My husband slapped me today

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Anonymous wrote:You need to watch your language around your child. I would have slapped you too.

And the right woman would have your ass locked up with bread and water.

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If this is how the two of you normally interact leaving is probably a good idea.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I can absolutely see my DH smacking my on the arm to say "chill!" if I cursed in front of our infant (which we don't have...kid is older). I can see being pissed on a bad day, and getting it on a regular day.

You know your relationship better than we do, but if it's healthy and normal and calm this seems like nothing to me.

I'd also call it smacked and not slapped.

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I swear probably too much in front of our kids. My husband would NEVER lay a hand on me to convey displeasure at that. Ever. Because he was hit as a child and he knows what it feels like. A spouse touching you in anger is flat out unacceptable. Part of what my husband likes about me is that he knows if he laid a hand on me or our kids he'd be out of the house so fast his head would spin.

No hitting. Not in our house.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, it wasn't really a "slap", but just a light whack on your arm?

That has a much different connotation than your title of your post.

I'd be annoyed, but you it sounded like you were escalating an already tense situation. What's the rest of the story???

This, this, this. A tap on the arm isn't abuse. You were acting like a jerk.

How many times do I have to write that is WASN'T a tap. It was a slap. He was forceful. It hurt. When is this ever ok? I feel bad that I cussed in front of my son but it slipped out. We have both been very stressed out. My husband is finishing his PhD and he's never around to help me. In my culture abuse is very typical. I don't want to live like this. Hitting someone is never ok. He has done other stuff in the past when he gets anger. He has throw stuff. He should never let his anger get so bad that he's hitting, throwing stuff of screaming at me.

Hitting/slapping someone in anger is never ok. Throwing stuff and screaming at you, bad sign. He could have put pants on without ordering you to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You need to watch your language around your child. I would have slapped you too.

I would have called police on you. Never is ok to slap people in an anger.

[Anonymous]

Did you leave OP? If you did, I hope your DH called the police on you and charged you with kidnapping his child.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You need to watch your language around your child. I would have slapped you too.

I would have called police on you. Never is ok to slap people in an anger.

It was on the arm and OP herself said it was a "light touch." Have fun wasting the policeman's time.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to watch your language around your child. I would have slapped you too.

I would have called police on you. Never is ok to slap people in an anger.

It was on the arm and OP herself said it was a "light touch." Have fun wasting the policeman's time.

No, the OP said it hurt and left a mark. IN the original post, she was conveying that the *DH* said it was only a light touch (to defend himself after).

It was not okay.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You need to watch your language around your child. I would have slapped you too.

I would have called police on you. Never is ok to slap people in an anger.

It was on the arm and OP herself said it was a "light touch." Have fun wasting the policeman's time.

As a domestic violence attorney this wouldn't be a waste of the policeman's time. A report would be made, and this is enough to get a temporary protecotve order. Physical violence is physicial violence, no matter how you rationalize it. Her partner smacked/hit her on the arm in anger.

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

Are you always this annoying and clueless? I would have said "I'm eating my f-ing lunch" if my husband SAW me eating and decided it to ask me to dress our child when he is perfectly capable of doing it. I would have also gotten up, and sucker punched him right in the nose if he ever slapped me. Either that or he would not be able to sleep comfortably for a VERY long time because he'd wonder if he is still going to have his balls in the morning. But that's just me

If you sucker punch him than you could be charged with assault. The pendulum can swing the other way too, you know.

Also threatening mutilation. That is serious and if he recorded you saying that, he could use it in court and get a restraining order. Doing that to someone isn't funny and if you laugh about that you're a sick person that needs serious help

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I can absolutely see my DH smacking my on the arm to say "chill!" if I cursed in front of our infant (which we don't have...kid is older). I can see being pissed on a bad day, and getting it on a regular day.

You know your relationship better than we do, but if it's healthy and normal and calm this seems like nothing to me.

I'd also call it smacked and not slapped.

+1,000

-1,000

I swear probably too much in front of our kids. My husband would NEVER lay a hand on me to convey displeasure at that. Ever. Because he was hit as a child and he knows what it feels like. A spouse touching you in anger is flat out unacceptable. Part of what my husband likes about me is that he knows if he laid a hand on me or our kids he'd be out of the house so fast his head would spin.

No hitting. Not in our house.

I am like your husband. Not hitting anyone in my house..no family member hits another family member. My time, and if you're abusive you're out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So, it wasn't really a "slap", but just a light whack on your arm?

That has a much different connotation than your title of your post.

I'd be annoyed, but you it sounded like you were escalating an already tense situation. What's the rest of the story???

This, this, this. A tap on the arm isn't abuse. You were acting like a jerk.

I agree. You are doing a disservice to women who are actually abused. You sound like a potty mouthed drama queen.