Sil is too involved in our lives

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are they from a very poor Indian family? It's hard for me to fathom how any normal person from any culture would think it is ok to sleep in the same bedroom as a married couple? Does she have zero common sense? Maybe on tv where an entire poor family sleeps in one room. Anywhere else? I just don't believe someone would be so clueless.

Did you and DH not have sex during the 6 months she stayed in your bedroom?

Dh says his family was poor. I went to India and his parents now have a nice home. His oldest sister is a doctor. There are a lot of weird things about dh. I love him but god he's god he's clueless.

We have sex during the week and a few times we have checked into hotels so his sister can sleep in our bedroom. I wish I we're joking. It's ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

In the event that you're for real and not yanking our chains, OP I'd advise you to head to a forum called Indusladies. It's the largest Indian women's online forum and has sections on relationship issues. You will be able to get more useful advice from people who understand the cultural background.

[Anonymous]

This woman is yanking our chains. She cannot afford a 2BR yet husband gbought SIL a car and checks into a hotel to bang her. Stop responding to this thread. Stuff dont add up here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This woman is yanking our chains. She cannot afford a 2BR yet husband gbought SIL a car and checks into a hotel to bang her. Stop responding to this thread. Stuff dont add up here.

Op here: I know it sounds ridiculous but it's true. Dh bought her a second hand car. He's puts stuff on credit. I'm going to stay with a friend for a while until he gets a clue. I can't do this anymore. Last night she slept at a friends house thank god but called dh early this morning. They were on the phone for over an hour. He drops everything to talk to her, run errands for her etc etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll. OP keeps spicing up the story as it goes along.

+1000

[phone] and spicing the story with curry spices

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll. OP keeps spicing up the story as it goes along.

+1000

[phone] and spicing the story with curry spices

I am not a troll. I think it's only the Indian / south asian people that can understand and believe my situation .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll. OP keeps spicing up the story as it goes along.

+1000

[phone] and spicing the story with curry spices

I am not a troll. I think it's only the Indian / south asian people that can understand and believe my situation .

I think everything is believable except for the fact that his SIL would sleep in the same bedroom as her brother and his wife.

[Anonymous]

Why don't you just tell her off real good in front of him? Let them all hate you but I just can't be disrespected like this in my own home.

[Anonymous]

Do you understand your husband's language? Do you know what he and SIL talk about?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do you understand your husband's language? Do you know what he and SIL talk about?

Yes they speak English most of the time.

[Anonymous]

Your husband surely has a strange bond with his sister- even by indian standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why don't you just tell her off real good in front of him? Let them all hate you but I just can't be disrespected like this in my own home.

This. It's not that hard to let it fly. Bottle it up real good and then freak out on them. A princess like that won't want to live there anymore. Now..see what happens with DH. If he takes 'her side,' and I think he will, it's a done deal. Seriously. This guy needs to go to counseling, with the counselor knowing that the main issue is allowing a sister to be a wedge in his marriage.

[Anonymous]

Op--you don't marry someone from another culture and then whine about their culture! You suck--this is why MILs are so strict abt their sons marrying outsiders

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op--you don't marry someone from another culture and then whine about their culture! You suck--this is why MILs are so strict abt their sons marrying outsiders

This has nothing to do with his culture. I'm sure lots of Indians wouldn't be ok with this either. It would be different IF we could afford a bigger place but we can't. And my mil was has been very accepting of us so I don't know what you're talking about.

[Anonymous]

Sign up SIL on an online dating site.
Introduce SIL to make friends.
Introduce the FWB concept to her.

This is what I call the "displacement principle"- introduce a man in her life so that you can get your husband back. You are strting from an advantageous point- the new man can give something to your SIL which your husband cannot- carnal pleasure