Sil is too involved in our lives

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Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

Your first mistake was being a pushover. You set the tone from the moment she walked through the door. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you sure this is your DH's real sister? By birth? From the same mom?

Yes they all look alike.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

And it's clear now that we have a troll.

OP might be a troll, but I have heard enough stories from my Indian friends back home to know this can happen ( I am Indian too).

I'm sure it does.
But for OP to wait to drop that "bombshell" seems a little fishy. I don't think so. That detail would be in the first post. No whitewoman would put up with this nonsense. It's not part of her culture.

[Anonymous]

This is why white women should marry asian dudes AFTER vetting each and every family member. More so if they are FOBs

[Anonymous]

Report the sil to immigration authorities on some fake issue. Immigrants are hell scared of such shit

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Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

OMG: You're a saint.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

And it's clear now that we have a troll.

OP might be a troll, but I have heard enough stories from my Indian friends back home to know this can happen ( I am Indian too).

You would be surprised what some people put up with for love. My grandmom lived with my family growing up. She often slept in my room.

I'm sure it does.
But for OP to wait to drop that "bombshell" seems a little fishy. I don't think so. That detail would be in the first post. No whitewoman would put up with this nonsense. It's not part of her culture.

[Anonymous]

You took in a brown d*** so this problem should be a cakewalk

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Anonymous wrote:You took in a brown d*** so this problem should be a cakewalk

Wait what?

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Anonymous wrote:You took in a brown d*** so this problem should be a cakewalk

Translate because I have no idea what you're talking about.

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Anonymous wrote:You took in a brown d*** so this problem should be a cakewalk

Translate because I have no idea what you're talking about.

Op here: my husbands di** is amazing. Better and bigger than any white guy I dated. I'm not sure what that person means but who cares.

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Anonymous wrote:You took in a brown d*** so this problem should be a cakewalk

Translate because I have no idea what you're talking about.

This. What are we even talking about?

[Anonymous]

Solution 1- ask husband to set boundaries
Solution 2- move to a bigger apt

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Anonymous wrote:Report the sil to immigration authorities on some fake issue. Immigrants are hell scared of such shit

This is just wrong

[Anonymous]

Troll