Did you marry someone you did not love?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think my DW did. She put on a good show while we were dating; interest in sex, oral sex, easygoing personality. All that changed when we got married. I should have gotten the marriage annulled them, but she was pregnant with our first son so I stuck with it for the kids. Now trapped in a loveless sexless marriage.

You can get out of the marriage at any time. You're choosing not to.

[Anonymous]

Dh and I were passionately in love when we got married -- passionate fights, lots of sex, lots of laughter and traveling. Then we had our first kid and the whole dynamic changed. That first year was really tough and we almost divorced. Fast forward five years and we're comfortably happy together -- less passion, but we've learned to appreciate the peace and quiet that comes with our new lifestyle (and living it together). I think learning that love changes throughout the years (or even week to week) has helped us immensely.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling a lot of the women here have done this, simply to attain the goal of having children. It's sad. It's. It what marriage should be. Call me crazy, but I think you should adore and be crazy about your spouse. Children should come as an offshoot of that crazy love. The spouse shouldn't simply be a means to an end.

I never wanted to have kids. I got married to my DH because I was tired of dating people, getting to know their families and friends and then breaking up and seeing none of them again. My DH and I had been friends for 5 years already and I realized that I would not like not seeing him anymore. We started dating and things were just fine (good sex, his family wasn't crazier than mine) and then we got married. 30 years later after much 'stuff' I probably love him more than at the beginning even. He's thrown a lot of crap my way over the years but overall he's a great great guy and I enjoy his company immensely. I also got lucky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I get the feeling a lot of the women here have done this, simply to attain the goal of having children. It's sad. It's. It what marriage should be. Call me crazy, but I think you should adore and be crazy about your spouse. Children should come as an offshoot of that crazy love. The spouse shouldn't simply be a means to an end.

I never wanted to have kids. I got married to my DH because I was tired of dating people, getting to know their families and friends and then breaking up and seeing none of them again. My DH and I had been friends for 5 years already and I realized that I would not like not seeing him anymore. We started dating and things were just fine (good sex, his family wasn't crazier than mine) and then we got married. 30 years later after much 'stuff' I probably love him more than at the beginning even. He's thrown a lot of crap my way over the years but overall he's a great great guy and I enjoy his company immensely. I also got lucky.

And yes we have kids. He apparently wanted kids. Totally upended our lives and especially mine but I don't regret it at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is a epidemic off gold digging whores in the west.

Don't worry. I think most of them are only interested in men who know how to use capital letters.

And correct apostrophes. Hint- it's not for plurals. [Re: your earlier posts.]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:relationships are done in the western world. feminism killed love.

Can't you just picture this pathetic bastard? All bitter, and raging against evil, evil women on a parenting forum on a Friday night. Sad!

I have a brother who was like this. It seriously took him 50 years to realize that his self centered bitter, suspicious of women single life was boring as hell and he finally settled down with a nice gal. 50 years. He was completely insufferable and hateful for so many years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is a epidemic off gold digging whores in the west.

Don't worry. I think most of them are only interested in men who know how to use capital letters.

And correct apostrophes. Hint- it's not for plurals. [Re: your earlier posts.]

Omg who cares? Get a life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:relationships are done in the western world. feminism killed love.

Can't you just picture this pathetic bastard? All bitter, and raging against evil, evil women on a parenting forum on a Friday night. Sad!

always troll the people who are the most sensitive about stuff.

He needs it - his thinking is really messed up. He needs a kick in the tushy towards more mature/less hateful thinking and a life that involves more than living in his mom's basement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is a epidemic off gold digging whores in the west.

Don't worry. I think most of them are only interested in men who know how to use capital letters.

And correct apostrophes. Hint- it's not for plurals. [Re: your earlier posts.]

Omg who cares? Get a life.

If you're not the ignorant, uneducated guy who's been posting on this thread, you seem like a great match for him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is a epidemic off gold digging whores in the west.

Don't worry. I think most of them are only interested in men who know how to use capital letters.

And correct apostrophes. Hint- it's not for plurals. [Re: your earlier posts.]

Omg who cares? Get a life.

If you're not the ignorant, uneducated guy who's been posting on this thread, you seem like a great match for him.

Well, then we're all a good match for him I guess. Let go of the hate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is a epidemic off gold digging whores in the west.

Don't worry. I think most of them are only interested in men who know how to use capital letters.

And correct apostrophes. Hint- it's not for plurals. [Re: your earlier posts.]

Omg who cares? Get a life.

If you're not the ignorant, uneducated guy who's been posting on this thread, you seem like a great match for him.

Why are you attacking his grammar - I don't get it.

[Anonymous]

I love my husband but unfortunately the sexual part isn't great. We waited until after marriage to have sex. We married too young. I would probably marry him again if I were to go back in time. He's an amazing person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is a epidemic off gold digging whores in the west.

Don't worry. I think most of them are only interested in men who know how to use capital letters.

And correct apostrophes. Hint- it's not for plurals. [Re: your earlier posts.]

Omg who cares? Get a life.

If you're not the ignorant, uneducated guy who's been posting on this thread, you seem like a great match for him.

Well, then we're all a good match for him I guess. Let go of the hate.

Haha would just like to go ahead and definitively establish that I am not a good match for him. Hard pass

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:there is a epidemic off gold digging whores in the west.

Don't worry. I think most of them are only interested in men who know how to use capital letters.

And correct apostrophes. Hint- it's not for plurals. [Re: your earlier posts.]

Omg who cares? Get a life.

If you're not the ignorant, uneducated guy who's been posting on this thread, you seem like a great match for him.

Well, then we're all a good match for him I guess. Let go of the hate.

Haha would just like to go ahead and definitively establish that I am not a good match for him. Hard pass

No - let him have nightmares of endless aggressive women pursuing him.

PP we're coming to date you!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think my DW did. She put on a good show while we were dating; interest in sex, oral sex, easygoing personality. All that changed when we got married. I should have gotten the marriage annulled them, but she was pregnant with our first son so I stuck with it for the kids. Now trapped in a loveless sexless marriage.

You can get out of the marriage at any time. You're choosing not to.

I stay married to a person who doesn't love me for the kids. My DW is collage educated but she can't support herself and she knows that. Divorce would subject her and our children to a life of poverty. Dependency does not equal love.