Sil is too involved in our lives

[Anonymous]

Is this a cultural thing maybe imposed by your husbands parents OP? That the brother look after the younger sister until she marries?

It seems like it would be very awkward to have her sleeping in the bedroom with you and your husband.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is this a cultural thing maybe imposed by your husbands parents OP? That the brother look after the younger sister until she marries?

It seems like it would be very awkward to have her sleeping in the bedroom with you and your husband.

Not at all. They have been trying to get her to move out since she first came to theUS. They want her to get married badly.

[Anonymous]

I hope she at least helps out in the apt with cooking, cleaning and baby care. At least let her babysit each weekend so you and your husband can have regular date nights.

Is she very attached to the baby?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this a cultural thing maybe imposed by your husbands parents OP? That the brother look after the younger sister until she marries?

It seems like it would be very awkward to have her sleeping in the bedroom with you and your husband.

Not at all. They have been trying to get her to move out since she first came to theUS. They want her to get married badly.

And by moving out they think she will get lonely and want to find someone.

[Anonymous]

This is definitely a troll. OP keeps spicing up the story as it goes along.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll. OP keeps spicing up the story as it goes along.

+1000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is definitely a troll. OP keeps spicing up the story as it goes along.

+1000[/quote


Where the hell would I get these ideas to make up a story like this? People have been asking questions and I am responding. I was embarrassed to expose some of these details because it's embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's what most Southeast Asian families do. They're very close and very much in each other's business. They expect family to help family and they are 'thrifty' but it a way that makes sense financially for them. By staying with you for half a year, she's putting herself on better financial footing for her future. By using your laundry machine, your water bill, your power bill instead of her own or even getting an apartment with that amenity she saves money. Bonus is that she gets to see family while she's doing it.

Get used to it. If she has a job and/or is going to school, her family will say its you that has the problem not her.

+1000

Wow. The the FOB Indians just like this or the Indian Americans too?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's what most Southeast Asian families do. They're very close and very much in each other's business. They expect family to help family and they are 'thrifty' but it a way that makes sense financially for them. By staying with you for half a year, she's putting herself on better financial footing for her future. By using your laundry machine, your water bill, your power bill instead of her own or even getting an apartment with that amenity she saves money. Bonus is that she gets to see family while she's doing it.

Get used to it. If she has a job and/or is going to school, her family will say its you that has the problem not her.

+1000

Wow. The the FOB Indians just like this or the Indian Americans too?

Op here: I have 4 other Europeans friends who married Indian guys and none of them have had this issue.

[Anonymous]

So what does your Ch say? Might be time for some serious conversations - in the meantime, is go on a date night and make her babysit - if your dh won't go - leave both with baby and go out yourself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what does your Ch say? Might be time for some serious conversations - in the meantime, is go on a date night and make her babysit - if your dh won't go - leave both with baby and go out yourself!

He agrees with me and then nothing changes.

[Anonymous]

Are they from a very poor Indian family? It's hard for me to fathom how any normal person from any culture would think it is ok to sleep in the same bedroom as a married couple? Does she have zero common sense? Maybe on tv where an entire poor family sleeps in one room. Anywhere else? I just don't believe someone would be so clueless.

Did you and DH not have sex during the 6 months she stayed in your bedroom?

[Anonymous]

Feed the troll- start going around naked in the apt! Mention to her brother ie your husband that she had her period today. Get frisky with your husband in front of her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are they from a very poor Indian family? It's hard for me to fathom how any normal person from any culture would think it is ok to sleep in the same bedroom as a married couple? Does she have zero common sense? Maybe on tv where an entire poor family sleeps in one room. Anywhere else? I just don't believe someone would be so clueless.

Did you and DH not have sex during the 6 months she stayed in your bedroom?

Dh says his family was poor. I went to India and his parents now have a nice home. His oldest sister is a doctor. There are a lot of weird things about dh. I love him but god he's god he's clueless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Feed the troll- start going around naked in the apt! Mention to her brother ie your husband that she had her period today. Get frisky with your husband in front of her.

After having a baby I'm not sure I will ever be ok with walking around naked.