First World Problem: Disrespectful Cleaning Woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to fire her and find your self esteem. It is not your fault that she's disrespectful. It is your fault, however, that you are taking this. You confront her and then fire her, or just summarily fire her, but under no circumstances should you keep her after you tell her she's rude. Your cleaning lady can do a lot of bad things to your stuff and to you. Don't even give her the chance.

Thanks. You are 100% right about the self-esteem issue. The fear is that she IS a good cleaning lady and I might have a hard time finding one as good. That's my dilemma.

I know exactly what you mean!My dog sitter trashes the house, I leave it spotless when going on vacation and come back to mess and dirt....I would fire her but she is so responsible, my dog is safe with her and not abused, brushed, fed and provided water.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to fire her and find your self esteem. It is not your fault that she's disrespectful. It is your fault, however, that you are taking this. You confront her and then fire her, or just summarily fire her, but under no circumstances should you keep her after you tell her she's rude. Your cleaning lady can do a lot of bad things to your stuff and to you. Don't even give her the chance.

Thanks. You are 100% right about the self-esteem issue. The fear is that she IS a good cleaning lady and I might have a hard time finding one as good. That's my dilemma.

I know exactly what you mean!My dog sitter trashes the house, I leave it spotless when going on vacation and come back to mess and dirt....I would fire her but she is so responsible, my dog is safe with her and not abused, brushed, fed and provided water.

You know what's important, good pet parent!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know, I know....such a 1st world problem, but I am wondering if anyone runs into problems with a rude or disrespectful cleaning lady. I have and wonder if 1) I am too sensitive, 2) my being nice and friendly is mistaken for weakness and somehow inviting it, or 3) it's just typical these days. Two examples (since she was just here):

1.) I walked into the bedroom to check on something (I had given her instructions last time about it and she didn't do it), and she said, "I know, I know. But you're in the way, and you can leave." Then she should made a go-away motion with her hand. (Yes, really!)

2.) I wanted to give her a holiday bonus, which would be double the $120 fee. I wrote out a check for $240, and she told me that she wanted the bonus amount in cash. I said I didn't have $120 lying around, and she told me there is an ATM a few blocks away and I could go get cash - and she'd wait. I told her I didn't want to go out in the rain, but she insisted she wanted cash. So, in order to keep her happy, I grabbed my umbrella and went out.

Am I making too big a deal over these types of things? Is it just stuff one needs to put up with to keep a cleaning lady?

I can't believe you put up with her, especially that ATM thing

She wants cash as a gift, so it's not a paycheck. If it's a gift, no taxes. Get it?

That is completely false. I get a bonus at work, and the amount is included on my w-2 as wages. I certainly don't waltz into my boss' office and demand the bonus in cash so I don't have to pay tax on it.

Hello?? Do you even get that she’s probably not paying taxes at all?? Wow. She wants the tip to be off the books. No way would I give it to her in cash, regardless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You pay her $120 to clean your house and you expect her to have a smile on her face and gratitude in her heart. I would resent you too.

She should have gone into a different profession then. You wanting to clean up after someone is your problem not the person who hired you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You pay her $120 to clean your house and you expect her to have a smile on her face and gratitude in her heart. I would resent you too.

That comes to $30 an hour in income for the cleaning person. Cleaning people can and often do clean two houses a day, 5 days a week. That is $1200 a week in income, probably tax free.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You pay her $120 to clean your house and you expect her to have a smile on her face and gratitude in her heart. I would resent you too.

NP. Yes, I would expect you to have gratitude in your heart, a smile on your face, and to take off my boots when I ring the bell.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You pay her $120 to clean your house and you expect her to have a smile on her face and gratitude in her heart. I would resent you too.

That comes to $30 an hour in income for the cleaning person. Cleaning people can and often do clean two houses a day, 5 days a week. That is $1200 a week in income, probably tax free.

That works out to $60,000 a year - equivalent to $80,000 if it's tax-free. It's hard work, but it requires no education. Plenty of people with college degrees don't earn that, even here in DC.

[Anonymous]

Are you writing bad checks OP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous[b wrote:]Fire her via text and be done with it. She doesn't deserve more than that.

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+1. Terrible attitude and disrespectful.

[Anonymous]

I can clean your house for 80k a year. I have a keen eye and never miss spots and i am not disrespectful but having known many cleaning ladies you probably have 1 from honduras or nicaragua who talks with her hands hence the wave motion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You pay her $120 to clean your house and you expect her to have a smile on her face and gratitude in her heart. I would resent you too.

That comes to $30 an hour in income for the cleaning person. Cleaning people can and often do clean two houses a day, 5 days a week. That is $1200 a week in income, probably tax free.

That works out to $60,000 a year - equivalent to $80,000 if it's tax-free. It's hard work, but it requires no education. Plenty of people with college degrees don't earn that, even here in DC.

Yes but its hard manual labor. The chemicals that can get in your eye or skin, the fumes, the constant bending and danger of slipping, the often early arthritis from such a physical job and the exhausting work it is. That rude cleaning lady has it easy peezy. Working for a hotel is constant work around the clock and dirtier people.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to fire her and find your self esteem. It is not your fault that she's disrespectful. It is your fault, however, that you are taking this. You confront her and then fire her, or just summarily fire her, but under no circumstances should you keep her after you tell her she's rude. Your cleaning lady can do a lot of bad things to your stuff and to you. Don't even give her the chance.

Thanks. You are 100% right about the self-esteem issue. The fear is that she IS a good cleaning lady and I might have a hard time finding one as good. That's my dilemma.

I know exactly what you mean!My dog sitter trashes the house, I leave it spotless when going on vacation and come back to mess and dirt....I would fire her but she is so responsible, my dog is safe with her and not abused, brushed, fed and provided water.

Geez Louise - explain to her how to not make a mess of your home and how to pick up after herself. What is wrong with you?
She is obviously not responsible if you come back to a dirty house that’s strange.

[Anonymous]

For that kind of disrespect, no bonus whatsoever. Her behaviors are completely unprofessional.

You must get a better one.

[Anonymous]

Yes, you are too nice and kind. She doesn't deserve your kindness.