. Welcome to America, sweetie.

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Anonymous wrote:It is detrimental to professional women because it creates a suspicion of all women of child bearing age, that they aren't worth investing in, will leave an employer in a lurch, etc.

I agree 100%.

It's more detrimental to walk around feeling you're a victim of other people who are minding their own business. Moms at home harming you?

Uh, yes, as indicated above....

+1000. And when they go out on "maternity leave" and never come back; just f*cks it up for those of us that are working to dispel the suspicion of investment in young women. It's one of the most selfish and detrimental things a woman to do the workforce for the other women around them.

Don't blame the women for leaving an inflexible work place. Maybe if we had adequate time for maternity leave like every other civilized nation, women would be more inclined to return to their jobs.

Aaaamen.

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Anonymous wrote:No other professional women impede professional women, mainly those who think their jobs should coddle them because they also have kids.

Choose your field wisely. Don't expect the nature of a job to change because you want to stop everything at 3:30pm to take the kids to piano and soccer.

Would you also tell men that if they plan to have children they should only choose a flexible job?

Yes I would.

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Anonymous wrote:It is detrimental to professional women because it creates a suspicion of all women of child bearing age, that they aren't worth investing in, will leave an employer in a lurch, etc.

I agree 100%.

It's more detrimental to walk around feeling you're a victim of other people who are minding their own business. Moms at home harming you?

Uh, yes, as indicated above....

+1000. And when they go out on "maternity leave" and never come back; just f*cks it up for those of us that are working to dispel the suspicion of investment in young women. It's one of the most selfish and detrimental things a woman to do the workforce for the other women around them.

Don't blame the women for leaving an inflexible work place. Maybe if we had adequate time for maternity leave like every other civilized nation, women would be more inclined to return to their jobs.

Those same women would pull the same crap if their child was 15 months old. Stop infantilizing women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a mother from Sweden, this whole thread shocks me. Your whole mindset of motherhood and working seems so complicated and fraught, mostly do to the fact that motherhood and womanhood don’t seem to be values in your society... it must be very very difficult for you.

The same Sweden that unofficially "mommy tracks" women?

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Anonymous wrote:It is detrimental to professional women because it creates a suspicion of all women of child bearing age, that they aren't worth investing in, will leave an employer in a lurch, etc.

I agree 100%.

It's more detrimental to walk around feeling you're a victim of other people who are minding their own business. Moms at home harming you?

Uh, yes, as indicated above....

+1000. And when they go out on "maternity leave" and never come back; just f*cks it up for those of us that are working to dispel the suspicion of investment in young women. It's one of the most selfish and detrimental things a woman to do the workforce for the other women around them.

Don't blame the women for leaving an inflexible work place. Maybe if we had adequate time for maternity leave like every other civilized nation, women would be more inclined to return to their jobs.

So you think the way to do this is to blame SAHM moms?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In other words, if a man has a SAHM for a wife, does he necessarily have an advantage over his female colleagues?

No the existence of SAHM does not impeded professional women.

An attitude that professional women cannot do a fantastic job because they don't have a milk maid at home catering to them, does.

Do you not know any ball-buster Mom professional women?? Great moms, great bosses, great at their careers. They can multi-task and run circles around any myopic ADHD professional men.

All of this. OP and the women agreeing with her have no one to blame but themselves for their lack of success in the workplace.

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Anonymous wrote:It is detrimental to professional women because it creates a suspicion of all women of child bearing age, that they aren't worth investing in, will leave an employer in a lurch, etc.

I agree 100%.

It's more detrimental to walk around feeling you're a victim of other people who are minding their own business. Moms at home harming you?

Uh, yes, as indicated above....

+1000. And when they go out on "maternity leave" and never come back; just f*cks it up for those of us that are working to dispel the suspicion of investment in young women. It's one of the most selfish and detrimental things a woman to do the workforce for the other women around them.

Don't blame the women for leaving an inflexible work place. Maybe if we had adequate time for maternity leave like every other civilized nation, women would be more inclined to return to their jobs.

Victim, victim, whine whine. Look for a job with benefits that you want before you leave and complain about how they don't have the benefits you want. Or save up for what you want and realize it may never be enough. You do you. Others are going to do what is best for them. Your breeding doesn't matter in the long financial picture.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No other professional women impede professional women, mainly those who think their jobs should coddle them because they also have kids.

Choose your field wisely. Don't expect the nature of a job to change because you want to stop everything at 3:30pm to take the kids to piano and soccer.

And yet a man can do the same with accolades from his employers for having work-life balance. Double standards in opportunity, expectations, flexibility and pay.

Not a surprise because this nation chose a imbecile as a president because he is a man over a well qualified woman.