Why would you date a person who you would never marry because of their race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My roommate in college was Hispanic, her BF white and he broke it off after graduation telling her that his family wouldn't approve of her because she's not white. He moved out west for college, went right back to CT once he graduated and was married 2 yrs later to...you guessed it.

She claimed she was blind sided but I have a hard time believing that.

Ct?

[Anonymous]

I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

You sound nice!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

You sound nice!

I don't see what's mean about being clear where my life is headed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

[Anonymous]

I dated several guys in my 20s whom I wouldn't marry. I liked them, enjoyed their company, wasn't ready to settle down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Co worker, age 29, white guy, dating Korean American woman, 29 or so.
He says that he would never marry her because she is Korean.
He likes her company now, but has made up his mind that he will end the relationship by fall to look for a white woman. And he is serious about this.
I asked him if she knows that he will be breaking it up, and the real reason. He said that she knows...I think not, but what ever.
Why do people do this to themselves and each other? [/quote

That's horrible, at 29 she doesn't know what a creep he is. I suspect karma will come back around to this guy at some point. Too bad, you probably would like to tell her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Agree, they probably weren't committing.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am an African woman and I dated a few white men who I knew I would never marry because I didn't want a white husband, white in laws, or half-white kids. I had a couple of years-long relationships with white men, but never brought them home and told them an intro to the family was out of the question. I don't think whites are used to being found unsuitable, so each one was in denial until I broke up with them.

As a black women, I think this is weird. You might have some psychosocial issues. You don't repeatedly date someone of a race, you don't want to marry, for years just for fun. I can understand short term flings but for years and then tell yourself it's normal. It's a either a fetish thing or maybe deep down wanted to marry a white man.

Okay, well, I'm glad my post gave you a chance to practice psychology. I don't see what is weird about dating who is around me while knowing I will ultimately marry someone who fits into my family. Many people of minority cultures do this. Africans are less than 2% of the black US population. Maybe what makes sense to you is for all of us in predominantly white surroundings to stay single and date no one until it is time to marry, but that doesn't make sense to us.

Unfortunately in the "African American" race better know as Blacks, there is a tendency to look the other way on black males dating/marrying out of their race but the expectation of black women is to only date and marry in their race. I think as an "African" you thoughts and view on interracial dating maybe different from what Blacks experience. I think in your country marrying outside your race is still very taboo.

Africans always come home. That is just how we are. We are not impressed by people who do not share our culture no matter how much the media might try to brainwash us. My brother dated white women, including one for six years, but at the end of the day, he married a woman from our tribe and country. The only Africans I can think of who don't come back to their people to marry are those who can't because their families have bad reputations, they were raised abroad and don't understand their culture, or they are otherwise likely to be judged harshly by other Africans.[/quote

Thankfully some think outside the herd, and long ago got off the farm.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This why I don't believe in dating past 1 year and no talk of marriage after that. People think I'm crazy for this rule especially if you are in your late 20s and older. He is not racist. Women need to stop giving up the "milk" for free. He is getting all the benefits of a husband as a boyfriend. Her fault for being stupid to ALLOW him to take advantage of her. Cut him off too many other available good single men in out there. A man will go as far as you let him without no requirement for commitment.

A year? I found out pretty quick what their life goals were, and I made it clear I was looking for someone that would be a partner. I never wasted my time, you need to find out in the beginning. If they want to casually date, then see ya. If they want a sex friend, no commitment...they get the boot.

[Anonymous]

Sex. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He may not be a racist.
I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to marry someone of your own background.

As long as he's not being disparaging towards other races I don't have a problem with it.

Marrying close to your own background is certainly NOT racist, lol. People are nuts on this stuff. It's a free choice to date and marry.

The only bad thing here is the guy leading the woman on, I'm sure he hasn't told her he's basically using her.