Sexless marriage

[Anonymous]

I love morning sex and am always game to get it on then. But never in the evening. Thankfully my husband in on board with me wanting sex only in the mornings.

[Anonymous]

Unless it is a medical/health issue (which is definitely possible), it is very unlikely that anything will ever change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How much housework does she do in the evenings? Offer to pick up the slack so she has some chill time. There's nothing worse than having to be on top of everything during every waking moment and then be ready for sex at bedtime.

It's obviously a good idea to help with housework, but don't do it because you think it will solve your sex issues, or you will be disappointed. I also have a sexless marriage. First it was because she was stressed being a newlywed, then she was stressed because she was unemployed, then she thought I didn't do enogh housework, then she thought I was out of shape, then we had our first kid, then she thought she was out of shape, then we had our second kid, then she thought she was out of shape again, then she thought it was because we didn't have enough date nights. We addressed every one of these issues and nothing changed. We're in shape now, we have jobs, we split housework, we have regular date nights. . . that might all be good for our marriage in other ways but didn't change anything at all about sex.

No need to respond to me. I just wonder if either it's her not enjoying sex with you or never really being physically attracted. It's odd for someone to lose interest in sex as a newlywed. If the sex was regular prior to the marriage, it might have a been a ruse.

[Anonymous]

Pick up a copy of Fifty Shades of Grey. Leave it on her bedside table with a highlighter and/or post-its. If she marks any passages, go buy anything you need to make the fantasy come true.

[Anonymous]

leave

[Anonymous]

It's obvious you haven't had an explicit conversation about this. Start there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Talk to her. Tell her how important it is to you. If she's not feeling well, insist she see a doctor and talk to the doctor about her health. If she's too tired, see what lifestyle changes the two of you can put in place to help her get more rest.

Also, is she on any hormonal birth control? Do you have children? How old are they?

She is on the pill, and we have two kids. We could both use a lot more exercise, that's for sure. I'll ask her to talk to her doctor.

My no libido wife got off the pill and it made a difference. A real difference. She went from never wanting sex to wanting it occasionally and enjoying it most of the time when we do. Not ideal but far better

[Anonymous]

Agree, the pill is horrible. I was on it until marriage and only after going off did I realize I have a much higher sex drive than my husband. Considering going back on it just to even us out again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's a good idea. We fully share the housework and the evenings aren't usually too tough, but I will offer to do more.

Waste of time, bro.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's a good idea. We fully share the housework and the evenings aren't usually too tough, but I will offer to do more.

Waste of time, bro.

I was the "no libido wife off the pill" poster above. And agree. Choreplay is a waste of time. It can help a woman who wants to have sex but is too exhausted. That isn't OPs wife, and that is rarely the issue.

[Anonymous]

Maybe sex with you is a chore if you expect it to be a porn film every time.

[Anonymous]

Sex is pretty much obligation sex for me these days, and DH senses that and doesn't ask all that much anymore. I think he feels the same way about having any kind of emotional intimacy with me, and I've given up expecting much in the way of having a connected emotional life. It's kind of a sad place to be, but we enjoy our "family life" even though our relationship isn't that great. Maybe we'll get to a better place down the road, when we're not raising kids anymore...who knows.

[Anonymous]

My DH and I just had a conversation about this. My libido is almost non existent due to birth control. I don't have a need for sex like he does. I also wasn't feeling emotionally connected to him because he rarely expresses emotions. He doesn't feel a huge need to open up emotionally. We both agreed to at least try a little harder in these areas for the sake of each other.

I don't know if these are your issues but hopefully you can dig a little deeper and resolve this.