Would you date a man with three different "baby mamas"

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Anonymous wrote:Sounds like his life was complicated when he was 18-20. He is 31 now. How is his life today?

How is his life today?
He's got 3 different women calling him and texting him daily about co-parenting their children, his check is cut up 3 ways and sent to 3 different households, and he has 3 visitation schedules to keep.
And that is BEST case scenario. These women probably have jealousy and drama surrounding this, all 3 children are approaching teenage years and have that drama and probably some jealousy among each other, who knows how the kids are doing in school or medically. Don't even let yourself think about how Christmas would go.

Op even if this man has 3 kids so close together with one person I would urge caution because you don't have kids and the age difference. But the fact that after 2 he couldn't figure out what the deal was and did it again? That's disturbing

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Anonymous wrote:he's obviously an alpha male - you are attracted to them. go for it op

I bet half the women putting this guy down would let a guy like this bust all over their eggs.

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Ew. No effing way.

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Op, if he's paying child support for three children, he's broke. I know someone who is dating a man who is paying child support for just two and he brings home around $800 a month after all the child support is paid. The women he's dating loves him so she's willing to shoulder most costs (they live together and plan to get married). She also out earns him by a lot. Just something to consider.

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Anonymous wrote:Okay. Wait a minute. I would never go for this, because 25 is awfully young to contemplate 3 step kids, let alone 3 step kids with 3 different moms, which seems like a nightmare. But she said this guy was only 31. I hope all the hell to the no people on here never made a series of bad decisions before age 20. Didn't sleep with three different guys, whatever. I think the way he has dealt with this situation since then, the kind of parent he has become, whether he pays child support-- in other words, whether he grew up and took responsibility is what matters if you are asking about his character.

Op-- I am a mom of tweens and teens. And yes, I would be very concerned if by DD brought this guy home-- because his life is incredibly complicated-- or should be, if he is parenting properly. And I would hate for her to be saddled with all of that obligation at that point in her life. Harsh I know, but I would want her to focus on starting her own life and having her own kids, which could be very hard in the situation you're describing. Because if he has 3 kids, he should be paying for those three kids, and making them the priority in making plans-- not you. But I would not necessarily think he was a terrible person.

But if you stay with him, you birth control (and backup birth control) FFS.

Well said.
Of course he's a charmer, OP. That's how he got the other 3 to hook up with him.

Print this on a 3 X 5 card and read it to yourself every 20 minutes or so.

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No. No. and No.

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Have a fling with him, by all means, but for the love of pete please use multiple forms of birth control!

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Anonymous wrote:So I met a guy recently and we hit it off. I'm 25, no children, and he's 31 and has three children ages 11, 12, and 13 from 3 different moms. I don't necesarily have a problem with it but it's got me thinking. He said he's made a lot of mistakes but he loves his kids and they have made him a better person. I think my parents would be very disappointed. What are your thoughts?

I think the odds are high that he also has the herp.

Game play this out though. Say you form a relationship and get married. Now think of your finances when he's paying child support to three kids parented by three different women?

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No. Not with that close spacing. If the kids were 22, 15, and 8, maybe.

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Anonymous wrote:No he didn't marry any of them. Do I tell him the reason I'm not interested anymore? I feel like a jerk

Why do u feel like a jerk telling him the truth? Part of the consequences of stupid, reckless behavior like this is losing the interest of sane, great gals like you he will never grow up if he doesn't own this

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You need counseling!

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Hell no. How does he have any $ left?

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No, for a couple reasons. #1- do you want kids? I'd think a guy with 3 kids already may not be interested in having more or more than 1 at most! #2 we all make mistakes, but 3 accidents in a row- those ages are really close together! Did he not learn anything after the first or even second child??? #3 child support he's paying- he's probably broke. Like dating a guy with atrocious credit, this would impact your life (at least for the next 9 years until the youngest turns 18....) #4 I would not sign up for this level of complication, too many other fish in the sea

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Anonymous wrote:No. Not with that close spacing. If the kids were 22, 15, and 8, maybe.

+1. He had 3 mo old babies and was running off with other women. Twice.

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Maybe he said that to scare you off.