My husband slapped me today

[Anonymous]

If it was your ass instead of your arm, would you still be upset?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So, it wasn't really a "slap", but just a light whack on your arm?

That has a much different connotation than your title of your post.

I'd be annoyed, but you it sounded like you were escalating an already tense situation. What's the rest of the story???

This, this, this. A tap on the arm isn't abuse. You were acting like a jerk.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well that was disappointing...came here because the title said my husband slapped me...read OP's post only to find he didn't slap her.

It was a slap. It left a mark on me and he was very forceful. Hitting is never ok. I am leaving Saturday.

Ok, bye. Sounds like you're doing him a favor!

[Anonymous]

Wow. I'm sorry OP.

Definitely get out. Man, talk about a fucking massive red flag. I am so so sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well that was disappointing...came here because the title said my husband slapped me...read OP's post only to find he didn't slap her.

It was a slap. It left a mark on me and he was very forceful. Hitting is never ok. I am leaving Saturday.

So glad to hear that OP. Awesome. Abuse is never, ever okay. Glad you are getting out.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

Are you always this annoying and clueless? I would have said "I'm eating my f-ing lunch" if my husband SAW me eating and decided it to ask me to dress our child when he is perfectly capable of doing it. I would have also gotten up, and sucker punched him right in the nose if he ever slapped me. Either that or he would not be able to sleep comfortably for a VERY long time because he'd wonder if he is still going to have his balls in the morning. But that's just me

If you sucker punch him than you could be charged with assault. The pendulum can swing the other way too, you know.

Op here: this exactly. Dh sees me eating lunch or washing bottles and asks me to do stuff he's perfectly capable of doing. Changing diapers , washing bottles etc etc etc he doesn't want to do any of this. And he made a comment about how I care about myself more because I am eating lunch instead of helping baby put on his pants.

Ok so this is more than you initially said. Seems like you want to leave for a variety of issues. Which is your right.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, it wasn't really a "slap", but just a light whack on your arm?

That has a much different connotation than your title of your post.

I'd be annoyed, but you it sounded like you were escalating an already tense situation. What's the rest of the story???

This, this, this. A tap on the arm isn't abuse. You were acting like a jerk.

How many times do I have to write that is WASN'T a tap. It was a slap. He was forceful. It hurt. When is this ever ok? I feel bad that I cussed in front of my son but it slipped out. We have both been very stressed out. My husband is finishing his PhD and he's never around to help me. In my culture abuse is very typical. I don't want to live like this. Hitting someone is never ok. He has done other stuff in the past when he gets anger. He has throw stuff. He should never let his anger get so bad that he's hitting, throwing stuff of screaming at me.

[Anonymous]

This is abuse. Come on people. Not only will it escalate, he's more likely to abuse the kids.

OP, I support your decision to leave for a breather. Big hugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So, it wasn't really a "slap", but just a light whack on your arm?

That has a much different connotation than your title of your post.

I'd be annoyed, but you it sounded like you were escalating an already tense situation. What's the rest of the story???

This, this, this. A tap on the arm isn't abuse. You were acting like a jerk.

How many times do I have to write that is WASN'T a tap. It was a slap. He was forceful. It hurt. When is this ever ok? I feel bad that I cussed in front of my son but it slipped out. We have both been very stressed out. My husband is finishing his PhD and he's never around to help me. In my culture abuse is very typical. I don't want to live like this. Hitting someone is never ok. He has done other stuff in the past when he gets anger. He has throw stuff. He should never let his anger get so bad that he's hitting, throwing stuff of screaming at me.

You're both losers. I just feel sorry for your son. If my wife dropped the F bomb on me for something so stupid you can be damn sure I'd be angry. I'd never hit her but I'd put the fear of God in her.

[Anonymous]

What's your question?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yuck to both of you.

+1. Grow up.

[Anonymous]

Get out now before it escalates OP. Physical violence is never, ever acceptable. Wishing you well.

[Anonymous]

Okay, I don't know what has come over DCUM today. Did we get a 4chan influx or something?

This is so very clearly abuse. I'm so sorry, OP. Getting out is entirely the right thing to do.

And I'm completely disgusted at the posters who are equating swearing with hitting someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, I don't know what has come over DCUM today. Did we get a 4chan influx or something?

This is so very clearly abuse. I'm so sorry, OP. Getting out is entirely the right thing to do.

And I'm completely disgusted at the posters who are equating swearing with hitting someone.

Exactly what I was thinking. What in the hell.

[Anonymous]

He slapped your arm. Ok.