If you're married, how quickly did you know you were dealing with the "one"?
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Anonymous
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I told him I loved him after 2 weeks. I think we started talking marriage after 2 months. We got engaged after 14 months.
Of course, I was 19...so everything is pretty dramatic and fast at that point! Still, 12+ years later we're still going strong. |
Anonymous
| It was clear pretty quickly. We dated for two months before I moved away for a pre-arranged internship, and by the the time I left we were already talking about my coming back and moving in with him. I did so a few months later and we were engaged within the year (married with two kids 5 years after meeting) |
Anonymous
| I knew my DH for three years before we had our first date so I knew him very well as a good friend. I was actually the one to make the first move and invited him to my place for dinner...followed by breakfast! Within a month I was sure he was the one. |
Anonymous
| Second date. Didn't talk about knowing he was the one for months, though, didn't want to jinx it. |
Anonymous
The same except I knew her for a year before the first date. Plus I was too lazy to go out there and show anyone how awesome I am so the time seemed right to get serious and get married. Very happy after 20 years. |
Anonymous
| second date, I had a feeling. we were married less than 2 years later. I was 36. |
Anonymous
Sleeping with him on the first date seems pretty bold! |
Anonymous
| I don't believe in "the one" in that sense. That said, there is no one on earth with whom I could share what I now share with my DH. We met at 18, started dating at 19, and married at 28. Having met young and shared each other's formative years, we really helped shape each other. Neither of us was in a rush to get married, but we grew toward that decision together over the years. |
Anonymous
At the 3 year mark? |
Anonymous
We were good friends so it wasn't like he was a stranger but it certainly was out of character for me. I was a virgin until I was 22 and I had only had sex with three guys prior to DH. His spending the night was definitely planned by me to his surprise. He had briefly dated a GF of mine who described his sexual prowess (stamina, not size) so I was very intrigued and she was right. |
Anonymous
If you invite a guy to your place for dinner on the first date, sex can't be a huge surprise! Maybe the surprise was inviting him to your place for dinner in the first place. I'm sure he was anxious to see what you were serving for dessert. |
Anonymous
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My now-DH told me three months into our relationship that he wanted to marry me. He was coming off a prestigious clerkship, and I was applying to graduate schools all over the country. He told me he was choosing his law firm based on where I might be in school. I told him that he was crazy.
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Anonymous
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My husband told his best friend I was the woman he was going to marry after our third date. (I didn't even deactivate my online dating account for another month after that.) He told me that story at about the 6 month mark, and I was a little spooked tbh, it felt fast. By a year he'd told my mom he was going to marry me, and I started seriously considering what our life would look like together. I knew he was "a good one", but I didn't get to thinking he was "the one" until about 2.5 years.
Together 4.5 years, married 4 months. |
Anonymous
This is DH and I almost exactly although he was the one moving away temporarily 2 months after we started dating. We were both fully committed by the time he left and were engaged within a year. |
Anonymous
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I don't believe in "the one and only". That said, when I met my husband, the moment we made eye contact I had this sense of crossing into a new place. I was dating someone else but knew right then I would marry this man I had just met. Weird but completely true.
We dated for 2 years, said I love you after 7 months and have been married for 17 years. |