Would you date a man with three different "baby mamas"
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Anonymous
This. Because as a PP mentioned best case is he is taking care of his responsibilities and juggling child support, 3 different visitation scheduled, 3 different co-parenting relationship having teenagers (which typically is the toughest years for parents other than sheer work of having a toddler). If you end up having kids with him, those are your kids half siblings, and in some way either directly or indirectly you will be involved in supporting your step-kids. Worst case he isn't taking care of his repsonsibilities and he would be the same way with you and any children you may have. As far as feeling bad, don't. Guys all the time don't want to date a single mom when they are 25. With this guy by the time he is 40, his kids are all atleast 18. He could date a 30 year old, marry her, and start a family within marriage, not unlike the guys that divorce have college age kids and start another family with a second wife. As a woman, when you are 40, chances are you aren't marrying a 30 year old guy and having a kid where you get a chance to start over. I'm not saying it never happens that way but there is a reason why you often see woman with much older men and not the other way around. I think both finances and fertility ages (men vs women) play a role. |
Anonymous
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Pretend you are a guy-- you wouldn't think twice about this.
Women, we will never know what we can be until be decide that we do not have to be nice. Let that go, honey. "To thine own self be true." Shakespeare |
Anonymous
| No |
Anonymous
| Hells no. |
Anonymous
| I also find it odd that he's interested in a childless woman instead of a woman with kids like himself. Red flag to me. |
Anonymous
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Not at 25. Maybe 35.
Also depends on reason. I know a guy how has two children from two different women, but his case is very sad. His first wife died of cancer. His second wife died during the 9/11 WTC attack. Thankfully he has found someone new but he hasn't married her yet. I think she may be hitting 40 so he won't hit the trifecta. |
Anonymous
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As long as he is not only supporting his three kids, but also making the effort to be present in each of their lives then I may consider it.
People do make certain decisions in their youth that they eventually do learn from. Seems like he just had more wild oats to sow than others. If he sounds sincere, then sure....Give him a chance. Plus at your age, you shouldn't really need your parents approval on who you date. |
Anonymous
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No way. Not for your age. At 25, you can find a man without baggage. No kids no ex wife nada.
If you were 40, that might be a different story, but I would still tell my close friends no way. |
Anonymous
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No.
Hell no! and FUCK NO! |
Anonymous
This is totally different than a guy juggling 3 kids, 3 coparents, 3 child support payments, etc. I would consider dating the guy you talk about, but would probably go slowly. |
Anonymous
True but I think it's good that the OP does have a relationship with her parent(s) and she wants them to know. |
Anonymous
| Maybe. I would be more hesitant at your age to get involved with someone with kids that old, period. Otherwise, I would consider it AFTER learning more about the situation and how he has changed since then. Without knowing the circumstances I can't say. People can grow up a lot in 10+ years. Would also depend if he was a stellar father. Anyone who has kids and is not a great and involved parent isn't someone I would get involved with. |
Anonymous
I disagree. In scenario one, he was a dumb teenager who may have learned from his mistakes and may be a good dad In scenario two, he continues for many years to have unprotected sex with different women and knock them up. |
Anonymous
| If I wanted to be a single parent I would date him. |
Anonymous
BS! Just listen to Chris Hardwicke! Some single men are repulsed by kids. |