If you're married, how quickly did you know you were dealing with the "one"?
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Anonymous
| Oh, right away. Love/lust at first sight for sure, but I knew it could be for real on date 1 which finally occurred a few years after meeting (I knew him from afar only until date 1). |
Anonymous
Wow, having dinner at whoever's house on the 1st night in NO WAY implies sex. Actually that's sad you think that way, sad women have put up with men like that in the dating world. My friend dated a guy who she was interested in. On the 4th or 5th date he let her know it was time to have sex, lol. She hardly knew him and nicely told him they need to know each other a lot better. |
Anonymous
| We both knew the day we met that things were different with each other than anyone in our pasts. We were just so immediately comfortable with each other. We both told our friends within a week or so "He/she just gets me!" Our (separate) friends started talking about us getting married just a couple months in to the relationship. Not sure there was a moment I "knew" but I always thought I could see myself marrying him. We got engaged a year after we met. |
Anonymous
Is that you DH? We also married 8 years after we met. |
Anonymous
| I decided too soon. I should have waited 5 years to see the ADHD arise. I would have run like hell. Now I'm stuck until the kids grow up. Bitter, bitter, bitter. |
Anonymous
| I don't think I was dealing with "the one", I think there isn't any such thing as one "the one". Lots of different people would have worked, if it wasn't him, it would have been someone else. But I wasn't looking for "the one", was looking for someone with similar goals and compatibility. |
Anonymous
| Very quickly. Unfortunately, I was married at the time. |
Anonymous
| Almost immediately. We met and I felt both attracted and very comfortable. People assumed we were married everywhere we went. Within a week we were talking about marriage and saying "I love you." |
Anonymous
| We clicked instantly and later revealed we had both thought we'd found our soulmate. Together for 20 years so far and thanking my lucky stars every one of those days. He is an amazing person and makes me a better person, too. |
Anonymous
Same here. We've now been happily together 13 years and married 8. |
Anonymous
| I had known my DH for a few years before we had our first date. After the first date we were so comfortable together that we never went through the "will he call me for a date again" scene. We just started doing things together. I don't recall exactly when he became the "one" but it was definitely within the first 1 or 2 months. We had sex our second evening together which was crazy for me given that I was quite the prude but I was as much the initiator that night as he was. I do remember thinking about how naughty I had been and how good it felt. We've been married a long time and I still like to initiate. |
Anonymous
| A friend of hers told me that she wanted me to ask her to dance (college). I looked at her far across the room, and had an instant realization that we would be together for the long term. The feeling was serious, almost solemn. Exactly 35 years later --today-- we are still powering ahead, with grown kids and grandchildren in the caravan. |
Anonymous
No no no! I didn't marry the one. I merely married my girlfriend. She became that over a matter of years: a lot of good times and a few bad, plus some conscious decisions. |
Anonymous
| Less than a month. |
Anonymous
My post^^^ we started planning the future within 6 months. Moved in together a year later, married 2 years after that. |