Sil is too involved in our lives

[Anonymous]

Get your sil a FWB!

[Anonymous]

Get your sil a FWB!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's what most Southeast Asian families do. They're very close and very much in each other's business. They expect family to help family and they are 'thrifty' but it a way that makes sense financially for them. By staying with you for half a year, she's putting herself on better financial footing for her future. By using your laundry machine, your water bill, your power bill instead of her own or even getting an apartment with that amenity she saves money. Bonus is that she gets to see family while she's doing it.

Get used to it. If she has a job and/or is going to school, her family will say its you that has the problem not her.

She's been with us for 3 years and no I am not going to get used to it. Are you always this bitchy?

I'm not being bitchy. I'm just telling you what you should have known when you married him. 3 years is nothing. She could be getting grad degrees and 'established' for 10 years easily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She should focus her time and energy on dating. Isn't 30 like super old for an Indian woman? I was told after 25, their stock drops.

I don't think she wants to get married. She has super high expectations and I don't see it working out. She's a really pretty girl. The fact that's she's over 30 and hasn't been involved with a guy is so weird. I feel bad for her. She's stuck in adolescence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's what most Southeast Asian families do. They're very close and very much in each other's business. They expect family to help family and they are 'thrifty' but it a way that makes sense financially for them. By staying with you for half a year, she's putting herself on better financial footing for her future. By using your laundry machine, your water bill, your power bill instead of her own or even getting an apartment with that amenity she saves money. Bonus is that she gets to see family while she's doing it.

Get used to it. If she has a job and/or is going to school, her family will say its you that has the problem not her.

She's been with us for 3 years and no I am not going to get used to it. Are you always this bitchy?

I'm not being bitchy. I'm just telling you what you should have known when you married him. 3 years is nothing. She could be getting grad degrees and 'established' for 10 years easily.

Um yes you're and apparently you can't read. She has already finished grad school and is working.

[Anonymous]

So you've listed several bothersome things--the visiting all weekend, buying clothes, phone, etc. if you had to pick one thing that is bugging you the most about this entire situation, what would it be? What do you want to stop the most?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

[Anonymous]

Read your husband the riot act.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

And it's clear now that we have a troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

OMG! Are you freakin kidding? You have to put your foot down and kick her out of your BEDROOM!!!

[Anonymous]

Are you sure this is your DH's real sister? By birth? From the same mom?

[Anonymous]

Stop having sex with tour husband. With randy Indian dudes that is the best way to extract something out of a situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

And it's clear now that we have a troll.

OP might be a troll, but I have heard enough stories from my Indian friends back home to know this can happen ( I am Indian too).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you Indian, OP?
This is typical behavior in many Indian families when a family member arrives in the US, unfortunately.

For 3 years?!?!? I really like my sil actually but we live in a small apartment. It's messing up my marriage. I can't eat Indian food every day. He's always comparing me to his sister. It's so frustrating.

I am a white European.

Unless your husband says/does something this can go on forever till SIL gets married or moves for a job. Even modern Indians back home have 'joint families' where the parents stay with adult married sons, often two to three families in a single household sharing a kitchen and finances. Many Indians wouldn't see anything weird in your setup.

My husband always lead me to believe she would only stay with us for a few months. If we had a bigger place it might be ok. We live in a one bedroom apartment and she stays in our bedroom. I'm not even kidding.

And it's clear now that we have a troll.

Lol I wish I were a troll.