Discussion this morning women who wear bikinis that are over 40.

[Anonymous]

I see what you mean. But to me fit is one thing and comfort is another. I actually swim and don't want to be bothered by slipping bra straps or the feeling that the bottoms could find their way loose. If you don't do much more than some mild paddling around, I suppose neither of those would be a concern if you were wearing a two piece.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I see what you mean. But to me fit is one thing and comfort is another. I actually swim and don't want to be bothered by slipping bra straps or the feeling that the bottoms could find their way loose. If you don't do much more than some mild paddling around, I suppose neither of those would be a concern if you were wearing a two piece.

What does this mean? You swim laps? Your bathing suit bottom should never fall off. That would be odd. I "swim" with my three kids in a bikini - they've never seen me in a one piece unless I'm swimming laps.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So...four whole pages and barely any mention of the fact that we women have had to endure...and accept...years and years of dealing with the saggy, beer-bellied, man-bra eligible, no butt men who are allowed to parade shirtless and free on the beach all day, when we are expected to cover up if we have even one dimple of cellulite? Shameful attitudes!

We're not talking about men here. We're talking about what we wear and why we choose to wear it. Not everything has to turn into a feminist rant session. And many of us have voiced the exact opposite opinion, that we wear a bikini no matter how imperfect our body may be, and that we feel others should feel free to do the same. Your feelings of "shameful attitude" can only be directed towards 1 or 2 posters.

[Anonymous]

I love it when I see Fatish men in a tiny swim suit in hot yoga. Rock it, man.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So...four whole pages and barely any mention of the fact that we women have had to endure...and accept...years and years of dealing with the saggy, beer-bellied, man-bra eligible, no butt men who are allowed to parade shirtless and free on the beach all day, when we are expected to cover up if we have even one dimple of cellulite? Shameful attitudes!

I mentioned it up thread. All the guys should get rash guards.

[Anonymous]

I live in Europe where most under 60 wear them regardless of shape or age. Kids are horrified by my discolored sagging gut folds and so I will not wear one although I am 32-27-34.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe where most under 60 wear them regardless of shape or age. Kids are horrified by my discolored sagging gut folds and so I will not wear one although I am 32-27-34.

This is not a good message to send to your kids. And btw, it's near universal for kids to be horrified by what their parents are wearing. it's a great opportunity to show them that you (and they) can be themselves and wear stuff even though they are not perfect. But here, you have shown them that "peer pressure" will make you stop wearing something, and that's what they will internalize--that you are not perfect so others will not allow you to wear things and you will allow yourself to be cowed.

My kids have given up and know that "that's just mom, she's crazy" which really means, unique and won't cave to pressure. I wear the bikini and don't have a tan and don't have your (laudable) measurements I don't care. I let my hair go gray and they are now very proud of this (and it looks good--if you keep it long it doesn't age you). They mimic in little ways, for example, I told my 14 y.o. DD this morning that I liked her high ponytail. She said, "Everyone in my school is wearing the low ponytail. I like it high, so I'm going for the high one." Ok, silly, minor, but reflects a lack of fear of being an individual--a step away from the herd mentality.

[Anonymous]

Like a full bathing suit covers so much ...

We're practically naked in a tank or a bikini. I picked up the board shorts habit when we lived in Hawaii. Sometimes I wear them with a bikini top, but I like having the option to wear more clothes and shave less.

[Anonymous]

I go with a bikini that has boy shorts, they do a much better job of covering my hips area than the one-piece suits, which hide my waist and make me look bulky. A bikini just makes me feel less frumpy. If people are bothered that I don't have a perfectly flat belly, too bad for them. (I'm 39, and don't plan to alter my beach attire next year.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I live in Europe where most under 60 wear them regardless of shape or age. Kids are horrified by my discolored sagging gut folds and so I will not wear one although I am 32-27-34.

This is not a good message to send to your kids. And btw, it's near universal for kids to be horrified by what their parents are wearing. it's a great opportunity to show them that you (and they) can be themselves and wear stuff even though they are not perfect. But here, you have shown them that "peer pressure" will make you stop wearing something, and that's what they will internalize--that you are not perfect so others will not allow you to wear things and you will allow yourself to be cowed.

My kids have given up and know that "that's just mom, she's crazy" which really means, unique and won't cave to pressure. I wear the bikini and don't have a tan and don't have your (laudable) measurements I don't care. I let my hair go gray and they are now very proud of this (and it looks good--if you keep it long it doesn't age you). They mimic in little ways, for example, I told my 14 y.o. DD this morning that I liked her high ponytail. She said, "Everyone in my school is wearing the low ponytail. I like it high, so I'm going for the high one." Ok, silly, minor, but reflects a lack of fear of being an individual--a step away from the herd mentality.

When I was young, did 200-300 crunches per day, and had a much nicer tummy I almost never wore a bikini. I have never considered my body feminine. I applaud those who have the confidence but I simply do not.

[Anonymous]

I don't think you can put an age on that sort of thing. I've seen plenty of 20- and 30-somethings whom I didn't think looked great in a bikini, but yet there are a lot of physically fit 50-year olds who can rock one!

[Anonymous]

I don't wear them but I don't care if others do. If it bothers my eyes I can just look the eff away. See how that works?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I see what you mean. But to me fit is one thing and comfort is another. I actually swim and don't want to be bothered by slipping bra straps or the feeling that the bottoms could find their way loose. If you don't do much more than some mild paddling around, I suppose neither of those would be a concern if you were wearing a two piece.

What does this mean? You swim laps? Your bathing suit bottom should never fall off. That would be odd. I "swim" with my three kids in a bikini - they've never seen me in a one piece unless I'm swimming laps.

Swim laps and body surf. For the latter especially the risk of losing a bikini bottom is not small.

[Anonymous]

D smh typical. I'll be wearing one God willing I still can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 50. I wear a bikini and will do so for the rest of my life. I think that anyone who wants to wear a bikini SHOULD.

This. Anyone judging someone for wearing a bikini is a hater, through and through. Fuck haters