If you're married, how quickly did you know you were dealing with the "one"?

[Anonymous]

It was gradual where I had an inkling early on but I needed time to make sure. We were exclusive after 3 months of dating. I remember going on a trip with my friends overseas probably 4 months into the relationship and the last night this cute guy was putting on the hard court press. I hadn't fallen in love with my DH at that point but I knew he had potential to be the one and I didn't want to mess that up or have a guiltily conscience.

So while no one before that had even made it to potential, it took me almost 2 years to go from potential to absolutely sure. It's like, the little red engine where I'm thinking I think I can, I think I can and then finally I realize I'm doing it. I had to know we could communicate when we disagreed (and we had to work few a few things) and we could spend time together including being snowed in and taking vacations and still coming out happy with each other. Something clicked one day and suddenly I had faith in our relationship and it's ability to evolve. While I agree with people that there isn't necessarily just one person for you, now that we've been together almost 20 years, I can't imagine how anyone else would fit me as well as my DH.

[Anonymous]

Within a couple months and I was only 16. That was 20 years ago and we are about to celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary.

[Anonymous]

I was 34, living, working, dating in NYC. Involved with a douch bag. Had a death in my family and DB ghosted me. DH and I worked in the same building and after I hadn't returned his call to my office phone , he came looking for me. Girls in the office told him what happened and when I would be back. Day I came back he came up to the office and asked me to lunch. I declined. He asked me to go for a drink the next night. I went. Hit it off immediately. One thing that was different was that when he hugged me it felt different than anyone else. Safe. Knew within 3 weeks he was the one. Married 2 years later. The 2 year wait was me. He would have done it within 6 months. 11 years ago and we are coming up on our 9 year anniversary.