Sexless marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Because it's true? I think men would probably be surprised by how much opportunity most women have. I get hit on walking my dog around and picking up his poop in sweatpants and a sweatshirt. It's ridiculous.

No, because every woman thinks she's very attractive, flirtatious, smart and fun.

And? Are you angry that women have self esteem?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

To be fair, he may not like that answer because it's idiotic, and sounds dumb if you insert any other thing that many people consider an essential part of marriage. Try replacing "libido may not we satisfied" with "you may not feel loved or respected" or "you may not feel like your spouse listens or cares about you" or "your spouse may not help support the family financially" or "your spouse does not help with any housework."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

To be fair, he may not like that answer because it's idiotic, and sounds dumb if you insert any other thing that many people consider an essential part of marriage. Try replacing "libido may not we satisfied" with "you may not feel loved or respected" or "you may not feel like your spouse listens or cares about you" or "your spouse may not help support the family financially" or "your spouse does not help with any housework."

Oh no, another angry manbaby.


You know what it it doesn't take to make someone feel loved or safe or respected? ACCESS TO ONE'S ORGANS.

If someone doesnt feel like allowing you into their womb- that's their prerogative. Just because you got a ring on her finger doesnt mean you get to try to threaten, coerce, or badger her into allowing you into her vagina. Not without making you a rapey asshole, at least.

And if you really think someone who doesnt feel like having sex is equivalent to making a person feel completely unloved and disrespected... you have some SERIOUS mental issues that I think should be looked at before you interact with another human.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Things to try:

-Initiate at times other than right before bed. If you watch TV for hours and then wait to initiate until she's a few minutes away from going to sleep, you up your chances of being turned down bc she is in sleep mode. Try the morning or right after kids go to bed.

-Non-hormonal birth control. Condoms, copper IUD, or a vasectomy for you

-Non-intercourse sex options. Consider whether she might be more receptive to oral, mutual masturbation, etc. Sometimes PIV seems daunting bc of the time it takes for women to get warmed up physically enough to enjoy it, but oral/manual is something she can just jump into if she is not feeling up to intercourse.

-Mixing up the foreplay, e.g. watching porn together, reading to each other out of 50 shades, whatever you think she might be into

These are all things that have helped to increase the frequency of sex in my marriage. If none of these works maybe the other posters are right and the only option is to resign yourself to no sex or divorce, but at least give these a try

PP here. Forgot to add: try experimenting w/ lube in case dryness/discomfort is a source of her reluctance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

To be fair, he may not like that answer because it's idiotic, and sounds dumb if you insert any other thing that many people consider an essential part of marriage. Try replacing "libido may not we satisfied" with "you may not feel loved or respected" or "you may not feel like your spouse listens or cares about you" or "your spouse may not help support the family financially" or "your spouse does not help with any housework."

Oh no, another angry manbaby.


You know what it it doesn't take to make someone feel loved or safe or respected? ACCESS TO ONE'S ORGANS.

If someone doesnt feel like allowing you into their womb- that's their prerogative. Just because you got a ring on her finger doesnt mean you get to try to threaten, coerce, or badger her into allowing you into her vagina. Not without making you a rapey asshole, at least.

And if you really think someone who doesnt feel like having sex is equivalent to making a person feel completely unloved and disrespected... you have some SERIOUS mental issues that I think should be looked at before you interact with another human.

Please get a life and go back to burning your bra with your lesbian friends. Troll

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

To be fair, he may not like that answer because it's idiotic, and sounds dumb if you insert any other thing that many people consider an essential part of marriage. Try replacing "libido may not we satisfied" with "you may not feel loved or respected" or "you may not feel like your spouse listens or cares about you" or "your spouse may not help support the family financially" or "your spouse does not help with any housework."

Oh no, another angry manbaby.


You know what it it doesn't take to make someone feel loved or safe or respected? ACCESS TO ONE'S ORGANS.

If someone doesnt feel like allowing you into their womb- that's their prerogative. Just because you got a ring on her finger doesnt mean you get to try to threaten, coerce, or badger her into allowing you into her vagina. Not without making you a rapey asshole, at least.

And if you really think someone who doesnt feel like having sex is equivalent to making a person feel completely unloved and disrespected... you have some SERIOUS mental issues that I think should be looked at before you interact with another human.

OMG, who pissed in your cheerios today? sounds like you REALLY need to get laid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

To be fair, he may not like that answer because it's idiotic, and sounds dumb if you insert any other thing that many people consider an essential part of marriage. Try replacing "libido may not we satisfied" with "you may not feel loved or respected" or "you may not feel like your spouse listens or cares about you" or "your spouse may not help support the family financially" or "your spouse does not help with any housework."

Oh no, another angry manbaby.


You know what it it doesn't take to make someone feel loved or safe or respected? ACCESS TO ONE'S ORGANS.

