Sexless marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How much housework does she do in the evenings? Offer to pick up the slack so she has some chill time. There's nothing worse than having to be on top of everything during every waking moment and then be ready for sex at bedtime.

LOL, yeah, of course, it's because she's "overworked."

Get over yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:dont get married. /thread

Yep

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
It's obviously a good idea to help with housework, but don't do it because you think it will solve your sex issues, or you will be disappointed. I also have a sexless marriage. First it was because she was stressed being a newlywed, then she was stressed because she was unemployed, then she thought I didn't do enogh housework, then she thought I was out of shape, then we had our first kid, then she thought she was out of shape, then we had our second kid, then she thought she was out of shape again, then she thought it was because we didn't have enough date nights. We addressed every one of these issues and nothing changed. We're in shape now, we have jobs, we split housework, we have regular date nights. . . that might all be good for our marriage in other ways but didn't change anything at all about sex.

....sorry, not laughing at you, just laughing at all her excuses.

Sorry, dude. As you know, the excuses are bullshit. She just doesn't want to have sex with you anymore.

I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
No need to respond to me. I just wonder if either it's her not enjoying sex with you or never really being physically attracted. It's odd for someone to lose interest in sex as a newlywed. If the sex was regular prior to the marriage, it might have a been a ruse.

It's ALWAYS a ruse. Which is why men should never get married.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Sorry, dude. As you know, the excuses are bullshit. She just doesn't want to have sex with you anymore.

I'm sorry.

The good news is you can make yourself attractive to her again. This is not a life sentence.

[Anonymous]

Get a vasectomy so she can get off the Pill. Worked wonders for us!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sex is pretty much obligation sex for me these days, and DH senses that and doesn't ask all that much anymore. I think he feels the same way about having any kind of emotional intimacy with me, and I've given up expecting much in the way of having a connected emotional life. It's kind of a sad place to be, but we enjoy our "family life" even though our relationship isn't that great. Maybe we'll get to a better place down the road, when we're not raising kids anymore...who knows.

And this is why I'll never get married. Too much of a gamble that you'll end up here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe sex with you is a chore if you expect it to be a porn film every time.

Yeah, heaven forbid a man wants enthusiastic sex out of his lover.

You're despicable.

[Anonymous]

You seem kind of passive about it saying you don't want to bother her. You're also asking people on the internet instead of asking her to help troubleshoot the problem. She knows more than any of us know the real reason. Women connect by talking. Try talking to her more? Act interested in her as a person? Have you let yourself go? Also you acted like it's making you feel bad about yourself. Don't let her behavior (lack of interest) affect your self esteem because confidence is attractive and it sounds like you are not confident.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Also you acted like it's making you feel bad about yourself. Don't let her behavior (lack of interest) affect your self esteem because confidence is attractive and it sounds like you are not confident.

Quite the female logic there: "Don't let YOUR WIFE'S lack of sexual interest in you affect your self esteem because confidence is attractive" the most ridiculous buzzphrase ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Get a vasectomy so she can get off the Pill. Worked wonders for us!

+ 1000000 Agreed. I was DW that was never Interested in sex. When he was for vasectomy I got really motivated. We are now atleast 3 times a week at minimum.

[Anonymous]

GET OUT ….. GET OUT NOW!!!! You are truly such an idiot ….. if you are not having sex why are you there? Go now before you are simply too old to find someone else … why would you want to be with someone who is this way? GET OUT NOW!!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Sexless marriage is for absolute idiots! there is no explanation for this other than your partner is repulsed by you …. Get out now and find someone who makes you happy …. God you people are pathetic …….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sexless marriage is for absolute idiots! there is no explanation for this other than your partner is repulsed by you …. Get out now and find someone who makes you happy …. God you people are pathetic …….

Dumbest advice ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sexless marriage is for absolute idiots! there is no explanation for this other than your partner is repulsed by you …. Get out now and find someone who makes you happy …. God you people are pathetic …….

This is extreme, but I agree in that I think no one should have to suffer through a sexless marriage forever.