Why would you date a person who you would never marry because of their race?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Co worker, age 29, white guy, dating Korean American woman, 29 or so.
He says that he would never marry her because she is Korean.
He likes her company now, but has made up his mind that he will end the relationship by fall to look for a white woman. And he is serious about this.
I asked him if she knows that he will be breaking it up, and the real reason. He said that she knows...I think not, but what ever.
Why do people do this to themselves and each other?

Why so people concern themselves with other peoples relationships?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she feels the same way and it's convenient for them both?

She might feel the same way. Will eventually dump him for a Korean guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Co worker, age 29, white guy, dating Korean American woman, 29 or so.
He says that he would never marry her because she is Korean.
He likes her company now, but has made up his mind that he will end the relationship by fall to look for a white woman. And he is serious about this.
I asked him if she knows that he will be breaking it up, and the real reason. He said that she knows...I think not, but what ever.
Why do people do this to themselves and each other?

Sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He is racist and likely due to his upbringing. I bet he either has not introduced her to his family or very minimally brings her around the family. He sounds like an arrogant asshole who enjoys the passive kind nature of Asian women; but has a lack of respect for her due to his racist upbringing, thus will not marry her. For her sake, I hope they never marry or have kids.

You haven't met many Koreans

[Anonymous]

There is a name for it. Expiration dating.

If she is Ok with it, I think you should be too OP.

[Anonymous]

This why I don't believe in dating past 1 year and no talk of marriage after that. People think I'm crazy for this rule especially if you are in your late 20s and older. He is not racist. Women need to stop giving up the "milk" for free. He is getting all the benefits of a husband as a boyfriend. Her fault for being stupid to ALLOW him to take advantage of her. Cut him off too many other available good single men in out there. A man will go as far as you let him without no requirement for commitment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This why I don't believe in dating past 1 year and no talk of marriage after that. People think I'm crazy for this rule especially if you are in your late 20s and older. He is not racist. Women need to stop giving up the "milk" for free. He is getting all the benefits of a husband as a boyfriend. Her fault for being stupid to ALLOW him to take advantage of her. Cut him off too many other available good single men in out there. A man will go as far as you let him without no requirement for commitment.

Maybe she's not interested in marrying him, either? -- from a Korean woman married to a white guy.

[Anonymous]

A guy I was seeing told me this. After we'd been seeing each other for awhile and had been physically intimate. I was unprepared when he told me. He had had a fair amount to drink, I'm not sure he meant to actually say it out loud to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He may not be a racist.
I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to marry someone of your own background.

As long as he's not being disparaging towards other races I don't have a problem with it.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to marry someone of your own background, but then you shouldn't be seriously dating somebody not of that background and leading them on. A person who does that is an asshole.

[Anonymous]

My roommate in college was Hispanic, her BF white and he broke it off after graduation telling her that his family wouldn't approve of her because she's not white. He moved out west for college, went right back to CT once he graduated and was married 2 yrs later to...you guessed it.

She claimed she was blind sided but I have a hard time believing that.

[Anonymous]

The reason he gives for never marrying her is disgusting. White women should reject his ass too. I would never want to be partnered with someone who thought and verbalized stuff like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He may not be a racist.
I don't think there's anything wrong with wanting to marry someone of your own background.

As long as he's not being disparaging towards other races I don't have a problem with it.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to marry someone of your own background, but then you shouldn't be seriously dating somebody not of that background and leading them on. A person who does that is an asshole.

Who is to say he's leading her on? That's OP's interpretation.

The girlfriend may not what to marry the guy either, and she's just as responsible for the relationship as he is. If she wants to be married she can bring up that conversation.

Now if he's told her he's going to marry her that is different.
Dating someone does not = marriage automatically unless you are a Duggar.

Are you a Duggar?

[Anonymous]

Btdt. I did the same thing with an Indian guy. We both knew it was just fun.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:There is a name for it. Expiration dating.

If she is Ok with it, I think you should be too OP.

I hope you meant experiential or experimental, anyway, it is only OK if the other party knows.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He sounds like an arrogant asshole who enjoys the passive kind nature of Asian women; but has a lack of respect for her due to his racist upbringing, thus will not marry her.

Also pretty racist.