Would you date a man with three different "baby mamas"

[Anonymous]

So I met a guy recently and we hit it off. I'm 25, no children, and he's 31 and has three children ages 11, 12, and 13 from 3 different moms. I don't necesarily have a problem with it but it's got me thinking. He said he's made a lot of mistakes but he loves his kids and they have made him a better person. I think my parents would be very disappointed. What are your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

The fact that you are even asking if this is a good idea proves that you are dumb enough to be candidate for Baby Mama #4.

[Anonymous]

No way.

[Anonymous]

Nope.

[Anonymous]

Hell no.

[Anonymous]

Hahahahahaha no

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Op here, that's what my gut is telling me. Kind of sad since we have been getting along really well. Oh well

[Anonymous]

Hell to the no!! Did he marry any of them?

[Anonymous]

Good lord, no.

[Anonymous]

No he didn't marry any of them. Do I tell him the reason I'm not interested anymore? I feel like a jerk

[Anonymous]

he's obviously an alpha male - you are attracted to them. go for it op

[Anonymous]

Okay. Wait a minute. I would never go for this, because 25 is awfully young to contemplate 3 step kids, let alone 3 step kids with 3 different moms, which seems like a nightmare. But she said this guy was only 31. I hope all the hell to the no people on here never made a series of bad decisions before age 20. Didn't sleep with three different guys, whatever. I think the way he has dealt with this situation since then, the kind of parent he has become, whether he pays child support-- in other words, whether he grew up and took responsibility is what matters if you are asking about his character.

Op-- I am a mom of tweens and teens. And yes, I would be very concerned if by DD brought this guy home-- because his life is incredibly complicated-- or should be, if he is parenting properly. And I would hate for her to be saddled with all of that obligation at that point in her life. Harsh I know, but I would want her to focus on starting her own life and having her own kids, which could be very hard in the situation you're describing. Because if he has 3 kids, he should be paying for those three kids, and making them the priority in making plans-- not you. But I would not necessarily think he was a terrible person.

But if you stay with him, you birth control (and backup birth control) FFS.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that you are even asking if this is a good idea proves that you are dumb enough to be candidate for Baby Mama #4.

Bingo

[Anonymous]

Nope

I'm not helping any man play alimony and/or child support.