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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.[/quote]
As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down  wanted to marry a white man. [/quote]

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.[/quote]

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.[/quote]
Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.[/quote]

Thankfully some think outside the herd, and long ago got off the farm.  [/quote]
I don't think anyone is losing sleep over whatever you are doing. Good luck on the plantation.[/quote]

This is rich. Go back to Africa and try to see if you can survive a week there, funny boy.[/quote]

I am a woman, dummy. Born and raised in Africa. Came here to make my money. Married one of my own. Visit my country for a month every year. You must be one of those lost wannabe akatas who don't fit in America, yet have watched too much television and read too few books not to be scared of your parents' country. Life as an outcast can't be easy.[/quote]

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