My husband slapped me today

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Well that was disappointing...came here because the title said my husband slapped me...read OP's post only to find he didn't slap her.

It was a slap. It left a mark on me and he was very forceful. Hitting is never ok. I am leaving Saturday.

Ok, bye. Sounds like you're doing him a favor!

+1
Now Op can eat her effing lunch in peace

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I said a cuss word. He wanted me to put our 9 months olds pants on and I said why can't you do it? I'm eating my feing lunch. The feing part just kind of slipped out. He slapped me pretty hard on my arm after this . I told him he needs to apologize or get out. He's trying to play it off like he didn't hurt me. It was a light touch. I'm thinking about leaving and staying with a friend out of state for a few weeks.

Uncalled for but your FOS!

[Anonymous]

Have you posted here before? Is your husband generally a jerk, always saying you are selfish or accusing you of being a bad mother? Is he the one that called his mother to complain that you weren't changing a diaper fast enough? If so then yes, leave, finally. But if you aren't that post and this story is the only thing making you leave, you are being unreasonable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

Are you always this annoying and clueless? I would have said "I'm eating my f-ing lunch" if my husband SAW me eating and decided it to ask me to dress our child when he is perfectly capable of doing it. I would have also gotten up, and sucker punched him right in the nose if he ever slapped me. Either that or he would not be able to sleep comfortably for a VERY long time because he'd wonder if he is still going to have his balls in the morning. But that's just me

If you sucker punch him than you could be charged with assault. The pendulum can swing the other way too, you know.

Not if he hits me first. Then it's self defense

You don't need to defend yourself from a slap on the arm with a sucker pumch. Not saying.a slap on the arm is okay but it is not even in the same league.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Because I said a cuss word. He wanted me to put our 9 months olds pants on and I said why can't you do it? I'm eating my feing lunch. The feing part just kind of slipped out. He slapped me pretty hard on my arm after this . I told him he needs to apologize or get out. He's trying to play it off like he didn't hurt me. It was a light touch. I'm thinking about leaving and staying with a friend out of state for a few weeks.

Uncalled for but your FOS!

Op here : I reread this and see how it can be confusing. It should have read dh was saying "it was a light touch."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you posted here before? Is your husband generally a jerk, always saying you are selfish or accusing you of being a bad mother? Is he the one that called his mother to complain that you weren't changing a diaper fast enough? If so then yes, leave, finally. But if you aren't that post and this story is the only thing making you leave, you are being unreasonable.

No that's not me but that sounds rough. My husband does accuse me of being selfish a lot.

[Anonymous]

If he slapped you for acting like that, be prepared for him to slap your child when they don't act how he likes. I would not stay. I'm sorry. If he doesn't treat you how you'd want your child to be treated, then leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he slapped you for acting like that, be prepared for him to slap your child when they don't act how he likes. I would not stay. I'm sorry. If he doesn't treat you how you'd want your child to be treated, then leave.

+10000

[Anonymous]

How rude of him to ask you to deal with the baby when you were eating your lunch. If he needed the pants put on so badly, he certainly could have put them on himself. Unless he doesn't have any arms, but he must have at least one, because he slapped you.

Sorry your husband is such a jerk, OP. I think your anger has built up because he keeps making assumptions about the baby being more YOUR job than HIS, and that gets to be wearing after a while. I would use his slap as a reason for a sit down that you need to get couples counseling because this is serious and if it happens again you're leaving. And follow through.

[Anonymous]

OP, what was your DH's and your tone of voice during this exchange? MY DH and I get into this cycle where he will request something in an unreasonable tone ("put on DD's pants now!") and I get defensive and respond in the same unreasonable tone. He then gets defensive and things escalate from there.

What I've found helps is not giving into the demand (reasonable requests are okay, demands and a disrespectful tone are not. Although putting on pants is a little unreasonable since he is capable of doing it, too) but in a courteous manner. A big smile and "no thank you, you are capable of doing that". No explaining why, no requests to ask you in a nicer voice. If he did ask you nicely all you need to do is reply (also nicely) that you will when you are done with lunch.

[Anonymous]

Red flag for sure.

No matter what you say OP, know that no one ever has the right to put their hands on you.

Period.

I say you leave for awhile so this can be thought out.

Good luck.

[Anonymous]

Go to counseling to learn to have conflict in a healthier way. You both overreacted. I don't think it warrants divorce. Your kid deserves to have parents who don't curse at or hit eachother. Conflict is normal - two people don't live together in perfect harmony. But you both need a handle on how your emotions manifest into words/actions. Kids only get more challenging and test you as they grow, and knowing how to remain "calm, cool, collected" will be great for your marriage and parenting.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you two are meant for each other.

Poor baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Red flag for sure.

No matter what you say OP, know that no one ever has the right to put their hands on you.

Period.

I say you leave for awhile so this can be thought out.

Good luck.

Agree. Don't know WTF these other posters are thinking when they say OP is just as responsible because she used a curse word at DH.

[Anonymous]

You need to watch your language around your child. I would have slapped you too.