Would you date a man with three different "baby mamas"

[Anonymous]

Oh and my parents would kick my ass for bringing a man like this home but I'm not stupid enough to do it either.

[Anonymous]

No way, couldn't imagine the child support for that and why did he burn through so many women. I'd worry about the entire back story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh and my parents would kick my ass for bringing a man like this home but I'm not stupid enough to do it either.

My parents would assume I was pulling a prank on them if I brought that kind of guy home. They know that pigs would have to fly before I would date that kind of loser

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So I met a guy recently and we hit it off. I'm 25, no children, and he's 31 and has three children ages 11, 12, and 13 from 3 different moms. I don't necesarily have a problem with it but it's got me thinking. He said he's made a lot of mistakes but he loves his kids and they have made him a better person. I think my parents would be very disappointed. What are your thoughts?

He might be wonderful OP but what are the odds that all three of the other women in his life will be? Unless he has a golden dick or bank account he isn't worth the trouble.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like his life was complicated when he was 18-20. He is 31 now. How is his life today?

[Anonymous]

You can do better. You're too young and have too many options. This guy needs to date someone with kids already who isn't interested in more. I get that he was younger but 3 moms means he just needs to stop having kids. 3 kids in different households?? I'm his age with one child and would run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Wait a minute. I would never go for this, because 25 is awfully young to contemplate 3 step kids, let alone 3 step kids with 3 different moms, which seems like a nightmare. But she said this guy was only 31. I hope all the hell to the no people on here never made a series of bad decisions before age 20. Didn't sleep with three different guys, whatever. I think the way he has dealt with this situation since then, the kind of parent he has become, whether he pays child support-- in other words, whether he grew up and took responsibility is what matters if you are asking about his character.

Op-- I am a mom of tweens and teens. And yes, I would be very concerned if by DD brought this guy home-- because his life is incredibly complicated-- or should be, if he is parenting properly. And I would hate for her to be saddled with all of that obligation at that point in her life. Harsh I know, but I would want her to focus on starting her own life and having her own kids, which could be very hard in the situation you're describing. Because if he has 3 kids, he should be paying for those three kids, and making them the priority in making plans-- not you. But I would not necessarily think he was a terrible person.

But if you stay with him, you birth control (and backup birth control) FFS.

Well said.
Of course he's a charmer, OP. That's how he got the other 3 to hook up with him.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I'd run the other way. Can you imagine how much drama this man must have in his life?

[Anonymous]

Helllllll no.

[Anonymous]

He needs to wrap it up.

[Anonymous]

What a mess of a life, sadly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So I met a guy recently and we hit it off. I'm 25, no children, and he's 31 and has three children ages 11, 12, and 13 from 3 different moms. I don't necesarily have a problem with it but it's got me thinking. He said he's made a lot of mistakes but he loves his kids and they have made him a better person. I think my parents would be very disappointed. What are your thoughts?

He might be wonderful OP but what are the odds that all three of the other women in his life will be? Unless he has a golden dick or bank account he isn't worth the trouble.

Even then... NO, OP.

[Anonymous]

Imagine all the child support he has to pay. And all the time he has to split between the kids, if he bothers seeing them.

[Anonymous]

In the best of all possible worlds, meaning he is totally serious about his obligations and responsible and taking fatherhood as it should be -- children come first, he would have zero time for you on the weekends. So why would you date him? Why would he be dating at all?

[Anonymous]

Condoms are not his thing. Beware an STD.