Men, be honest, if your wife was fat

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Size 14 looks different on different women. Some are smoking hot and some are decidedly not.

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I highly doubt that many of the men on DCUM (or just in general) know what a size 14 woman looks like, let alone what size their wife wears.

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My wife is a size 6 and hott. She was a 12/14 and was really hott. She carried the weight well.

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DH here, I'm tipping the scale at 225 DW is right around 200

we've each added about 30 pounds over the last 20 years.

I still lover her very much and can't get enough sex with her. She is very self conscious and it affects our sex life I think. She' is also 50+ and while sex was more frequent when we were younger, once a week is a good week for me now...

I want to help both of loose weight. I am the chief cook in the house. and I've ask her to give me a menu to cook from. IE lets both be involved. her choosing foods, me cooking them. But with a kid stillin the house it makes it a bit harder as well, since the kid in a non meat eater. Once kid goes away to college, I think we'd be able to drop some weight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I highly doubt that many of the men on DCUM (or just in general) know what a size 14 woman looks like, let alone what size their wife wears.

My wife was 5-9 and wore size 12. She was curvy, not thin.

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Anonymous wrote:size 14 is considered average in the US.

"Average" does not mean "not fat."

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A size 14 athlete is fat? Size does not always equate to fat percentage. You can look skinny and still be "fat."

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Anonymous wrote:Absolutely. Wife was an 8 when we met. 10 years later she's a 14-16 (recent dress purchase brought her sizing issues to light).

I am still attracted to her and we have a good sex life (average 3 times a week).

That being said, I do wish she would lose the weight

1. Her self confidence isn't great and that does play into a lot of aspects of our life, not iust the sex

2. I miss some of the old positions we used to do that she's no longer comfortable with

3. As much as I am still attracted to her, I did like her smaller size better.

But I've also put on weight so I'm in no place to judge.

I think this would pretty much be my husband's answer, though I was a size 6 when we met. I was a size 8 when we got engaged, and back to a 6 for the wedding. I was between an 8 and a 10 before first kid but gained a lot with both pregnancies and can not get it off. Kids are well past babyhood.

Women can't win on this. I was a size 0-2 before my twins were born and am now a size 6-8. My dh prefers my pre kid size and it has definitely affected my
self esteem and our sex life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I highly doubt that many of the men on DCUM (or just in general) know what a size 14 woman looks like, let alone what size their wife wears.

[Raises hand]. I have no idea what various sizes look like. Give me hip, waist, chest measurements. If the waist is narrower than the other two measurements, chances are I'm going to be on board.

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I'm 5'8'', wear size 8 at 160 pounds, and I disgust myself.

If I was a size 14, I would think any attraction to me likely comes from a very niche audience.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 5'8'', wear size 8 at 160 pounds, and I disgust myself.

If I was a size 14, I would think any attraction to me likely comes from a very niche audience.

Sounds like you have low self esteem. If you have digits for yourself, how is that going to attract others regardless of size? Confidence goes a LONG way. I'd rather date or marry a confident with extra weight that a small sized women who loathes herself. In regards to size I think you'd be surprised.

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Anonymous wrote:Size 14
Would you still be sexually attracted to her?

How tall? Size 14 is not fat for many women.

5feet 7 inches

I am 5'7" a size 14 and I am within the weight suggested as healthy by my doctor. i walk 15000+ steps a day, I average 30 flights of stairs a day, I bycycle 40 minutes 4 times a week. I have very healthy.

A healthy weight at 5'7" would be under 155lbs. I doubt you are a size 14 at that weight and height.

Agree. I'm 5'7, 145 size 8. To be a 14, I'd likely weigh 180+

I was 5'9" 138 and I wore size 10, now I am 155 and wear a 12.

Do you work out? Im at the gym 6 days a week and am the same height and weight and am an 8 and this is me slightly bigger due to a knee injury that mow keeps me from running.. 12s would fall off my body. When I was at my absolute peak of physical fitness, counting macros and doinh 2 a days, I gained weight and lost inches.

I have always been like this. The women in the store will bring me a size 6 when they want me to try something on and they are flabbergasted when they find out I am a 10/12.

I am much thinner than my friend and when we try to borrow clothes it's a no go.

I have size 10 feet and I can't wear women's gloves. Never could.

I run 3 times a week, do Bikram Yoga 2x a week. I do pushups/planks/lunges/weights after my run.

When I was size 10 I was a college athlete - basketball.

I don't actually want to lose weight or inches. That is the thing, I look great.

Cindy Crawford was a size 10.

Cindy Crawford was a U.K. Size 10 which is a US size 6. Please stop spreading misinformation. Let me guess, next you will be telling us that Marilyn Monroe was a size 16?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go look at statues of fertility goddesses and Aphrodites. They all have full thighs, bellies, butts. This American obsession with adult women looking like adolescent boys is insane. If you really want an adolescent boy, go get yourself one.

This is what fat women tell themselves to feel better about their poor lifestyle choices. A fit woman does not, at all, look like an adolescent boy. But sure, keep devouring those twinkies while you blame everyone else for their lack of good taste.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go look at statues of fertility goddesses and Aphrodites. They all have full thighs, bellies, butts. This American obsession with adult women looking like adolescent boys is insane. If you really want an adolescent boy, go get yourself one.

This is what fat women tell themselves to feel better about their poor lifestyle choices. A fit woman does not, at all, look like an adolescent boy. But sure, keep devouring those twinkies while you blame everyone else for their lack of good taste.

I agree! Take down all obese statues!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Go look at statues of fertility goddesses and Aphrodites. They all have full thighs, bellies, butts. This American obsession with adult women looking like adolescent boys is insane. If you really want an adolescent boy, go get yourself one.

This is what fat women tell themselves to feel better about their poor lifestyle choices. A fit woman does not, at all, look like an adolescent boy. But sure, keep devouring those twinkies while you blame everyone else for their lack of good taste.

American men have distorted views because of the prevalence of fake boobs here. A size 2-4 with 34DD breasts is not the result of being fit. It's a surgical intervention. Go to other countries and look at the fit women. Almost always A cups.