If someone doesnt feel like allowing you into their womb- that's their prerogative. Just because you got a ring on her finger doesnt mean you get to try to threaten, coerce, or badger her into allowing you into her vagina. Not without making you a rapey asshole, at least.

And if you really think someone who doesnt feel like having sex is equivalent to making a person feel completely unloved and disrespected... you have some SERIOUS mental issues that I think should be looked at before you interact with another human.

Please get a life and go back to burning your bra with your lesbian friends. Troll

Great comeback, Elliot Rodgers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

To be fair, he may not like that answer because it's idiotic, and sounds dumb if you insert any other thing that many people consider an essential part of marriage. Try replacing "libido may not we satisfied" with "you may not feel loved or respected" or "you may not feel like your spouse listens or cares about you" or "your spouse may not help support the family financially" or "your spouse does not help with any housework."

Oh no, another angry manbaby.


You know what it it doesn't take to make someone feel loved or safe or respected? ACCESS TO ONE'S ORGANS.

If someone doesnt feel like allowing you into their womb- that's their prerogative. Just because you got a ring on her finger doesnt mean you get to try to threaten, coerce, or badger her into allowing you into her vagina. Not without making you a rapey asshole, at least.

And if you really think someone who doesnt feel like having sex is equivalent to making a person feel completely unloved and disrespected... you have some SERIOUS mental issues that I think should be looked at before you interact with another human.

I would feel unloved if my husband never wanted to have sex with me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

To be fair, he may not like that answer because it's idiotic, and sounds dumb if you insert any other thing that many people consider an essential part of marriage. Try replacing "libido may not we satisfied" with "you may not feel loved or respected" or "you may not feel like your spouse listens or cares about you" or "your spouse may not help support the family financially" or "your spouse does not help with any housework."

Oh no, another angry manbaby.


You know what it it doesn't take to make someone feel loved or safe or respected? ACCESS TO ONE'S ORGANS.

If someone doesnt feel like allowing you into their womb- that's their prerogative. Just because you got a ring on her finger doesnt mean you get to try to threaten, coerce, or badger her into allowing you into her vagina. Not without making you a rapey asshole, at least.

And if you really think someone who doesnt feel like having sex is equivalent to making a person feel completely unloved and disrespected... you have some SERIOUS mental issues that I think should be looked at before you interact with another human.

What an incredibly immature post. Yes, some people feel that sex is a part of marriage and that their spouse being sexually interested in them helps them feel loved. I think it's weird some people need gifts to feel loved. I don't call them man babies. The problem isn't that poster, it's that you lack basic empathy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to her. Tell her how important it is to you. If she's not feeling well, insist she see a doctor and talk to the doctor about her health. If she's too tired, see what lifestyle changes the two of you can put in place to help her get more rest.

Also, is she on any hormonal birth control? Do you have children? How old are they?

She is on the pill, and we have two kids. We could both use a lot more exercise, that's for sure. I'll ask her to talk to her doctor.

The pill is notorious for wreaking havoc on women's sex drives. Look into non-hormonal birth control. How old are the kids? It's possible that she's all touched out, especially if they're young. Any chance you can get away for a weekend to rekindle things?

This. Sex is the last thing I want after a day of everyone touching me every second of the day!

See if you can get away without the kids for an over night. That always does it for me!

[Anonymous]

This happens when the novelty wears off. See what happens if you suggest spicing it up. Try role playing. Or arrange a surprise weekend away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

Yeah I'll deal its called divorce. There no rule about having to wait years until kids older wtf who does that an expect the relationship to work. Better off divorcing the man after the kids because it seems you have no need or care for him to put him on the backburner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

Yeah I'll deal its called divorce. There no rule about having to wait years until kids older wtf who does that an expect the relationship to work. Better off divorcing the man after the kids because it seems you have no need or care for him to put him on the backburner.

Then get one. Go ahead. Your wife will be better off and I'm sure happy to be freed from the pestering sex junkie

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

Yeah I'll deal its called divorce. There no rule about having to wait years until kids older wtf who does that an expect the relationship to work. Better off divorcing the man after the kids because it seems you have no need or care for him to put him on the backburner.

Then get one. Go ahead. Your wife will be better off and I'm sure happy to be freed from the pestering sex junkie

We both will be happy so all well that ends.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You aren't going to like this answer OP but adjust your expectations. Stop feeling like a victim who is being denied. Understand marriage is for the best interest of the children and that your libido may not be satisfied for a long time while the kids are growing up. That's life- just deal.

Yeah I'll deal its called divorce. There no rule about having to wait years until kids older wtf who does that an expect the relationship to work. Better off divorcing the man after the kids because it seems you have no need or care for him to put him on the backburner.

Then get one. Go ahead. Your wife will be better off and I'm sure happy to be freed from the pestering sex junkie

Wife here, and I think you need therapy. You sound seriously damaged. I hope you can work through it.