Why would you date a person who you would never marry because of their race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is where many women need to change and raise the bar. If a woman wants a life partner she needs to not have sex until there's a commitment. Don't have sex with the guy on the 2nd or 7th date for that matter. Have you met his family? Do you really know him?

OP here. ITA, even though this is slightly off my point.

OP, why don't you mind your own business? Maybe you have axe to grind.

It's one thing to mention their race but their age too? Like you want to ID them. Let the girl and everyone know this supposed secret. Let it go, and get your own life.

[Anonymous]

OP, this guy sounds like someone who wanted to check "f*ck an asian girl" off his bucket list.

Or he's heard horror stories about korean mothers-in-law or her m-i-l in particular. Or he may have doubts about being the son-in-law her parents would want. who knows.

I am a non-jewish woman who dated a few jewish guys I probably wouldn't have married. I didn't like/love any of them enough to give up the chance to raise my kids moderately christian, I didn't like/love any of them enough to disappoint my very religious father, and I didn't want to be the reason their moms were disappointed to not have jewish grandkids.

But they were cool people and I enjoyed their company. Dating doesn't always have to end in marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, this guy sounds like someone who wanted to check "f*ck an asian girl" off his bucket list.

Or he's heard horror stories about korean mothers-in-law or her m-i-l in particular. Or he may have doubts about being the son-in-law her parents would want. who knows.

I am a non-jewish woman who dated a few jewish guys I probably wouldn't have married. I didn't like/love any of them enough to give up the chance to raise my kids moderately christian, I didn't like/love any of them enough to disappoint my very religious father, and I didn't want to be the reason their moms were disappointed to not have jewish grandkids.

But they were cool people and I enjoyed their company. Dating doesn't always have to end in marriage.

+1000

Seriously what is with people. Does every damn date have to end in marriage? Can't you just enjoy someones company and not marry them? Great if you meet Mr. Wonderful but seriously calm down and just date already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, this guy sounds like someone who wanted to check "f*ck an asian girl" off his bucket list.

Or he's heard horror stories about korean mothers-in-law or her m-i-l in particular. Or he may have doubts about being the son-in-law her parents would want. who knows.

I am a non-jewish woman who dated a few jewish guys I probably wouldn't have married. I didn't like/love any of them enough to give up the chance to raise my kids moderately christian, I didn't like/love any of them enough to disappoint my very religious father, and I didn't want to be the reason their moms were disappointed to not have jewish grandkids.

But they were cool people and I enjoyed their company. Dating doesn't always have to end in marriage.

+1000



Seriously what is with people. Does every damn date have to end in marriage? Can't you just enjoy someones company and not marry them? Great if you meet Mr. Wonderful but seriously calm down and just date already.

No every date doesnt have to end in marriage. But it is disgusting to tell someone you would never marry your current SO because they aren't white/jewish/black or whatever.

But then, I have spent enough time on DCUM now that I should not be surprised that people find that to be A-OK.

[Anonymous]

I broke up with my pretty serious Korean boyfriend when he told me he would only marry a Korean.

[Anonymous]

Those of you who broke up with people who told you they could only marry their kind, you should feel glad that you dodged a bullet.

I've had the experience of being with an Asian man (not Korean) who pretended to be committed and serious. I couldn't understand how his entire family and Asian friends kept on trying to fix him up with Asian women, and he denied everything. What I didn't know was that he presented himself as still single and looking, and was trying them all out. His family are racists and snobs. He was weak, dishonest, and selfish.

I hope OP's friend's playmate truly understands his intentions.

[Anonymous]

I don't know if this is relevant or not but when I met my husband I was convinced that I would never marry him because he was divorced and I was Catholic and therefore we could never really be members of my church, etc. I thought "I'll go out on a date or two but this never going to happen long term" and then I feel in love and it all started to seem pretty irrelevant. SUrely that happens with race as well, doesn't it?

[Anonymous]

Some people are just messed up. One of my cousins has been with a white girl for years that he refuses to marry. The family has already accepted her and they even have a baby. He also frequently has negative things to say about her race. I don't get it. I also wonder about what kind of self esteem she has to put up with his behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some people are just messed up. One of my cousins has been with a white girl for years that he refuses to marry. The family has already accepted her and they even have a baby. He also frequently has negative things to say about her race. I don't get it. I also wonder about what kind of self esteem she has to put up with his behavior.

I can tell you from personal experience, she has zero self-esteem. She may also feel trapped, and is making the best of the situation. Seen it.

[Anonymous]

I'm Asian married to a White guy. I'm very passive and mild and I'll chop the balls off anyone who suggests otherwise

[Anonymous]

Didn't read the thread just wanted to chime in.
He sounds racist. You can be racist and like fucking people of color, you can also have children who are pic and be racist.