Do the existence of SAHM impede professional women?

[Anonymous]

In other words, if a man has a SAHM for a wife, does he necessarily have an advantage over his female colleagues?

[Anonymous]

I'm going to say no because those professional women could choose to have a SAHD husband if they wanted.

I work and although my husband works as well, he has a much more flexible job and does all the lead parent stuff and makes dinner every night.

If a woman can't create an arrangement like that with her own husband, who she chose to marry, that's her problem. She needs to get her house in order.

[Anonymous]

Here we go

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In other words, if a man has a SAHM for a wife, does he necessarily have an advantage over his female colleagues?

He has an advantage because he's a man, and men make more. For a variety of reasons. I don't necessarily see a connection with his having a SAHW though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other words, if a man has a SAHM for a wife, does he necessarily have an advantage over his female colleagues?

He has an advantage because he's a man, and men make more. For a variety of reasons. I don't necessarily see a connection with his having a SAHW though.

Some women feel that the men in their workplaces have an unfair advantage over them because they have SAH wives much more frequently than professional women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to say no because those professional women could choose to have a SAHD husband if they wanted.

I work and although my husband works as well, he has a much more flexible job and does all the lead parent stuff and makes dinner every night.

If a woman can't create an arrangement like that with her own husband, who she chose to marry, that's her problem. She needs to get her house in order.

Ha no. Being a SAHD sucks b/c the SAHMs shun you, and it’s looked upon by almost everyone no matter how accomplished the woman. Look at Sandberg, if any family needed a SAHD it would be hers but she had a CEO DH.

Having a SAHM is a huge career advantage, economic specialization is a well studied effect.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm going to say no because those professional women could choose to have a SAHD husband if they wanted.

I work and although my husband works as well, he has a much more flexible job and does all the lead parent stuff and makes dinner every night.

If a woman can't create an arrangement like that with her own husband, who she chose to marry, that's her problem. She needs to get her house in order.

Ha no. Being a SAHD sucks b/c the SAHMs shun you, and it’s looked upon by almost everyone no matter how accomplished the woman. Look at Sandberg, if any family needed a SAHD it would be hers but she had a CEO DH.

Having a SAHM is a huge career advantage, economic specialization is a well studied effect.

Depends on where you live. Here in Seattle, for example, there are a lot of SAHDs. Or men who are "creatives" and for all intents and purposes unemployed but pursuing their creative passions. That's actually pretty common.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it gives the man an advantage.
But no, it doesn't impede professional women. Life isn't fair in all kinds of ways--everyone has some hidden advantage that someone else doesn't have. The trick is to play to your strengths so that you can get ahead despite not having the advantages someone else has, whether that be an Ivy League degree, a SAHM that takes care of things at home, or something else.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other words, if a man has a SAHM for a wife, does he necessarily have an advantage over his female colleagues?

He has an advantage because he's a man, and men make more. For a variety of reasons. I don't necessarily see a connection with his having a SAHW though.

Some women feel that the men in their workplaces have an unfair advantage over them because they have SAH wives much more frequently than professional women do.

What exactly is the advantage in the work place to having a stay at home spouse of any sort? Vs. being single? Or having a working spouse? I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

No other professional women impede professional women, mainly those who think their jobs should coddle them because they also have kids.

Choose your field wisely. Don't expect the nature of a job to change because you want to stop everything at 3:30pm to take the kids to piano and soccer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:In other words, if a man has a SAHM for a wife, does he necessarily have an advantage over his female colleagues?

He has an advantage because he's a man, and men make more. For a variety of reasons. I don't necessarily see a connection with his having a SAHW though.

Some women feel that the men in their workplaces have an unfair advantage over them because they have SAH wives much more frequently than professional women do.

What exactly is the advantage in the work place to having a stay at home spouse of any sort? Vs. being single? Or having a working spouse? I don't get it.

Or choosing to remain childless? Isn't that another big advantage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No other professional women impede professional women, mainly those who think their jobs should coddle them because they also have kids.

Choose your field wisely. Don't expect the nature of a job to change because you want to stop everything at 3:30pm to take the kids to piano and soccer.

women impede other women

[Anonymous]

Having someone at home to take care of kids, laundry, meals, etc is a huge advantage. That this person is usually a mom rather than a dad, grandma, housekeeper, etc dors not mean SAHM's "impede" professional women and the way you phrased that was very trolly.

Most of my staff are women (married and single, moms and not) and everyone more senior than I am is a man with a SAH wife. I do spend a fair amount of time reminding these men that staff are not lazy just because they're not free to stay late or work an unusual schedule.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Having an Ivy League education is also an advantage, having parents who paid for your education and thus no loans is an advantage, being able to afford living close to work and thus limited commute is an advantage, having a house cleaner is an advantage, being a native English speaker is an advantage...the list goes on and on and on and on.

Life isn't fair; get over it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having someone at home to take care of kids, laundry, meals, etc is a huge advantage. That this person is usually a mom rather than a dad, grandma, housekeeper, etc dors not mean SAHM's "impede" professional women and the way you phrased that was very trolly.

Most of my staff are women (married and single, moms and not) and everyone more senior than I am is a man with a SAH wife. I do spend a fair amount of time reminding these men that staff are not lazy just because they're not free to stay late or work an unusual schedule.

Good for you! Keep on keeping on!