My husband slapped me today

[Anonymous]

Because I said a cuss word. He wanted me to put our 9 months olds pants on and I said why can't you do it? I'm eating my feing lunch. The feing part just kind of slipped out. He slapped me pretty hard on my arm after this . I told him he needs to apologize or get out. He's trying to play it off like he didn't hurt me. It was a light touch. I'm thinking about leaving and staying with a friend out of state for a few weeks.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry about this OP. Trust your gut.

[Anonymous]

How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

[Anonymous]

Yuck to both of you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

Dumping your lunch on someone is also abusive behavior. You aren't a hero just because you wouldn't slap someone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

Are you always this annoying and clueless? I would have said "I'm eating my f-ing lunch" if my husband SAW me eating and decided it to ask me to dress our child when he is perfectly capable of doing it. I would have also gotten up, and sucker punched him right in the nose if he ever slapped me. Either that or he would not be able to sleep comfortably for a VERY long time because he'd wonder if he is still going to have his balls in the morning. But that's just me

[Anonymous]

So, it wasn't really a "slap", but just a light whack on your arm?

That has a much different connotation than your title of your post.

I'd be annoyed, but you it sounded like you were escalating an already tense situation. What's the rest of the story???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

Are you always this annoying and clueless? I would have said "I'm eating my f-ing lunch" if my husband SAW me eating and decided it to ask me to dress our child when he is perfectly capable of doing it. I would have also gotten up, and sucker punched him right in the nose if he ever slapped me. Either that or he would not be able to sleep comfortably for a VERY long time because he'd wonder if he is still going to have his balls in the morning. But that's just me

If you sucker punch him than you could be charged with assault. The pendulum can swing the other way too, you know.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How sweet of you to say "I'm eating my f___ing lunch". If I were your husband I wouldn't slap you but you can be darn sure I'd let you know I was pissed likely dumping your lunch on your head. Hitting someone is not acceptable but you are not an innocent bystander. You both sound very immature and should be sent to your rooms until you grow up.

Are you always this annoying and clueless? I would have said "I'm eating my f-ing lunch" if my husband SAW me eating and decided it to ask me to dress our child when he is perfectly capable of doing it. I would have also gotten up, and sucker punched him right in the nose if he ever slapped me. Either that or he would not be able to sleep comfortably for a VERY long time because he'd wonder if he is still going to have his balls in the morning. But that's just me

If you sucker punch him than you could be charged with assault. The pendulum can swing the other way too, you know.

Not if he hits me first. Then it's self defense

[Anonymous]

So to review ... he asks you to do a favor, and you reply by saying "I'm eating my f____ lunch." He gets pissed and slaps your arm.

And now you want to move out for *weeks*?

There is much more brewing here below the surface... Baby at home, stress, PPD, who knows what, but this is not just about today. Something has been building to this point. In 17 years I've marriage, I've never said "I'm eating my f_____ lunch" to my spouse." That was obnoxious. No, he shouldn't have slapped you, but you were already bitter, angry, etc. about more than whether the kid had his pants on. You gotta figure out what that is...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yuck to both of you.

Teenager judging other teenagers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I said a cuss word. He wanted me to put our 9 months olds pants on and I said why can't you do it? I'm eating my feing lunch. The feing part just kind of slipped out. He slapped me pretty hard on my arm after this . I told him he needs to apologize or get out. He's trying to play it off like he didn't hurt me. It was a light touch. I'm thinking about leaving and staying with a friend out of state for a few weeks.

yeah, good luck with that. expect kidnapping charges to leveled at your ass, and deservedly so if pull that kind of shit.

[Anonymous]

OP, you play a big part of this dynamic with your spouse. Get yourself to counseling to figure out what is going on with you. You're both hostile. This is not okay, and not good for your child.

[Anonymous]

Write it out op. In a journal or on a private computer. Write out as much as you can remember. Date and print it.

It is abusive. Assuming you're taking the baby I would talk to a lawyer and possibly the police first.

What he did is wrong and in that situation there's no excuse for an adult to get physical.

[Anonymous]

I can absolutely see my DH smacking my on the arm to say "chill!" if I cursed in front of our infant (which we don't have...kid is older). I can see being pissed on a bad day, and getting it on a regular day.

You know your relationship better than we do, but if it's healthy and normal and calm this seems like nothing to me.

I'd also call it smacked and not slapped.