Vent about my wedding last weekend...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I googled.

Ibero American = Central or South America

I guess it makes you feel better to say Ibero American?

feel better about what?
they asked if I'm Hispanic or from the Philippines and I'm not.
what else should I say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Anyway, let me write this women an email asking for my bouquet back.

Wait, so you know who has it? Then just ask for it back already. Geesh.

isn't WOMEN plural?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Poor husband.

He doesn't read DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:maybe my house is small and needs some repair but i'm so happy with my life right now that everything looks more colorful, birds sing everywhere I go and my simple, modest home does seem brand new and beautiful to me. sorry if it hurts you.

You are clearly insane. One moment your life is ruined because of a cake, some missing decorations, and some lost flowers, and the next you are so happy that singing birds are following you around.

[Anonymous]

Don't you have school paperwork to finish, a reception hall to burn down... ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have school paperwork to finish, a reception hall to burn down... ?

A beautiful new home to decorate? No, wait, not a beautiful new, a modest home. No wait, earlier she said she was renting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have school paperwork to finish, a reception hall to burn down... ?

A beautiful new home to decorate? No, wait, not a beautiful new, a modest home. No wait, earlier she said she was renting.

I'm guessing the bluebirds are decorating, a la Snow White, while she's busy at the computer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry that the flowers disappeared since they were so important to you. A few thoughts to share:

1. It sounds like you were very insistent about wanting people to take the leftover things from the wedding. Unfortunately, your bouquet was one of those things in the end, possibly lost in the confusion of the end of the wedding. It might have been at your seat initially, but in the midst of cleaning it was moved and eventually taken. Sounds like it was a mistake.

2. If the wedding was last weekend, the bouquet is probably not in great shape now and probably wouldn't preserve well. I'd find a way to let it go.

3. Can you think of an alternate way to share your special event with your mother and grandmother? E.g. have a mini-bouquet of those flowers made during your visit to give them? And get photos of you with them AND the flowers?

The wedding was Sunday...
Thanks for the suggestions I'm already working on it
I'll get some of the flowers I had on the bouquet and frame it with a pic of me and the bouquet...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have school paperwork to finish, a reception hall to burn down... ?

A beautiful new home to decorate? No, wait, not a beautiful new, a modest home. No wait, earlier she said she was renting.

You didn't read, did you?
Let me repeat again, s-l-o-w-l-y...
We
were
renting
and
we
just
bought
our
first
home.

Got it?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't you have school paperwork to finish, a reception hall to burn down... ?

A beautiful new home to decorate? No, wait, not a beautiful new, a modest home. No wait, earlier she said she was renting.

You didn't read, did you?
Let me repeat again, s-l-o-w-l-y...
We
were
renting
and
we
just
bought
our
first
home.

Got it?

No I don't got it. In an earlier post you said "we rent" you didn't say "we just bought a home." Show me the post where you said you bought a home. I think you're making up stuff as you go along.

[Anonymous]

Why not say you are from South or Central America?

OK, this thread is a bit like watching a train wreck. OP, you come across as manic, sanctimonious and unhinged. Oh, and I forgot the martyr part.

[Anonymous]

This has to be the craziest topic ever. OP, if you are so invested in your bouquet and having your family see it. I have an idea get a duplicate! And for gods sake quit bitching about it.

If you didn't want negative feedback, this was not the place because we all have different views/opinions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm just curious...how much did this extravaganza cost? I'm betting $100,000 - $300,000.

It all sounds so absurd.

OP here..
Are you kidding me???????????
We're both studying full time and working full time. We don't have family in the country and we could not afford to bring them (visas to US cost lots of money).
They're poor back home so we often send them money to help with basic expenses... we just bought our first car and first home. So far we were both using public transportation and paying rent.
We didn't have a ceremony - we got married at the officiant's office to save in costs and we had only 40 people attending... we had brunch at a local restaurant.
I don't think I'll ever see this amount of money in my life!!!!

was it fast enough?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This has to be the craziest topic ever. OP, if you are so invested in your bouquet and having your family see it. I have an idea get a duplicate! And for gods sake quit bitching about it.

If you didn't want negative feedback, this was not the place because we all have different views/opinions.

I'm not complaining about the negative feedback, I'm loving it!
I was sad in the beginning but now I'm laughing...
It's the only time during the entire wedding I got to be the Bridezilla and I love the fact that nobody will be angry at me later since you don't really know who I am LOL
I had fun then and I'm having fun now.

And to the nice, elegant and kind women with the nice suggestions THANK YOU! You saved my day

[Anonymous]

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Yes, you're the very picture of reason. You are way, way over-invested in this bouquet, especially if you believe you're in any way unable to "share this special moment in [your] life" with your mother and grandmother without it. It's a bunch of flowers.

I have 2 guesses about you...
1)you're a straight man
2)you don't have emotional bonds with your mother or grandmother
maybe a 3rd one... you had them all at your wedding.
I'll throw a 4th one... maybe you're not even married at all!!!

Anyway, I have a brand new beautiful house to organize and school paperwork to finish.

Bridezilla moment is over but please keep the encouraging words coming and also the good ideas to approach my female guests...

Thanks

That explains it.

what's wrong with the bold part?
my gay friends are much more sensitive with girl's issues and they were so mad when I told them someone took my bouquet. my straight friends laughed at me at dinner last night when I mentioned it and told me to get over it.
and you might be the person who wrote the post about buying a house you don't love.
maybe my house is small and needs some repair but i'm so happy with my life right now that everything looks more colorful, birds sing everywhere I go and my simple, modest home does seem brand new and beautiful to me. sorry if it hurts you.

hurt? what? That's some weird stretch of the imagination.

By definition, a "brand new beautiful house" doesn't need repair work.

Maybe if you had shaved money off your wedding, you'd have more to put down on a house that wasn't in need of repair work.

And stop stereotyping. I know plenty of gays who'd laugh at your post, too.