Why would you date a person who you would never marry because of their race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.

Thankfully some think outside the herd, and long ago got off the farm.

I don't think anyone is losing sleep over whatever you are doing. Good luck on the plantation.

This is rich. Go back to Africa and try to see if you can survive a week there, funny boy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.

Thankfully some think outside the herd, and long ago got off the farm.

I don't think anyone is losing sleep over whatever you are doing. Good luck on the plantation.

This is rich. Go back to Africa and try to see if you can survive a week there, funny boy.

I am a woman, dummy. Born and raised in Africa. Came here to make my money. Married one of my own. Visit my country for a month every year. You must be one of those lost wannabe akatas who don't fit in America, yet have watched too much television and read too few books not to be scared of your parents' country. Life as an outcast can't be easy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is where many women need to change and raise the bar. If a woman wants a life partner she needs to not have sex until there's a commitment. Don't have sex with the guy on the 2nd or 7th date for that matter. Have you met his family? Do you really know him?

You mean, just have a FWB for sex, or do you think women don't need or want sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.

Thankfully some think outside the herd, and long ago got off the farm.

I don't think anyone is losing sleep over whatever you are doing. Good luck on the plantation.

This is rich. Go back to Africa and try to see if you can survive a week there, funny boy.

I am a woman, dummy. Born and raised in Africa. Came here to make my money. Married one of my own. Visit my country for a month every year. You must be one of those lost wannabe akatas who don't fit in America, yet have watched too much television and read too few books not to be scared of your parents' country. Life as an outcast can't be easy.

And who are those, exactly?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My roommate in college was Hispanic, her BF white and he broke it off after graduation telling her that his family wouldn't approve of her because she's not white. He moved out west for college, went right back to CT once he graduated and was married 2 yrs later to...you guessed it.

She claimed she was blind sided but I have a hard time believing that.

Ct?

Connecticut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking he hasn't told her. I know a Black woman in her early 30s in a similar situation. Took her years to meet the parents and now he's proposing "soon", according to her. Meanwhile, it took him years to acknowledge that they were a couple.

Grrr... this makes me mad!!! Him for being a racist and her for holding out for such a prick!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is where many women need to change and raise the bar. If a woman wants a life partner she needs to not have sex until there's a commitment. Don't have sex with the guy on the 2nd or 7th date for that matter. Have you met his family? Do you really know him?

You mean, just have a FWB for sex, or do you think women don't need or want sex?

If a woman wants to get married, then yes she needs to make sure they are committed. If both want a sex only relationship that's another deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm thinking he hasn't told her. I know a Black woman in her early 30s in a similar situation. Took her years to meet the parents and now he's proposing "soon", according to her. Meanwhile, it took him years to acknowledge that they were a couple.

Grrr... this makes me mad!!! Him for being a racist and her for holding out for such a prick!

lol and it will be a loooong engagement, watch! I have to blame her for being so stupid, but yes he's a prick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.

Thankfully some think outside the herd, and long ago got off the farm.

I don't think anyone is losing sleep over whatever you are doing. Good luck on the plantation.

One word. Assimilate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.

Thankfully some think outside the herd, and long ago got off the farm.

I don't think anyone is losing sleep over whatever you are doing. Good luck on the plantation.

One word. Assimilate.

Why? We do very well in America without assimilating and studies actually indicate that those of us who seek to assimilate do worse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen this a lot in terms of Jewish men who really want to marry Jewish women and consider it a prerequisite, but somehow only manage to date non-Jews.

These are men who SAY they are looking to settle down, and SAY that marrying a Jewish woman is imperative, but only date Christians who are not interested in conversion.

My Jewish DH actually said he knew he would not marry a Jewish woman because he found them all unattractive. He loves his mother and she is a pretty woman so I never understood it but feel lucky he married me. He is a wonderful husband and father.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've seen this a lot in terms of Jewish men who really want to marry Jewish women and consider it a prerequisite, but somehow only manage to date non-Jews.

These are men who SAY they are looking to settle down, and SAY that marrying a Jewish woman is imperative, but only date Christians who are not interested in conversion.

My Jewish DH actually said he knew he would not marry a Jewish woman because he found them all unattractive. He loves his mother and she is a pretty woman so I never understood it but feel lucky he married me. He is a wonderful husband and father.

He found EVERY jewish woman he set eyes on unattractive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He is racist and likely due to his upbringing. I bet he either has not introduced her to his family or very minimally brings her around the family. He sounds like an arrogant asshole who enjoys the passive kind nature of Asian women; but has a lack of respect for her due to his racist upbringing, thus will not marry her. For her sake, I hope they never marry or have kids.

My white DH will be the first to tell you that Korean women are not passive -- he is married to one. I'm guessing you have never been married to a Korean woman. I only know one passive Korean woman, and that's because this is just her nature.

True. Most Asian women are not passive wives.

[Anonymous]

MOST men will date a woman just for the sex or the chance at it and won't stop dating her just because they know someday they want to marry someone from their own ethnic group. Of course plenty fall in love and end up marrying a girl they didn't think they would at first. Or she gets preggo.

Men have plenty of reasons not to commit, ethnicity is just another reason.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, my life would be so much easier had I married an Irush Catholic woman. At least ck turbo differences and differences in upbringing would not have been the source of much conflict as they are n my current marriage. At least,It would be crazy I understand.